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Weddings ffs

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Sunshinesusan60 · 14/06/2021 07:38

I don't want to appear selfish. Throughout this pandemic I have followed rules. Our wedding was always planned for end of August this year, unlike so many people I haven't had to change and reschedule multiple times which I'm grateful for.

But now they are saying that restrictions are likely to go ahead for another 2-4 weeks after June 21st and my heart breaks for all those people who will miss out by a few days. At this stage even if there's a month delay it shouldn't affect us but I can see it potentially going on longer and it just takes all of the joy and excitement out of wedding planning. We have a contingency plan but our guest list would have to be slashed and our evening reception would have to be cancelled altogether. It would just ruin it.

How can the government justify large volumes of people drinking in beer gardens, hugging, shouting, but not allow unlimited weddings to restart? It's so shit for the industry and for couples who have waited so long only to be let down again.

It's like Christmas, dangling a carrot then taking it away at the last minute leaving everyone disappointed and dejected.

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everythingthelighttouches · 14/06/2021 07:41

I would just wait to see which restrictions are continued and which are dropped. It might not be all or nothing.
Flowers

jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 14/06/2021 07:41

I've read that restrictions will stay in place,except for weddings.
I hope this is announced for everyone who has a wedding planned

TheVampiresWife · 14/06/2021 07:43

I've just read that the restrictions on weddings will be lifted, though all the others will remain.

whatswithtodaytoday · 14/06/2021 07:44

I guess because in beer gardens you're unlikely to hug everyone there and mix groups constantly (although I appreciate this will be happening in some), whereas at weddings that's the entire point.

Anyway, they might loosen restrictions a bit and allow bigger weddings - we'll see.

firstimemamma · 14/06/2021 07:45

I hope you get what you want op. ThanksI know someone having a legal quickie this year and then the big traditional / party bit next year. It's an idea but obviously not for everyone.

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Sunshinesusan60 · 14/06/2021 07:49

@firstimemamma I think this is what we will have to do but I really hope it doesn't come to that. Everything is planned, just don't want to have to change it. I feel so bad for people who have had to reschedule so many times.

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vulpesfoxtrot · 14/06/2021 07:49

We're getting married at the beginning of July and I'm gutted.

But it's not the same as a beer garden, they're not comparable at all. We would be having friends and family from all over the country so I can absolutely see how they're superspreader events.

firstimemamma · 14/06/2021 07:56

@Sunshinesusan60 we got married at the start of this month and had a truly wonderful day. I don't think a lot of people realise it's possible to have such a lovely day this year. Lovely photos in a big beautiful garden, everyone hugging and gorgeous group photos of everyone stood shoulder to shoulder. Had a wonderful meal with good food, flower girls, confetti and lots of other lovely, normal things. It was perfect. It's possible to have a lovely wedding without having to wait but I appreciate you want different things out of a wedding to me. I hope it all works out one way or another.

Lovestonap · 14/06/2021 07:58

Wouldn't that be wonderful if weddings could go ahead? My friend did her legal bit last year but has been planning the big celebration for July this year. She is worried that if she needs to delay again guests won't find anywhere to stay as everywhere is pretty much booked in UK as people aren't travelling abroad. I hope today brings her peace and clarity one way or another.

Mrgrinch · 14/06/2021 08:13

I have a close family member who is meant to be getting married in 11 days and she doesn't even know if it can go ahead. The stress for her is unimaginable and has ruined something so special for her. I hope wedding restrictions are lifted.

MonsterMash2210 · 14/06/2021 08:16

The rumour is that restrictions on weddings and outside sporting events will be lifted, but everything else planned will remain restricted.

I guess we will have to wait and see.

Sleepyblueocean · 14/06/2021 08:58

Beer gardens are outside. A local sports club has a very large beer garden which was full during the England match but they had security protrolling making sure that everyone stayed at their table and those who didn't cooperate would have been thrown out. This couldn't happen at a wedding.

Frazzled2207 · 14/06/2021 09:12

I think there will be some easing of restricitons for weddings, I really hope so because I've heard of people postponing their weddings 4/5 times.
Is an absolutely shit time to be trying to get married, people I know who've done it have just gone ahead with very small groups as they couldn't bear the uncertainty any longer.
I really hope that you get some clarity today either way so can plan accordingly.
As rubbish at it is for those getting married spare a thought for the weddings industry - my parents work in it and it's pretty much on its death bed right now.

Frazzled2207 · 14/06/2021 09:13

[quote firstimemamma]@Sunshinesusan60 we got married at the start of this month and had a truly wonderful day. I don't think a lot of people realise it's possible to have such a lovely day this year. Lovely photos in a big beautiful garden, everyone hugging and gorgeous group photos of everyone stood shoulder to shoulder. Had a wonderful meal with good food, flower girls, confetti and lots of other lovely, normal things. It was perfect. It's possible to have a lovely wedding without having to wait but I appreciate you want different things out of a wedding to me. I hope it all works out one way or another. [/quote]
really pleased to hear, congratulations!

BarbaraofSeville · 14/06/2021 09:13

@whatswithtodaytoday

I guess because in beer gardens you're unlikely to hug everyone there and mix groups constantly (although I appreciate this will be happening in some), whereas at weddings that's the entire point.

Anyway, they might loosen restrictions a bit and allow bigger weddings - we'll see.

Exactly.

The problem with weddings is that you know pretty much everyone there so there will be lots of close contact, sitting together for meals, hugging and extended chatting.

The reality is that if one person has COVID at a wedding party, a large percentage of the party will catch it and there could be multiple serious illnesses and fatalities.

Of course, due to vaccinations, the risk is far lower than last year, but some single and double vaccinated people are still getting seriously ill. So if all the hundreds of thousands of weddings planned go ahead, within those gatherings, there are likely to be outbreaks. Just wait for the sad face articles in the papers in a couple of months time.

Chailatteplease · 14/06/2021 09:24

Mine is 11th July, our 3rd date. We only have 40 guests as it is, will be gutted if we have to reduce to 30.

PracticingPerson · 14/06/2021 09:46

What I am not happy with is the 'four weeks and then definitely open up' line which actually is just more of the same - the annoying, shit, frustrating and stressful truth is we don't know when it'll be done with. Johnson has made so many undeliverable promises - as if the lockdown could be guaranteed to be irreversible for example - if we had a really bad situation of course we would have to lockdown again.

Over promising all the time just makes things much more stressful when they have to be walked back.

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Sunshinesusan60 · 14/06/2021 10:09

Take the point about beer gardens being outside but some of the scenes I've seen over the weekend while the euros are on is far from safe and social distanced. People jumping all over each the, shouting, throwing beer and so on.

Not comparable to weddings maybe but it still stings to see it.

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PracticingPerson · 14/06/2021 10:20

@Sunshinesusan60

Take the point about beer gardens being outside but some of the scenes I've seen over the weekend while the euros are on is far from safe and social distanced. People jumping all over each the, shouting, throwing beer and so on.

Not comparable to weddings maybe but it still stings to see it.

I think if your wedding is outside then you have a point.
AramintaArrowsmith · 14/06/2021 10:29

Why not just wait and see before panicking? It's been widely reported that an exception will be made for weddings

Thewiseoneincognito · 14/06/2021 12:19

I suppose the question is would you be happy to hold a wedding given how fast the numbers are rising? I suspect a few people will be spooked by how quickly the situation is changing and could end up not attending large gatherings?

It’s a shit situation for those who had to cancel last year and could face the prospect of having to do so again this year. June weddings should be ok to a degree but Weddings booked for July, August and September could face problems as the wave takes hold.

firstimemamma · 14/06/2021 12:31

@Frazzled2207 thank you Smile

BareGrylls · 14/06/2021 12:34

[quote firstimemamma]@Sunshinesusan60 we got married at the start of this month and had a truly wonderful day. I don't think a lot of people realise it's possible to have such a lovely day this year. Lovely photos in a big beautiful garden, everyone hugging and gorgeous group photos of everyone stood shoulder to shoulder. Had a wonderful meal with good food, flower girls, confetti and lots of other lovely, normal things. It was perfect. It's possible to have a lovely wedding without having to wait but I appreciate you want different things out of a wedding to me. I hope it all works out one way or another. [/quote]
This.
You can get married and you can have a lovely day. No-one is prevented from getting married, it's just the scale of it.

PrincessNutNuts · 14/06/2021 12:44

We are RSVPed to a wedding on July 18th.

I can't imagine we'd be in the first 30 though. Two sets of parents, grandparents and closest friend groups must get close to 20 at least.

One of the other weddings we are expected at is going to get a special licence and just get married as soon as they can. They plan to cancel the big do as soon as the Prime Minister announces the restrictions that make it impossible.

They've re-arranged twice already. They want to get married and get pregnant and get on with their lives. And have a big family party for the first anniversary maybe?

Unsure33 · 14/06/2021 12:51

Just wait and see. I think also if weddings are allowed to go ahead you should ask all guests to do a lateral flow test because once the drink flows families will hug and kiss that’s the problem.

I will never forget a man in the first wave seriously ill in hospital after attending his daughters wedding and he was very upset as his wife was in the hospital as well and he did not know where or how bad she was.