Weddings ffs

[Sunshinesusan60]

I don't want to appear selfish. Throughout this pandemic I have followed rules. Our wedding was always planned for end of August this year, unlike so many people I haven't had to change and reschedule multiple times which I'm grateful for.

But now they are saying that restrictions are likely to go ahead for another 2-4 weeks after June 21st and my heart breaks for all those people who will miss out by a few days. At this stage even if there's a month delay it shouldn't affect us but I can see it potentially going on longer and it just takes all of the joy and excitement out of wedding planning. We have a contingency plan but our guest list would have to be slashed and our evening reception would have to be cancelled altogether. It would just ruin it.

How can the government justify large volumes of people drinking in beer gardens, hugging, shouting, but not allow unlimited weddings to restart? It's so shit for the industry and for couples who have waited so long only to be let down again.

It's like Christmas, dangling a carrot then taking it away at the last minute leaving everyone disappointed and dejected.

@lochelant as in if a positive case the venue would have to close for a deep clean or period of time afterwards?

@PacifyLulu I've lost people from covid and I've given birth in this shitstorm - we're all suffering at this point, it's not a competition about whose life was more affected by this.

But if we can have thousands of people in sports venues, have shops and hospitality open and all the rest of it, then I will be having people dancing at my wedding.

@PacifyLulu

One of the most important people in my world died because of covid and I couldn’t say goodbye or go the funeral.

But yeah - the lack of dancing is a real pain.

I'm sorry for you loss.

But that has nothing to do with what happening now. As I said up thread my relative is dying from cancer and is wanting to have the wedding she wants before it's too late. But according to your logic no one can move on to a happy life.

We can't keep using Covid as an excuse for every thing.

I really sympathise but weddings are super spreading events and sweaty dandefloors would surely spread a virus if someone was infected?

As far as guidance to pubs goes, marquees count as additional indoors space, even with sides up. So although you can ask your venue, I think it's a long shot.

Outdoors means outdoors, not in a temporary structure.

I think it's the death knell for separate guest lists for different times of day - unless of course you move your main meal to the evening, so that the events of the day are spaced across the different groups s of attendees

@Clutterbugsmum using covid as an excuse?
Do you really think the government’s aim is to stop people having a good time so they’re using covid as an excuse?

And no, my logic doesn’t mean we can’t move on to happy lives but it does mean that people shouldn’t moan and wail about the insignificant little things.

weddings aren't insignificant things - they are major life events.

@PacifyLulu you are being ridiculous. Weddings are not insignificant.

Wedding ceremonies are significant of course. The number of guests and the dancing? No, not so much.

I say this from a place of hurt and bitterness about covid (the virus itself, not anything else). I struggle with how much I’ve lost and what I still might lose.

@PacifyLulu it’s significant to me. I’ve already postponed twice and chose 10th July because I knew the vulnerable will be vaccinated by then and there should be no reason to continue restrictions.
COVID has affected my life significantly. I’ve also experienced loss. I still wanted to have a day I could enjoy and watch my guests have a good time too. Frankly, we deserve it. Just because you’ve been affected doesn’t give you the right to downplay others experiences.

Why do you “deserve” to increase the risk to others or break guidelines/ regulations/ laws? Suffering doesn’t earn any of us the right to do that.

I’ll bow out now.

Enjoy the wedding chat everyone.

@PacifyLulu

Why do you “deserve” to increase the risk to others or break guidelines/ regulations/ laws? Suffering doesn’t earn any of us the right to do that.

Increase the risk to who exactly? The vulnerable and elderly have all been vaccinated and if they haven’t, then they take their own risk at their own choice. Stop projecting your anger onto people who don’t deserve it.

@PacifyLulu

Why do you “deserve” to increase the risk to others or break guidelines/ regulations/ laws? Suffering doesn’t earn any of us the right to do that.

I agree. Not popular I know, but I am with you on the scale of events

[quote Chailatteplease]@PacifyLulu it’s significant to me. I’ve already postponed twice and chose 10th July because I knew the vulnerable will be vaccinated by then and there should be no reason to continue restrictions.
COVID has affected my life significantly. I’ve also experienced loss. I still wanted to have a day I could enjoy and watch my guests have a good time too. Frankly, we deserve it. Just because you’ve been affected doesn’t give you the right to downplay others experiences.[/quote]
Hmm, this has a LOT of entitlement running through it. I'm disappointed about weddings as it formed a lot of my partner's work so we have lost income.

However, public health issues don't run to a timetable and we all deserve things, your arguments just don't stand up.

@PracticingPerson entitlement because I wanted people to be able to dance and talk to each other at my wedding, the majority of whom have been double vaccinated (myself included). Sure

Neither do your arguments stand up, you’ve not provided a single point against any of mine.

Your partner losing income irrelevant. We’ve all had other issues than weddings relating to this pandemic. Doesn’t give you the right to invalidate people’s disappointment.

But just so you know, I’ve postponed twice and never complained at all those times. There’s no legitimate reason for there to still be restrictions on my wedding date of only 36 guests (again, most of which are DOUBLE VACCINATED!)

Come back when you have a decent argument 🙄

How about being “double vaccinated” doesn’t give anywhere near full immunity. Least of all against the delta variant. Neither does it people carrying and spreading the virus to others who may not be vaccinated.

[quote Chailatteplease]@PracticingPerson entitlement because I wanted people to be able to dance and talk to each other at my wedding, the majority of whom have been double vaccinated (myself included). Sure

Neither do your arguments stand up, you’ve not provided a single point against any of mine.

Your partner losing income irrelevant. We’ve all had other issues than weddings relating to this pandemic. Doesn’t give you the right to invalidate people’s disappointment.

But just so you know, I’ve postponed twice and never complained at all those times. There’s no legitimate reason for there to still be restrictions on my wedding date of only 36 guests (again, most of which are DOUBLE VACCINATED!)

Come back when you have a decent argument 🙄[/quote]
It was the phrase 'I deserve it' - no one deserves or doesn't deserve anything, life doesn't work that way. We don't get what we deserve, we get what we get.

I understand your disappointment, I'm not invalidating it. But you are wrong in terms of public health.