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AIBU to be so upset with my parents?

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amiactuallybeingunreasonable · 03/08/2021 20:50

My parents have been very paranoid and scared about covid all the way through. Now they are both double jabbed, they are back to enjoying life as normal.

They saw a family member yesterday who has tested positive today.

They are staying away in a staffed holiday home by the coast at the moment, and have friends coming to stay with them Weds-Sunday. After news of the positive test, I expected that they would come home/cancel their friends but they have decided to stay on, and their friends have also said they are still going to come to stay. The staff are also apparently happy to stay working. They have restaurant bookings too but "will only be eating outside".

AIBU to think they are being totally irresponsible and selfish? Or am I being OTT?

OP posts:
Myalternate · 03/08/2021 21:00

Presumably, their friends have decided for themselves.

I don't understand why you think your parents are being totally irresponsible and selfish 🤔

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amiactuallybeingunreasonable · 03/08/2021 21:11

Because legally they should be self isolating, not putting their friends/the staff/people in restaurants at risk?!

Yes, their friends have decided to go regardless and tbh I think they are selfish too. Covid is one big chain reaction, and someone somewhere could be very seriously ill or worse because they didn't want to miss out on their holiday.

OP posts:
Imnothereforthedrama · 03/08/2021 21:21

Be more specific when you say’ saw a family member who tested positive’ . Was it close contact indoors for more than 15 minutes?

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amiactuallybeingunreasonable · 03/08/2021 21:32

They spent many hours in each other's company, some indoors and some outdoors, including sitting next to each other and cuddling/holding the person who has tested positive.

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Darbs76 · 03/08/2021 21:54

Yes they are being very selfish and breaking the law. Sadly they won’t be alone, British resorts will be full of people doing the same. It’s so selfish. How would they feel if one of the staff caught Covid and was seriously ill or died.

QueenStromba · 03/08/2021 22:06

I'm double jabbed and have been pretty damned sick for a month with mild case of covid.

Darbs76 · 03/08/2021 22:09

@QueenStromba - I’m just coming into week 3, again double jabbed and it’s considered a mild case but it’s been awful. I think the last 1.5 days the horrible virus feeling is beginning to lift a bit but that happened last week and then it was back with a vengeance. I keep reminding people, this virus is no joke.

Mum2jenny · 03/08/2021 22:09

People will chose to do what they want regardless of official guidance. Your only option is to avoid these individuals. Personally I’d make my own decision based on facts, people and my own risk acceptability.

OnTheBrink1 · 04/08/2021 00:51

You are being ott and in fact in 2 weeks the entire country (jabbed and under 18) will be perfectly allowed to do this.

IamEarthymama · 04/08/2021 01:40

QueenStromba

I have sent for a home PCR today as my dr thought that maybe the suspected sinusitis that has not responded to ABs, numerous sinus massages, Irrigation with a Netipot, steam inhalation and sinus meds might be the Delta variant instead.

I have felt absolutely dreadful and so guilty as I had all Sorts planned for work and grandchildren. I too am double jabbed and have Long Covid after having had Covid in April 2030.

OP sorry to hijack your thread.
I do think your parents are being irresponsible.

OP

lannistunut · 04/08/2021 01:48

I agree with you op, your parents are doing the wrong thing. Quite a few people do.

ChorleyFMcominginyourears · 04/08/2021 01:59

My double jabbed boss is currently in hospital with covid and is seriously ill (she's fit, healthy and in late 30's), its not a magic shield!

sunnymoo · 04/08/2021 02:28

I have a friend who is a nurse, and she said that there's a lot of doubled vaccinated in hospital, and I heard somewhere else it's over 60% of patients who are jabbed in hospital

SirYawnsAlot · 04/08/2021 05:10

The problem is many people think they are now safe because they've had the jab.

HungryHippo11 · 04/08/2021 05:21

@sunnymoo

I have a friend who is a nurse, and she said that there's a lot of doubled vaccinated in hospital, and I heard somewhere else it's over 60% of patients who are jabbed in hospital
Thats because a huge proportion of the population are double jabbed, including nearly all vulnerable people. If 100% of people have the jab, 100% of hospitalisation would be vaccinated people. The point is that the total number of people in hospital is far lower than it would be without vaccines. The graphic explains it nicely.
AIBU to be so upset with my parents?
Bobholll · 04/08/2021 07:25

To be fair OP, in two weeks time they wouldn’t be doing anything wrong. Close contact isolation is stopping on 16th. I don’t see why it’s any different now than then really!

Bobholll · 04/08/2021 07:28

@SirYawnsAlot - people ARE safe because of the jab. Those dying who are double vaccinated is a tiny, tiny amount. Yes, you can get covid & feel pretty shit for a week or so but we can all deal with illness, we have our whole lives. It’s unpleasant but then you get better & on you go with life.

Covid aint going anywhere. The quicker people stop being terrified of it, the better. Get jabbed, wash your hands, stay at home if you have symptoms & test positive. Simple.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/08/2021 07:31

“Covid aint going anywhere. The quicker people stop being terrified of it, the better. Get jabbed, wash your hands, stay at home if you have symptoms & test positive. Simple”

The point is that OP’s parents have tested positive but aren’t staying home. They’re on holiday mixing with others.

Odisia · 04/08/2021 07:34

There are always people on these posts who know of lots of people who are double jabbed but in hospital......

Lemons1571 · 04/08/2021 07:36

Can’t see an issue if they’re both double jabbed. Technically it’s still illegal but in what, 12 days, it will be perfectly legal. It would be different if they were doing this last January, but now?

oneglassandpuzzled · 04/08/2021 07:40

@MrsSkylerWhite

“Covid aint going anywhere. The quicker people stop being terrified of it, the better. Get jabbed, wash your hands, stay at home if you have symptoms & test positive. Simple”

The point is that OP’s parents have tested positive but aren’t staying home. They’re on holiday mixing with others.

They haven’t tested positive. Their contact has. I agree they shouldn’t be eating in restaurants, though.
bluelemming · 04/08/2021 07:40

@MrsSkylerWhite

“Covid aint going anywhere. The quicker people stop being terrified of it, the better. Get jabbed, wash your hands, stay at home if you have symptoms & test positive. Simple”

The point is that OP’s parents have tested positive but aren’t staying home. They’re on holiday mixing with others.

They haven't tested positive; a close contact has.
sadperson16 · 04/08/2021 07:49

I think they should crack on and enjoy it.

Holly60 · 04/08/2021 07:58

YANBU particularly because you say they were so cautious prior to getting their own jabs, but now they are ok, they don’t mind putting others at risk. I’ve seen this in my personal life and it’s really stuck in my craw.

I bet before they were jabbed they were doing a lot of hand wringing about people breaking rules and how irresponsible that was, and being very judgemental. Now they personally are safe, sod everyone else!

Reallybadidea · 04/08/2021 08:01

What they're doing will still be against the rules in 2 weeks because they'd be expected to have a negative pcr test in order to avoid self-isolation.

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