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Original poster

Worried about DD - advice please

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seasonalremarks · 28/06/2021 23:33

I am worried about my DD who is currently isolating alone in halls as all her flatmates have left. Someone tested positive and she has now also tested positive.

It feels wrong for her to be on her own. She wants to come home but we can't all isolate and be off work and school or do you think we should?

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Undertheoldlindentree · 29/06/2021 21:50

Once you have the positive test confirmed, don't you only isolate for 5 days because after that you're not infectious? I thought it was ontacts who hadve to isolate for 10 days (which gives time for it to develop if its going to). I'm sure I read something like that in the early days. If it's correct, you could probably go and get her 6 days after test date?

Even so, if she is getting seriously depressed, that's a bigger risk than covid imo and I'd work out a way to get her.

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seasonalremarks · 29/06/2021 21:56

@LilyPond2 No, I am not going to bring her home. It was the only option but that doesn't make me incredibly angry and frustrated with a Government who can leave vulnerable young adults in this situation.

We should be able to bring her home and test daily with no judgement or penalties. It is so wrong to treat our youth like this and they will remember how they were treated.

DD doesn't accept help very easily especially from strangers, she does find communication difficult.

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NutterflyEffect · 29/06/2021 21:59

Why is it wrong OP? Is there any reason she's particularly vunerable?

As I said if you are worried go stay with her. Seems a simple enough solution

floatingboater · 29/06/2021 22:05

I totally sympathise, I would want to fetch her too but as you can't take the time off work to isolate the whole household I guess you're scuppered.

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seasonalremarks · 29/06/2021 22:07

I really don't think she she wants her mum camping on her floor in halls. If that's even allowed?

I have other children to drop at school etc whilst DH and I shift swap.

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LilyPond2 · 29/06/2021 22:10

OP, the trouble with daily testing is that LFTs only pick up about 50% of positive cases, so you if your DD came home you could end up with a situation where you, your DH and your DC were out and about unwittingly spreading Covid. However, I certainly share your anger and frustration with the government. We wouldn't be in this situation if the government had introduced proper border controls and quarantine measures.

NutterflyEffect · 30/06/2021 11:04

If she's needs you to look after her then it seems a much better solution than a 10 hour round trip which will involve the entire family having 10 days off.

Buzzinwithbez · 30/06/2021 11:15

Op, usually I would be saying get her and if she was too ill to look after herself or I was concerned for her mental health I'd be there like a shot.
It complicates things that you'd all have to isolate if she came home.

Is she feeling very poorly? Has she got enough food etc... And the energy to make herself something?

lljkk · 30/06/2021 11:25

If she wasn't too shy to ask for it, what support could Uni provide?

Skyla2005 · 30/06/2021 11:44

@seasonalremarks

No I won't but she did beg me this morning to come and get her. She said she would sleep in a tent in the garden.

She seems a little better now. Sorry to hear about your DD too. I think she was generally worried about being ill on her own with Covid as for a couple of days she was quite ill.

If it was my daughter I would go and get her

TheGenealogist · 30/06/2021 11:45

That's appalling.

Even prisoners aren't left locked in, 24 hours a day, with no adult contact and no opportunity to get outside.

Poor, poor girl. In her situation I would be going to get her and bring her home, the rules can get fucked.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 30/06/2021 12:29

DD doesn't accept help very easily especially from strangers, she does find communication difficult.

Then I suspect the best thing you can do is to figure out how to support her with that or to facilitate her asking for the support she needs. Does she have enough food, would she ask if she didn’t.

From a mental health point of view, it’s 10 days and it’s a limited time. It is shit, and it's quite normal and expected to feel rubbish about that. That’s ok. But it does have an end point.
A care package is a great idea. If she’s not too ill, then I’d work on helping her make a plan for things to do each day as well. Maybe set a target for something she’d like to do over the next 10 days.

lljkk · 30/06/2021 15:00

Prisoners without covid or known contact history were locked in their cells for 23 hours/day. This went on for months

WeatherSystems · 30/06/2021 15:01

@lljkk

Prisoners without covid or known contact history were locked in their cells for 23 hours/day. This went on for months

It’s still ongoing. OP’s DD might be struggling but she in no bloody way as it as hard as prisoners have during this pandemic.

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