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Would friends breaching restrictions stop/affect your friendship?

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Summerhere123 · 20/05/2021 15:37

Not asking whether you agree with them breaking restrictions or not I wish to know that if you don’t agree, would it affect or stop your friendship.
So, eg if 3 of your friends were travelling to a lower tier area when not supposed to, in order that they can have an overnight break, and they were fairly recent friendships, would it make you rethink the friendship. Basically folk I’ve known since school/ college etc wouldn’t do this, but those who are breaching restrictions are friendships from very recent years. I think it’s selfish as they could unknowingly be spreading the virus. It’s made me view them differently. Thanks

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Mojoj · 20/05/2021 22:27

No. I'd mind my own business.

Katya213 · 20/05/2021 22:28

A school mum friend sent her sons to school with high temperatures and coughs, never got them tested and played dumb to it all. I have changed the way I see her now, not because the fear of catching it but just the sheer couldnt care less attitude.

FindingMeno · 20/05/2021 22:29

No. Not any more.

ceeveebee · 20/05/2021 22:33

I assume OP is in Scotland where Glasgow and Moray are in tier 3, the rest of the country in tier 2?

WilyKitWilyKat · 20/05/2021 22:40

It would depend on the circumstances. If it was a minor, sensible breach - e.g. meeting someone you shouldn’t indoors for a brew, breaking the rule of six outdoors, etc - then no. If it was more serious - e.g. they were symptomatic, got tested and then went to work or down the pub before getting the results, possibly. Would also depend on how close the friendship was.

DazzlingHaze · 20/05/2021 22:45

Nope, wouldn't bother me at all. I'm in Glasgow and don't know anyone still sticking to the rules and I don't blame them. I think it's outrageous that we've had the easing of restrictions paused again. We haven't been able to do pretty much anything here since what... October?? The most vulnerable groups and then some have been vaccinated, unless hospitals are near crisis again we need to get on with life now.

It's also pointless considering all of the other nearby areas have gone down to level 2. My boyfriend is in East Kilbride and as we're in an extended household I'm allowed to go there so I assume I can go to the pubs etc while I'm there. I will be one of many who is permitted to travel to other areas so I don't see how it will make much difference in terms of keeping cases in Glasgow.

TheKeatingFive · 20/05/2021 23:02

it’s taken self sacrifice for the public good to save lives. This only works if everyone does their bit.

Ok then. Just how long do you think I should be kept from my elderly parents who are certainly not going to live forever? Does doing ‘my bit’ involve sacrificing precious last months/years with them? Because let me tell you, it’s not a sacrifice I’m making any further.

WouldBeGood · 20/05/2021 23:03

No more sacrifices here. Life’s too short.

user1487194234 · 21/05/2021 06:15

No I wouldn’t judge them in the first place

Sadieeloise5687 · 21/05/2021 07:11

Katie - you are allowed to see people now so no one needs to not see elderly relatives etc.

Lalliebelle · 21/05/2021 07:16

No it wouldn't stop me from being friends with someone. Everyone is doing the best they can.

funnycola · 21/05/2021 07:19

It definitely would not stop me being friends with someone at all. Each to their own. I'm not a judgemental person.

ineedaholidaynow · 21/05/2021 07:27

I’m assuming it’s people making their own risk assessment that’s brought the Indian variant into this country and spread it. They probably assumed they didn’t have COVID either, but unfortunately they did.

110APiccadilly · 21/05/2021 07:28

The only case where I'm struggling to see them in the same way is someone who posted on Facebook about the importance of obeying the rules and followed it up by breaking them the next day.

PenguinBarnotBird · 21/05/2021 07:45

@TheKeatingFive

it’s taken self sacrifice for the public good to save lives. This only works if everyone does their bit.

But if everyone had done their bit in the first place we wouldn’t be in a position of having to make sacrifices now 🤷‍♀️

Abraxan · 21/05/2021 07:45

No, especially not at this stage.

I am not convinced tier systems are the way forward at this point.

I'm double vaccinated and have had covid. Dh is double vaccinated. If we see other people who may have broken the rules then it's not likely to be a risk to either of us these days.

backaftera2yearbreak · 21/05/2021 07:45

We are still in tiers in Scotland. Wee nippy is enjoying wielding her power once again. I will be ignoring her now. Her voice makes me ill for a start. But I will travel to Glasgow tomorrow to stay overnight with my friend as planned. She lives alone. She’s picking me up. We won’t be going out. Made my own risk assessment 🤷‍♀️

Stuffin · 21/05/2021 07:48

But if everyone had done their bit in the first place we wouldn’t be in a position of having to make sacrifices now

I supported the lockdown to stop the NHS being overwhelmed. I don't support it for zero covid especially when the vulnerable and elderly are vaccinated. So no I don't think we should be making any sacrifices now.

TheKeatingFive · 21/05/2021 07:49

But if everyone had done their bit in the first place we wouldn’t be in a position of having to make sacrifices now

Compliance in lockdown 1 was very high. The numerous mistakes made by government after that were not the ordinary persons fault. Lockdown should never have become a default response. That’s the bottom line.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 21/05/2021 07:49

Nope but if one of my friends decided they weren’t going to have the vaccine then I’m not sure I could be friends with them anymore (other than if it was because of medical reasons)

NeedNewKnees · 21/05/2021 07:51

I might avoid them for my own sake if I felt they’d been in risky situations, but I wouldn’t fall out with them.

The past 14 months have been very hard on people; not my place to judge how my friends coped.

RhubarbCustardy · 21/05/2021 08:33

I've lost any respect I had for a friend who from the outset decided they wouldn't follow the rules, we haven't spoken since. Somebody that I thought was intelligent but now regard as an idiot.

In general, for me it depends on the situation and why/how they broke the rules. Keep away from me if you're putting others at risk. I don't want to be included in your selfish circle of having my life put at risk. I only want to be friends with people that care about others.

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 21/05/2021 09:08

I may well judge the fuck out of them depending on what rules, how ‘bad’ etc and it may well be a subject we have to avoid moving forward but I wouldn’t break off a friendship with them

RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 21/05/2021 09:09

Oh should have sadi

I agree with some of the other posters in that it might affect my dealings with them til we all had vaccines etc

Astressedmumoftwo · 21/05/2021 09:11

No.

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