School Proms

[DinkyDaisy]

Just seeing if most school Proms been cancelled now.
My ds school not said so yet- but I have warned him to brace himself for disappointment. He is convinced his school will get round it. I am not so sure though know they will try their very best for year 11.
What is happening in other schools?
Thanks.

Ours has been rearranged for Monday 19th July so I imagine it will be cancelled the week before when parents have shelled out a fortune on expenses dresses and what not.

The venue has cancelled the prom, but the school is going to hold the prom in their sports field. They're appealing for various bits of equipment/marquee, etc.

@Rillington

We still haven't heard anything. My DD has a hair trial this evening so I need to know whether to cancel or not.

A hair trial for a school prom I’ve honestly heard it all now.

@SoSadAboutMyDad Not sure what's so shocking it's totally normal here.

[quote Rillington]@SoSadAboutMyDad Not sure what's so shocking it's totally normal here.[/quote]
Just seems to me that if parents didn’t facilitate making Proms such a big deal, such as organising hair trials then we would see fewer threads on how ‘devastated’ children were about them not going ahead or being scaled down. No one needs a hair trial for a Prom. I would go so far as to say no one needs to have their hair professionally done for one. The world has gone crazy. Sadly, it’s things like this which contribute to teenage girls being obsessed with their looks.

Well My DD doesn't want to go to prom with the same messy bun in a scrunchy she's had for school all year. I can't do hair. People tell me to look on YouTube. I've tried. I just can't do a French plait or neat bun, let alone combine the two. It's a bit like saying brides don't near their hair professionally done, or that anyone needs anything more than a buzz cut.

Ours is being held at school - not cancelled

Still not cancelled so far...
Also, being held at school.

All schools around us have cancelled prom. My DDs school have not mentioned it at all so I presume it’s going ahead. It’s been held at some posh golf club down the road so plenty of outdoor space if things change

Why don't they just change the date rather than cancel [puzzled]

I’ve treated my DD to a fancy do with my hairdresser.

She was offered a trial as part of the whole package but DD didn’t want to. She’s chosen what she wants off Pinterest and I’ve ordered her some little jewel things to go in it.

I can’t do hair for love nor money. Never have, I feel like I don’t have enough hands or fingers.

Her big sister is doing her make up and her dress was £40.

She’s had a shite year with one thing and another (not just COVID related) and looking forward to her prom and the chance to get dressed up and have fun with her friends before they all go their different ways.

One local school that was holding theirs on the premises has said it’s still happening. Single year group bubble.
One has pushed it back to the 19th and is crossing everything.
Transition events for year 6 are going ahead at the dc school as they are staying outside and in tutor groups of 25 kids plus tutor.
I guess it depends very much on the venues that are involved and how motivated the organisers are being with trying to change things, it’s much easier to just cancel.

DD's prom isn't cancelled yet but reading the thread I've warned her it's likely.

It's due to he held at a hotel which hosted the G7 at the weekend so I'm going to be annoyed if they do cancel it tbh.

You can't have events outside that encourage mingling over 30 so they can't go ahead. Or inside, 6 to a table no dancing

I will be interested in how ds prom is being done at school then as does seem to be going ahead. 3 course meal was to be involved I think...

Ours is going ahead.

But it was always outside and always on school grounds. So there was no reason to have to cancel.

I don't think indoor events off site will have a choice. Unless they argue it's a 'significant life event'. There seemed to be a grey area on what counted as those.

Well, bought a suit now.
Keeping labels on for now...
Fingers crossed ds stays isolation-free...
Prom outside in July, at school.

Hey guys,

To tell the truth I’m not a mum, neither am I an adult I’m a 16 year old boy, before you judge please can you listen to my story? I need advice from strong mothers like yourselves which might really be able to help me at the moment.

So I have been the victim of two years of bullying, emotional abuse and manipulation at my school, when I reported it the school did nothing and when I made a formal complaint about it, the school excluded me and said it was for my own good for complaining about them.

I’ve taken it all the way up to the ministry of education etc. However the latest incident occurred a couple weeks ago when after weeks of exams they suddenly just banned me from my own prom, without any explanation or warning. We as a family believe this was because of a formal complaint I made because I got bullied. We believe this is the schools way of trying to “show me who is boss”, and “getting angry” at me for complaining against them.

The problem is that there is no justification for their behaviour and making a formal complaint is my right, they can’t ban a student just because they don’t like them.

I’ve already made a formal complaint with a school governor about all the incidents including the banning from my prom, which have occurred. However I’m not sure what’s going to happen, and how effective a formal complaint will be.

I also have reason to believe that certain teachers and pupils might be stalking me, and there is a bigger plot going on at my school, and bigger scandals which teachers at the high level at my school are involved in.

If anyone has any advice or if they were in a similar situation, would they like to explain how they got through it, what steps to take etc?

Hope you all have a wonderful day! :)

Goodness Luca. I am not sure what to advise.
For the Prom, I hope the governor can help. Make sure goes to the Chair of governors.
Are you sure you want to go to the Prom?
What is your next step? Are you changing schools/ going to college?
It sounds like you need a fresh start.
I am sorry you are going through such a stressful time.

I’ve gotten a governor involved and the chair of governors is monitoring the situation. We’ve also contacted probably one of the best education lawyers in Britain to help us.

The prom has already been and although it was very distressing for me I didn’t go because the school forced me not to go.

I cried a lot over the whole situation and the worst part is that the school defended their actions without even apologising. Here’s where it gets even more twisted they waited until after I bought a suit etc to tell me I couldn’t come. They also made me part of the prom committee. Therefore I think they planned this in some sort of sick attempt to hurt me.

As it’s a private school when my parents complained the headmistress said she doesn’t answer to the law.

As a matter of fact I am moving to a nearby college for years 12 and 13 (I am currently finishing up year 11). I hope to make many new friends at my new college and I pray to God the situation gets better :)

Luca, I completely understand why you were so upset about the Prom.
I know, that if my son cannot go to his for any reason, he will be gutted and probably cry.
With your suit, hopefully, it will be of use for something else.
With your future- Luca, it sounds good!
A new college and a fresh start!
I hope you enjoy the summer and can put this distressing experience behind you.
You are 16. You have the whole world in front of you!
I'm wishing you the very best of luck.
Again, try and enjoy your summer, breathe and relax!

Cancelled here.

Last year all proms cancelled.....dd left school with one and half day notice in the March and that was it....other than to 'single file' socially distanced return to school to pick up results envelope in August,
and then leave school immediately. They promised to do 'an ending of sorts' this year for them but that's before this pandemic just went on and on and two school years affected.