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This is so fucking shit for young people

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ssd · 16/04/2021 20:32

Yeah i know its shit for everyone before you pounce on me

But imagine being around 20 just now...no pubs, no nightclubs, no jobs around, no buzz in your town centre, no excuse to dress up in something new, or planning your latest night out, meeting your pals and all the excitement of the night ahead.

Its just so fucking shite.

I got the train home tonight from work, Glasgow city centre is a ghost town. Places that were always busy boarded up, of course everything except like of newsagents and tesco's shut. Its Friday night. It was always jumping when i was young, absolutely jumping. It was dead. On the train was a bunch if young boys, playing music a bit too loud, all singing along....going home from the city centre at 6pm!!!!. I could have cried watching them all, a nice sunny evening and the only place they are heading was back to mum and dads, or a local park maybe, i dont know. They were about 18, casual dressed, haircuts, all wanting a good time with their pals and probably hoping to meet a partner if they were single.

Where is the life for these kids???

This has gone on long enough. I dont care if i never see inside a pub again. I've had a brilliant social life at that age. Now they have fuck all.

Its too much.

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cyclingmad · 17/04/2021 17:22

Oh god dome need to get a grip

Missed celebration graduation, it'll happen at another date. Just like many people who couldn't celebrate other things which are just as important to then as a graduation is to a student.

Many of us live alone at all ages, so students ont heir own in uni halls aren't the only ones who have suffered. Plenty of people of all ages live alone and had the same brutal experience.

Some people have spent decades building up a business only for it to be wiped out and lost everything. Many have been made redundant. Its not only young people who are only affected by not finding a job. Itll be much harder for older people to find jobs or to rebuild a business.

There are many people of all ages stuck abroad not being able to visit family.

In all scenarios there are people across all ages who have suffered the same.

So to say that young people have had it harder or made more sacrifices isn't true

MercyBooth · 17/04/2021 17:49

@Cookerhood Im all for the vaccine but i dont agree with vaccine passports. If its made ok for people to know your medical business as a given whats to stop them using these passports to know everything about you medically. Any young women among those young people you mention? Would they be happy with a religious employer knowing if they are on contraception or if they have ever had an abortion.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 17/04/2021 18:22

Missed celebration graduation, it'll happen at another date

No it won’t..its gone

CheltenhamLady · 17/04/2021 19:58

I mentioned this to one of my sons who is 23. I said I felt so sorry that all his clubbing and partying nights had been curtailed.

He just looked at me and said it could be so much worse, and has been in the past for many people my age....we could be at war.

I suppose he has a point, but I also agree with the OP.

PoppenhuisStories · 17/04/2021 19:59

There are many people of all ages stuck abroad not being able to visit family.

Well this is me but I still would rather endure COVID now than during my university years even though my children desperately miss their family. It’s manageable now, wiping out my uni years is just unimaginable.

mustlovegin · 17/04/2021 20:37

The young have had their retire lives affected by this. Their job prospect, chances to meet partners

So the young won't meet a partner due to spending one year in lockdown? Hyperbolic much?

Hmm
Original poster
ssd · 17/04/2021 20:50

@CheltenhamLady

I mentioned this to one of my sons who is 23. I said I felt so sorry that all his clubbing and partying nights had been curtailed.

He just looked at me and said it could be so much worse, and has been in the past for many people my age....we could be at war.

I suppose he has a point, but I also agree with the OP.

Thats the thing, young people are so stoic and decent these days. Most of them have followed the guidelines and accepted its all for the greater good. I just hope they get the future they deserve.
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PoppenhuisStories · 17/04/2021 21:09

I mentioned this to one of my sons who is 23. I said I felt so sorry that all his clubbing and partying nights had been curtailed.

I can’t say I feel that bad for 23 year olds really, it’s more the last year old school and uni years I feel sorry for, you don’t get them back. First years at work not such a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

colouringindoors · 17/04/2021 21:14

*I mentioned this to one of my sons who is 23. I said I felt so sorry that all his clubbing and partying nights had been curtailed.

He just looked at me and said it could be so much worse, and has been in the past for many people my age....we could be at war.

I suppose he has a point, but I also agree with the OP.

Thats the thing, young people are so stoic and decent these days. Most of them have followed the guidelines and accepted its all for the greater good. I just hope they get the future they deserve*

Also, they don't know what they've missed...

colouringindoors · 17/04/2021 21:15

bold fail.

cptartapp · 17/04/2021 21:15

must love gin I don't resent the elderly I only stated fact. My DC will fare worst out of all this. As will most young people.
It's unpalatable isn't it?

Rejoiningperson · 17/04/2021 21:17

@PoppenhuisStories

There are many people of all ages stuck abroad not being able to visit family.

Well this is me but I still would rather endure COVID now than during my university years even though my children desperately miss their family. It’s manageable now, wiping out my uni years is just unimaginable.

I don’t know @PoppenhuisStories I’m stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship, middle aged, now totally cut off from family who are in another country - haven’t seen any family for a year. It’s pretty dire.

My lovely daughter has had a year at Uni online, and it’s been a bit of a pain, but she’s chosen to stay with me, she walks about with friends who are in the same situation, and isn’t that bothered as she’s looking forward to the next two years when she will get out and socialise.

PoppenhuisStories · 17/04/2021 22:19

My lovely daughter has had a year at Uni online, and it’s been a bit of a pain, but she’s chosen to stay with me, she walks about with friends who are in the same situation, and isn’t that bothered as she’s looking forward to the next two years when she will get out and socialise.*

DSD is in the first year of uni and taking it like a champ. They have fun in halls and make the most of their online lessons, but she really has no idea what she is missing. Maybe that’s for the best! You can’t miss what you don’t know. It makes me sad when I compare it to my own first year at university.

PoppenhuisStories · 17/04/2021 22:21

But I don’t mean to sound flippant, I’m sorry you’re stuck in a horrible situation. It really is quite dire for a lot of people depending On circumstances. I hope it gets better for you soon.

Rejoiningperson · 17/04/2021 22:21

True, however I do think our Uni teens are going to make up for lost time and make their second year like a first year. She is already thinking about who she will Iive with and has even booked concerts in early 2022 and can’t wait. Her friends are saying they are going to have Freedom from Covid parties!

Rejoiningperson · 17/04/2021 22:25

Ps thanks @PoppenhuisStories that is really lovely and kind!
But honestly I take such courage from everyone. My kids especially, of course I’ve worried about the effects, I’ve a disabled son and I lost every single bit of medical/therapy he had, still not reinstated etc, but their tenacity and fresh outlook, how they see the Pandemic is pretty uplifting really. Even though youngest has banned the word Covid from the house!

Chillychangchoo · 17/04/2021 22:42

Gosh YANBU

I had the BEST time between the ages of 16-21. Weekends clubbing, meeting new people, casual sex, festivals etc etc. I had an exciting job in the city, and life was just so carefree. Now what do they have? Tik tok and a park maybe?

It’s so utterly depressing for young people. I feel so sorry for them.

DipSwimSwoosh · 17/04/2021 23:29

Why do people compare 20 year olds now to 20 year old during the war? If you were 20 during the war you would have been born between 1919 and 1925 wouldn't you? So you'd be about 100 now? So most people living in Covid times were not in their early 20s during the war.

Spiderplantwidow · 17/04/2021 23:50

I had a shit time in my late teens to early twenties, I hated clubs, I hated drinking, I hated festivals and drugs, I hated dating and casual sex but did them anyway to fit in. Much more comfortable in my thirties now I have the life experience to say nope, that stuff isn't for me thanks and I have my own very small group of close friends.

I really hate this narrative that your twenties should be the time of your life, it's very depressing.

puppeteer · 17/04/2021 23:54

True that young people accept it stoically. Good for them. But we should never have landed it on them. No getting away from that.

How to make the point without sounding uncaring? Not sure. But I know there's a sizeable body that realise we need to get on with life.

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ssd · 18/04/2021 00:26

@Spiderplantwidow

I had a shit time in my late teens to early twenties, I hated clubs, I hated drinking, I hated festivals and drugs, I hated dating and casual sex but did them anyway to fit in. Much more comfortable in my thirties now I have the life experience to say nope, that stuff isn't for me thanks and I have my own very small group of close friends.

I really hate this narrative that your twenties should be the time of your life, it's very depressing.

Well you hated it, most don't.
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Rejoiningperson · 18/04/2021 00:56

@puppeteer

True that young people accept it stoically. Good for them. But we should never have landed it on them. No getting away from that.

How to make the point without sounding uncaring? Not sure. But I know there's a sizeable body that realise we need to get on with life.

We landed this on the young? I think you are not understanding how a pandemic works. Covid landed on us, all of us. Getting on with life? You mean ignore the pandemic? No one could ignore it. No country anywhere.

The ONLY way to have ‘saved Christmas’ or schools or jobs or whatever, was to have gone full, quick attack on aiming for very low or zero covid with entry point quarantines, very good track and trace etc - Covid such as Australia, New Zealand, Japan, Iceland, Taiwan, South Korea... etc

NO other way would have saved the nightclubs etc.

YellowPurple · 18/04/2021 01:12

Imagine people in their 80' and 90's unable to see their husband / wife / Family

In some cases never again

Or a toddler that has forgotten their extended family because they haven't seen them in a year
Or a 1 year old that hasn't had hardly any contact with the outside world

So a 20 year old wasn't allowed to go to the pub for afew months!
It really isn't the end of the world!

They are all back there now, wetherspoons and Primark! Woopie for them!!!

needadvice54321 · 18/04/2021 01:26

Lockdown hasn't particularly bothered myself, DH or our youngest (12 years)

17 year old DS has had a crap time, didn't get to finish school, no exams, no prom, no festival, College has been very patchy, everyone scrabbling to get few and far between part time jobs. Now desperate to learn to drive but a nightmare to get an instructor, back log of tests and even if he could learn - no guarantee he'll be able to afford to run a car with no job!

Just hoping that Covid will be a distant memory when he's due to start Uni next year, but I'm not that confident Sad

I know he should be grateful that he's got many years ahead of him, but he won't get these young carefree years back again.