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Pity party thread. What were you looking forward to that might not happen now?

50 replies

Workyticket · 15/05/2021 12:37

We're meant to be getting married in July. It's our 3rd date. We've been up and down for over a year and finally felt positive on Monday.

Now it's not looking likely again. I'm so upset but can't really talk about it because everyone is sacrificing and being disappointing etc and I don't want to sound like a bridezilla.

Come and have a pity party with me. I'll bring the gin and hand sanitiser!

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pinkpanther84 · 15/05/2021 12:48

Also meant to be getting married in July, 4th date. Was feeling quite optimistic and excited a week ago but now starting to worry it won't be going ahead again

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Workyticket · 15/05/2021 12:50

It's shit isn't it? Feels indulgent moaning about it in real life as others are missing out on things too.

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CornishYarg · 15/05/2021 13:04

Finally being able to play my (indoor) sport again

PlantDoctor · 15/05/2021 13:13

I really feel for you guys trying to organise a wedding during this pandemic Flowers You definitely have the right to have a moan!

Puttingouthefirewithgasoline · 15/05/2021 13:21

I am saying holiday op, desperate for holiday but, your wedding trumps that you poor thing.. It may slip through any further restrictions!! Finger crossed for you.

MyFloorIsLava · 15/05/2021 13:22

DD's birthday party. Hall and bouncy castle are booked. But wedding trumps party. It all feels miserable again suddenly.

Lostinacloud · 15/05/2021 13:25

I agree, those trying to organise a wedding amongst all this have my full support of their right to moan.

For me it’s the realisation that I won’t be able to see any of my family still because they’re in the UK and I’m in a nearby European country that now seems unlikely to be made green by Boris and his gang of doommongering fun suckers. We moved last summer so I managed to see them for 2 days on the way through but that’s it since February 2020 Sad

Passthesauce · 15/05/2021 13:26

DD2's end of year 6 celebrations. We were all really hopeful that they'd get their residential, production, some sort of assembly & celebration but it's in the balance now. Residential is meant to take place in the week of 21 June and they have only just started to look forward to it. They've lost out on so much this past year and it's yet another rite of passage they won't get back if it doesn't happen. Like you, I don't want to moan, OP, as it's all about context and the poor souls in last year's Y6 only made it back in for one day after the schools closed in March, without the rest of the school to wave them off.

Let's keep our fingers crossed - I really hope you get your special day in July (and that the weather improves for you!!!)

Dishwasheverything · 15/05/2021 13:33

I'm due my second around 21st June. I was looking forward to the baby classes and groups starting up again, ordinary indoor interaction, basically giving him the same totally normal baby experience that I gave DS1. I've had friends have babies in the past year or so and their mat leave time has been so awful compared to how it should be. Sad

DrRamsesEmerson · 15/05/2021 13:35

DD getting back to her Saturday music school. Was meant to restart properly in September after a shit four terms on Zoom. Instead it’s going to go bust. I don’t think children’s music is going to come back for a very long time- too late for DD.

DrRamsesEmerson · 15/05/2021 13:37

And yes, all the Year 6 leavers’ stuff too. Though to be honest I’d already written that off, I was pinning my hopes on her having a good, real normal start to year 7. Clearly that isn’t going to happen either.

Frequentflier · 15/05/2021 13:39

Seeing my mother or grandmom in their last moments.

DrRamsesEmerson · 15/05/2021 13:40

Flowers, @Frequentflier.

Schulte · 15/05/2021 13:58

I booked a trip to Germany yesterday to see my very old mum for the first time in over a year. And perhaps for the last time. I’m terrified that I may not be able to go.

KatChocolate · 15/05/2021 13:59

Our little break to London in August might be scuppered!

Passthesauce · 15/05/2021 14:29

@Frequentflier  I hope you are able to spend some time together.

@DrRamsesEmerson we'd not dared to plan anything but it was starting to look so positive and I know school were feeling optimistic. Transition days were due to be going ahead if restrictions eased and it would have given her a real boost - we are fortunate that she saw the school in Y5 but it would really help if she could see it again.

It's also her only year at primary with her much loved littler brother and I was hoping for an end to bubbles so they could at least go in together a few times and do stuff other than wave at each other from afar!

I think what's so galling is that we had been really careful to manage expectations to date. That and the fact that cases in our district are only 6 per 100000, 12 in the county.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 15/05/2021 14:31

Trip to London in July. DS having a birthday party in June.

PuzzledObserver · 15/05/2021 14:34

Singing in church. Not that they have said we would be able to after June 21st, but we were hoping.

user68901 · 15/05/2021 17:47

my daughter's year group has had no 18th birthday parties all year and her 18th in july now looks precarious. My year group also all 50 this year so none of those either but feel way more sorry for the teens.

Wakemeuuuup · 15/05/2021 17:50

My son's yr11 prom. Should be at the beg of July but not looking likely now

ChocOrange1 · 15/05/2021 17:54

None of mine compare to a wedding but...

  • we have paid to do music classes with my baby this term. They're crap because we have to wear masks, can't sing, have to stay in one place etc. I'm holding on because I hope they'll get more normal over the next few weeks but its starting to feel like money down the drain at the moment.
  • my daughter is starting primary in September and I really want it to be normal for her.
  • I run a Brownie unit and we have just started meeting face to face again and I really don't want to go back to zoom. Plus I've organised some great trips and events for the summer term which may be in jeopardy
PomRuns · 15/05/2021 17:57

A holiday but I am more sorry for the posters missing more important things.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 15/05/2021 18:11

Sorry op, it is really rubbish.

For me it is DS' drama classes. They haven't restarted f2f and they are saying December...

Mychitchatdays · 15/05/2021 18:25

My graduation, I've been working hard for five years to be told graduation will be online. It's just not the same.

Sittinonthesand · 15/05/2021 18:28

DDs end of year 6 play, trip and y7 induction day. They’ve missed so many trips, their residential, sports day - never even been to seen their secondary schools, no sleepovers or parties. She’ll be so upset if it’s all taken away again - and she’s old enough to realise that these are experiences that the just won’t get to do rather than will be able to do later. Your wedding delay is shitty too op but at least you know it’s probably a delay or scaling back rather than a never happening at all.

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