Babies & relatives that won’t get vaccinated

[Onthegrapevine]

DP and I have a 1 year old, both of us are fully vaccinated.

Each of us have adult siblings refusing the vaccine. Some more stubborn than others. We don’t talk about it with them, but it is really worrying me.

Since my 1 year old can’t have a vaccine, I feel it’s on the adults to keep him safe. I want to ban visits but that seems unreasonable and it would mean family members who cohabit with those refusing the vaccine also missing out on quality time.

Just looking to hear from others in similar situations.

[Remmy123]

@Onthegrapevine unless you are planning on keeping your child at home, so not shops, no holidays, nothing then you are being totally unreasonable.

What do you think will happen to your baby if he caught it? Nothing.

You are being precious. You are at risk of alienating your child from society with this ridiculous attitude.

[MondayYogurt]

Your child, your feelings, you can lay whatever boundaries you feel fit.

Who cares if other people think it's ridiculous. They have the right to think what they want and you have the right to care for your child as you see fit.

That's how living in a free country works.

[Onthegrapevine]

@XenoBitch You’re missing the point.

It’s always been a risk, but now there is something that can drastically reduce that risk and our own family are refusing to do it. I find it incredibly selfish.

[XenoBitch]

[quote Onthegrapevine]@XenoBitch You’re missing the point.

It’s always been a risk, but now there is something that can drastically reduce that risk and our own family are refusing to do it. I find it incredibly selfish.[/quote]
What is your rationale for banning people who happen to live with someone who has not had the vaccine?

[NBFJ364N]

you were asking about getting your kid into child modelling the other day....would you then be insisting on every photographer and agent being vaccinated too?

[BeachWaves2]

Oh get over it 🙄

[User129867588]

Talk about living in fear!! So sad what this has done to people.

Worrying about some highly unlikely scenario will do more harm than catching covid. Just relax and enjoy your life

[Onthegrapevine]

@XenoBitch Well, I haven’t done that. Like I said, it’s how I feel, not what I’ve done.

[RocheLobe]

[quote Onthegrapevine]@RocheLobe are you genuinely not concerned about what effect covid could have on your child?[/quote]
It’s not my top concern, no. Which isn’t to say I don’t worry at all, just that in terms of the balance of risks covid is low down the scale compared to other things for my children. My older child was hospitalised because of RSV, for example.

Is covid the only concern you have for your 1yo?

[RolloTomassi]

Nothing in life is zero risk. This risk is minimal, and it is good for your child to see their family, vaccinated or not.

If you think your child is better off estranged from their family, but at least you've cut out some covid risk, that's your choice but I find it bizarre.

[Onthegrapevine]

@RocheLobe Fair enough.

At the moment, yes. Naturally I feel very protective of him but he’s been very sick both times he’s caught a virus. I know it’s “normal” as they’ve got no immunity to anything at this age but I really do worry about what covid would be like for him.

[Clickbait]

You can still transmit Covid if you're vaccinated - it's much less likely though.

[SurelyNott]

Will you insists they all have their flu vaccine? Statistically flu is more of a danger in babies and young children than Covid. My 1 year old was in hospital for a week with it at the time.

Have you had your flu vaccine every year?

[RocheLobe]

Yes I have two toddlers and it is rotten when they are ill. The worst part of being a parent. I don’t want my children to catch any bugs, because many things can knock them for six when they are so small, and covid is just one of those things. But I can’t stop them catching things altogether, not without causing damage in other ways such as isolation and exposure to OCD behaviours. I’m not being flippant here.

[Onthegrapevine]

@SurelyNott Yes I have actually. As I said above, from age 2 children can have the flu spray so it’s not the same, is it?

[1940s]

Your child has more chance of dying in a car crash than visiting an unvaccinated relative. Are you avoiding car journeys?

[Onthegrapevine]

@RocheLobe True, and also the reason why I have been socialising him much more these days. It’s definitely an internal battle though, hence my post.

[IAmDaveTheSerialShagger]

Get a grip @Onthegrapevine I think jf only you knew just how many NHS staff have declined the vaccine as well!!

[NBFJ364N]

what does his dad think?

[RocheLobe]

If it’s an internal battle then you need to find a way to get past the idea that they are being selfish. By all means think their reasoning is daft, it may well be, but suggesting that people need to undertake a medical procedure (however small and easy you may perceive it to be) to demonstrate their consideration for your child is not reasonable

[Remmy123]

@Onthegrapevine it isn't selfish that they do not want to be vaccinated with somethhh thst is very new, they have every right to decide what they feel most comfortable with. They are not here to get vaccinated to protect yoir son.

You need some prospective here.

[FortniteBoysMum]

Do you stop people to check they had their mmr vaccine or meningitis whopping cough etc? If not they are probably more deadly to a child than covid. Far less children have contracted it.

[BertieBotts]

Well not right at this moment, but like I said there was a measles epidemic in 2019. And many countries are struggling with measles because covid efforts have delayed the measles reducing efforts. Not the UK as such, but rates could easily rise here again.

And for flu, OK they can be vaccinated at 2 but your child is 1?

[Onthegrapevine]

@FortniteBoysMum my child has had his childhood immunisations so he has protection against most of those!

I do get your point though.

[SurelyNott]

But your child isn’t 2, so it’s exactly the same. Will you be checking they’ve had their flu vaccine?