Page 2 | Pity party thread. What were you looking forward to that might not happen now?

DuckonaBike · 15/05/2021 18:37

Sympathy to everyone planning weddings, you poor things!

Really miss visiting France. We have a house there that we haven’t seen since last summer and we were very lucky to make it then. I know it’s not exactly a tragedy in the grand scheme of things, but we miss it!

Also DD in year 6 - not sure how much of the leaving activities she will get. She seems remarkably philosophical.

zzzebra · 15/05/2021 18:38

Not having the risk of my partner getting turned away when I go into labour.

Tiktokersmiracle · 15/05/2021 18:42

@Workyticket

We're meant to be getting married in July. It's our 3rd date. We've been up and down for over a year and finally felt positive on Monday.

Now it's not looking likely again. I'm so upset but can't really talk about it because everyone is sacrificing and being disappointing etc and I don't want to sound like a bridezilla.

Come and have a pity party with me. I'll bring the gin and hand sanitiser!

Yep Our wedding. Second time we've tried. We are June 26th

And to think, I allowed myself to get excited a month ago.
What a twat I was

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Workyticket · 15/05/2021 18:48

I was hopeful on Monday - what a difference a few days makes. I've had a little cry today. First time since we cancelled the first wedding we booked.

I'm cross with my partner unreasonably because he's doing the 'there's plenty of time' thing that every well meaning person says and It's irritating the fuck out of me. I just wanted to be sad for a few minutes with someone who feels the same.

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beardeddragon174 · 15/05/2021 18:55

I'm so sorry for everyone here missing things, especially weddings and last moments with family.

I'm hoping to go to London end of June for a spa/foodie weekend with one of my best friends - this is the 4th date we've booked....

neverregret · 15/05/2021 19:33

@Dishwasheverything

I'm due my second around 21st June. I was looking forward to the baby classes and groups starting up again, ordinary indoor interaction, basically giving him the same totally normal baby experience that I gave DS1. I've had friends have babies in the past year or so and their mat leave time has been so awful compared to how it should be.

@Dishwasheverything I've been at baby classes, everything is running, with some changes, but even toddler groups have started up with pre booking. Things generally stop over the summer hols, so it should be all sorted by September for your new addition, congrats.

neverregret · 15/05/2021 19:36

I was hoping to have a holiday in June abroad ( that's dependant on green status anyway, so not hopeful ) and a class birthday party for DS in mid July.

EssentialHummus · 15/05/2021 19:42

Minor compared to a lot of these but I really, really can’t anymore with masks. I’m not a whingy or easily irritated person generally but I still haven’t found a mask that I don’t have to near-continuously adjust (perhaps it’s my giant nose ), and now that I’m pregnant I often feel short of breath wearing them. I would really like to be inching closer to the day they can go in the bin.

loulouljh · 15/05/2021 19:44

That sense would prevail finally again. Feel so sorry for those with weddings potentially being delayed yet again.

MrsXx4 · 15/05/2021 20:24

What is the latest on wedding rules? I stopped watching the updates as too depressing! I’ve just googled, is it back to just 15 guests again? We have a wedding to attend beginning of July but if the numbers are down again then I’ll be off the invite list.

I am also due to give birth in July and really hoping my husband can be with me the entire duration.

Tiktokersmiracle · 15/05/2021 21:15

@MrsXx4

What is the latest on wedding rules? I stopped watching the updates as too depressing! I’ve just googled, is it back to just 15 guests again? We have a wedding to attend beginning of July but if the numbers are down again then I’ll be off the invite list.

I am also due to give birth in July and really hoping my husband can be with me the entire duration.

That's the problem, we just don't know

Everyone else seems to get clear guidance and explanation. We get naff all.

Hitched I think it was (a Bride site) actually put a question request in this week, asking why weddings will only be 30 from Monday but funerals have just had number restrictions lifted.
They didn't get even an acknowledgement.

After 21st, no idea. That's if June 21st even happens now.

All we want is clarity. If it can't happen, then tell us now. It's a constant panic otherwise. Like, do I pay the church this week? Should we tell people to hold off booking a hotel? Will we be able to have a DJ? Or a buffet? Or anyone there?
We've already cut numbers from 150 to 80. Church have suggested having a 45 list for emergency situation/number restrictions. But even that's possibly 15 too many

I know it can be rearranged. I know people have died. So on top of feeling so shit you feel a cow for being pissed off about something that's a party. But I've waited so long. I've followed the rules. I've had both jabs

There are times I could scream

Katie517 · 15/05/2021 21:20

@Dishwasheverything baby groups have been running outside since the 29th March and indoors since April 12th, soft play opens up next week. We have been to farms, outdoor play centres, swimming lessons, baby classes, having coffee/ play dates with other mums and babies for a while now, they were also running July-Nov. maternity leave hasn’t been ideal but there have been semi normal things to do so I am sure there will be even more by the time we get to September and your little one is here.

summerdodododododo · 15/05/2021 21:22

My DD's first birthday party. She didn't really get much of a welcome into the world with covid, and it looks like a celebration of her first birthday could have to be shelved too

shewalkslikerihanna · 15/05/2021 21:59

Last year I gave my grandson a £1000 Of driving lessons and tests for his 17 th in June
So he could pass his test before uni in edinburgh in September
What a shitshow that has been
We’ve burned through 3/4 of the money and still hasn’t been able to have his theory test which was cancelled in November
Ive got another 17th coming up in November
I think I’ll hang fire to see how the first one pans out
Not being able to see loved ones in other countries temps everything though

TheDukeissoHot1 · 15/05/2021 22:12

@Sittinonthesand

DDs end of year 6 play, trip and y7 induction day. They’ve missed so many trips, their residential, sports day - never even been to seen their secondary schools, no sleepovers or parties. She’ll be so upset if it’s all taken away again - and she’s old enough to realise that these are experiences that the just won’t get to do rather than will be able to do later. Your wedding delay is shitty too op but at least you know it’s probably a delay or scaling back rather than a never happening at all.

This. DS missed his residential, sports day may not happen & school don’t seem to be planning any of the usual leavers events

& I’m so worried he might not get to do his Y7 induction. Usually they have secondary taster days in year 5, these were cancelled, open evenings were cancelled, we had to choose a secondary school without looking round & now induction may not happen. DS is really anxious about starting when he’s never set foot in the place, so keeping everything crossed it still goes ahead.

Also hoping our little UK getaway in August can still go ahead too.

Passthesauce · 15/05/2021 22:39

@ChocOrange1 In amongst all the things my older 3 have been missing out on, my youngest started reception in Sep 20.

It's been fab! Yes, I missed out on taking him to the classroom on day 1 and hardly know the other parents BUT the whole
bubble thing made it so much easier for him. Some sadness that he hasn't been able to go in with DD2 (Y6) and Ds1 (Y4) but they've all been remarkably philosophical (aka grateful they're not in bloody lockdown!!) and he settled really quickly and they are such a tight knit little group.

School are slightly concerned about transition to Y1 (they know nothing beyond their classroom and the lunch hall...) but it has been such a positive start. I've
missed out on a few things but it has honestly been worth it to see him so happy.

Be interesting to see how they go on through the school.

Small children are amazingly resilient -
And I have learned to appreciate his enjoyment rather than what I was expecting.

Fingers crossed for some sort of normality
in Sep, though.

ChocOrange1 · 15/05/2021 22:45

@Passthesauce thanks thats good to hear :) I suppose the other positive is she doesn't know what school is "supposed" to be like so will like it for what it is, even if it's not what I would be expecting.

We weren't able to do any visits or even a virtual tour, just a Q&A with the head over Zoom but we had to be on mute and type our questions, so not very helpful. I'm anxious about it but DD isn't

Torvean · 15/05/2021 22:49

If BoJo wasn't so incompetent and cancelled the ease of restriction in the main areas. You might still be able to do stuff in July.

NS. Cancelled our Monday change for Glasgow today.

BoJo is the worst possible PM during a pandemic. NS will end up closing the border if the mood suits.

Passthesauce · 15/05/2021 22:50

It is very depressing that what should be such an exciting time has been made so different.. but you are spot on with your comment about them not knowing what it should be like. Having had other children in the same school, I am very aware of this - but DS honestly isn’t- and that’s the main thing. Schools are also adapting rapidly to all of this. So if, God forbid, this type of stuff is still going on in Sep, they’ll have found more ways to support and keep in touch with families.

It must come to an end sometime soon though, yes?!

Passthesauce · 15/05/2021 22:54

@Torvean Am not entirely sure that would sit well in areas like mine, with 6 cases per 100,000.

Suspect we may need to sit back and see how it pans out. I would also be very unimpressed at not being able to see my 80-something year old parents for only the second time in 18 months - we are heading up May half term . No fan of BoJo but there comes a time when you have to be aware that people might just need a break!

TheDogsMother · 15/05/2021 23:03

I'm so sorry for the brides to be as it's such a sad and stressful business. We got married at the second attempt when our spring wedding last year turned into a Halloween one with guests in masks. Still haven't had the honeymoon 🤣. I hope restrictions are lifted and you get to enjoy your lovely days.

Personally I'm missing spontaneity and being able to plan holidays.

Torvean · 15/05/2021 23:07

[quote Passthesauce]@Torvean Am not entirely sure that would sit well in areas like mine, with 6 cases per 100,000.

Suspect we may need to sit back and see how it pans out. I would also be very unimpressed at not being able to see my 80-something year old parents for only the second time in 18 months - we are heading up May half term . No fan of BoJo but there comes a time when you have to be aware that people might just need a break![/quote]
I mean they should hold back restrictions only in the main areas where cases are.
The same as Scotland is holding back Glasgow City and a shire with a high case.

Here 50 over every 100 000 you can be put back a level.

Bolton nearly had 200 yesterday that will be up today. If that ws in Scotland they wouldn't ease on Monday.

We are almost a month past you . We have no date of removal of restrictions.
May brings us to level 2. We don't know if it another month to level 0. But we are always made aware if the numbers change our restrictions go back.

We had a longer and tougher lockdown than England or Wales. So I think ppl follow restrictions still.
We also concentrated on getting the most vulnerable 2 vaccines. That why we are only in early 40s/late 30s. But the most at risk are most protected.

In Scotland we will personally hunt down BOJO if his actions/inactions make things worse for us

Nootkah · 15/05/2021 23:33

Have i missed an announcement about something?

BalconiWaferAddict · 15/05/2021 23:39

LOs christening- was supposed to be last April, now they’ll be 18m if we manage to get it to go ahead in July. Our guest list is 31 so going to have to choose an aunt/uncle not to come at this rate!

Work just cancelled the company do and I was so looking forward to seeing everyone again after MAT leave.

bluechameleon · 16/05/2021 10:24

We've got three weekends away booked with different branches of our families in July and August and it will be very disappointing if they don't happen. And my parents are really looking forward to starting looking after the DC once a fortnight after half term. It'll be their last chance to have whole days with DS2 before he starts nursery half days in September.