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What do we think about social distancing coming May 17th?

55 replies

Lubiluxe · 11/04/2021 21:40

And staying overnight in people's homes?
This would be for England as I'm aware that other nations have different rules.
I know no one can predict at all but I've tried staying off the covid topic for a while plus only look at main headlines and don't follow all the deep numbers etc... as it was starting to affect my mental health.

I'm really happy to see that the next step is happening tomorrow. And I wondered do people think we'll be able to stop distancing at that point?

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Womencanlift · 11/04/2021 23:35

@kittensarecute

Everyone needs to stop scaremongering.

I'm done with this thread.

No one is scaremongering. They are having a conversation based on what has been both noted in the roadmap and also saying what they want to see happen
friendlycat · 11/04/2021 23:45

@kittensarecute. I mean this kindly as I know you are struggling from seeing your comments on many threads. But I just don’t know why you come on them as many others have previously suggested to you as they don’t help you and your MH.

We are getting somewhere with this, things are changing for the better and it’s a long slow process. Don’t pin all your hopes on everything miraculously changing on 21st June. Slowly, slowly and each step will get better. But realistically it’s not all going to “go away” come 21st June. Everything we are being told and media articles indicate that some measures whatever they may be will have to remain in some form or another but hopefully they are going to be much reduced and limited. We are not out of the woods yet and won’t be for some while but it’s all going in the right direction - something that can’t be said of some other countries.

ilovesooty · 12/04/2021 01:23

[quote friendlycat]**@kittensarecute. I mean this kindly as I know you are struggling from seeing your comments on many threads. But I just don’t know why you come on them as many others have previously suggested to you as they don’t help you and your MH.

We are getting somewhere with this, things are changing for the better and it’s a long slow process. Don’t pin all your hopes on everything miraculously changing on 21st June. Slowly, slowly and each step will get better. But realistically it’s not all going to “go away” come 21st June. Everything we are being told and media articles indicate that some measures whatever they may be will have to remain in some form or another but hopefully they are going to be much reduced and limited. We are not out of the woods yet and won’t be for some while but it’s all going in the right direction - something that can’t be said of some other countries.[/quote]
She won't listen.

MercyBooth · 12/04/2021 02:11

YY @overtheroad We are being treated like bio hazards/ATM machines.

ChocOrange1 · 12/04/2021 05:15

Why wouldn't you want to SD from a stranger
Because social distancing doesn't just apply to shops and outdoor spaces, lots of fun things can't happen in the same way with social distancing in place. And many businesses will go under as they can only have a fraction of their normal number of participants.
For example in my own life:

  • toddler groups. Could only fit about 10 adults in with SD (about 40 prior to lockdown) and technically the kids wouldn't be allowed to play together. Adults wouldn't be able to get up and play with kids, or sit at the craft table or snack table with them as would be to close to each other or the volunteers.
  • pub quizzes. Could only have about 4 teams in our local pub
  • theatres. No atmosphere and theatres can't survive only selling 1/3rd of seats. See also cinemas, sports stadiums and any other performance venue.

And those are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head.

Blessex · 12/04/2021 05:28

14 days after my parents second Pfizer jab I am taking the kids up there. That will be 14 months not seeing them and that’s enough now they are protected.

musicalfrog · 12/04/2021 07:09

I think some people here are forgetting that strangers are friends we have yet to meet.

It's not very nice being viewed as a health hazard by other human beings. I hate having to go in one door and out another at shops, hospitals, doctor surgeries etc. It does feel like being in a cattle market as a pp mentioned. Ridiculous queuing systems, having to wait outside if its busy (even if it's freezing cold), not being able to book tickets to local attractions, pubs or restaurants because numbers are restricted and you weren't quick enough. It's a horrible way to exist.

secretllama · 12/04/2021 07:11

@musicalfrog

I think some people here are forgetting that strangers are friends we have yet to meet.

It's not very nice being viewed as a health hazard by other human beings. I hate having to go in one door and out another at shops, hospitals, doctor surgeries etc. It does feel like being in a cattle market as a pp mentioned. Ridiculous queuing systems, having to wait outside if its busy (even if it's freezing cold), not being able to book tickets to local attractions, pubs or restaurants because numbers are restricted and you weren't quick enough. It's a horrible way to exist.

Exactly. There's a difference between social distancing and personal space!
musicalfrog · 12/04/2021 07:14

Oh and SD has taken the spontaneity out of everything too. We have to PLAN everything we want to do a week or more in advance. It's horrible.

FunnyInjury · 12/04/2021 07:26

I cant wait to get back to see some live sport and SD is just not viable long term for the survival of many clubs. I've kept my season ticket throughout and am hoping the team I follow will be ok. Not much good without the other clubs though 🤷‍♀️

Do people who think it should remain indefinitely never watch live sports/shows/gigs? I cant imagine a life without these things indefinitely!

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 12/04/2021 07:34

Throughout all the lockdowns I've had a few patients grab me and hug me close. I've resisted the temptation to run away screaming and just let them. Some people are just desperately lonely and frightened.
Mind you I've gone off and had a shower right away and I've done lateral flow tests most days.
I reckon if someone hugs me they must be really desperate for human contact.

QuidditchQueen · 12/04/2021 07:42

Umm no they need to say no social distancing required at all
This!
This inhuman concept of ‘social distancing’ needs to be ended before it can cause any more damage.
I work in a school and we desperately need normality unless we want a generation of misanthropes.
Fine for those whose whole world is ‘family’ and who never want to leave the cocoon of their cosy nest but not acceptable to inflict it on those who need and want to grow and explore the world.

BonnieDundee · 12/04/2021 07:44

If I'm in a good mood, I move my head closer and read the paper, which usually makes them get up and run away.

Grin

I like my personal space but need social distancing to go. I want to see my football team (crap tho they areGrin), go to concerts and I don't want businesses to fold who rely on crowds. I think some people think that with social distancing we'll all be living a charmed life.with lots of space in.restaurants/pubs etc but the reality is those places won't exist any more Sad

Radio4Rocks · 12/04/2021 07:44

Social distancing in place until at least June. Possibly longer if infection rates go up.

Yes, we all hate it, but just because you don't like it doesn't mean it should go away when it's necessary for the health of the community.

Remmy123 · 12/04/2021 07:45

Things need to get back to normal now. Enough is enough it's been a year of misery

MrsTophamHat · 12/04/2021 07:53

I can't wait to see social distancing and masks end. I'm so looking forward to being in a crowd at an event.

Radio4Rocks · 12/04/2021 08:07

@Remmy123

Things need to get back to normal now. Enough is enough it's been a year of misery
Misery? Especially for those who had family members die from the virus. Your "misery" has saved the NHS from being overwhelmed and people's lives.

Very childish response.

musicalfrog · 12/04/2021 08:07

@Radio4Rocks

Social distancing in place until at least June. Possibly longer if infection rates go up.

Yes, we all hate it, but just because you don't like it doesn't mean it should go away when it's necessary for the health of the community.

Fed up of reading bollocks like this tbh.

Life comes with risks. Fkn deal with it!

RichardMarxisinnocent · 12/04/2021 08:08

@Buzzinwithbez

Why wouldn't you want to SD from a stranger confused

Because I want to go to a sweaty gig.
I want to be squashed up in a crowd at a festival.

But also because much of hospitality can't viably operate at such a reduced capacity due to distancing.

Very much this.
SmallPrawnEnergy · 12/04/2021 08:25

Why wouldn't you want to SD from a stranger confused

Because I want to go to a sweaty gig.
I want to be squashed up in a crowd at a festival

I want these things too. I don’t want mouth breathers in supermarkets standing so close to me I can feel their breath on the back of my neck in the queue to get my weekly shop.

I fucking hope this has made people more aware of people’s personal space 😩

LolaSmiles · 12/04/2021 08:37

SmallPrawnEnergy
That's how I feel. When large crowded places reopen, those who want to go can go, and those who don't particularly like crowds can not go (just like we did before Covid).
I'm looking forward to being able to go for a pub lunch with family, but would be happy for social distancing to be replaced with the tiniest appreciation of personal space. I'd also like it if people continued to understand that we look with our eyes, not our hands as well, as I'm not looking forward to a return to people feeling compelled to touch every bloody thing in a shop even if they're not likely to buy it.

year5teacher · 12/04/2021 08:47

I’ll still SD from my parents when I’m staying at their house overnight, at least when we’re indoors (will socialise outside then I’ll go up to my old room). Don’t care about SD beyond that, frankly. I haven’t had anything resembling a 2m distance at work since last June so I’m fairly desensitised to people in my space.

PuzzledObserver · 12/04/2021 09:00

The roadmap aims for all legal restrictions on the numbers that can meet to be lifted on June 21st. The SD and masks bit is subject to a review, which will be published before June 21st. It is not a forgone conclusion that they will be lifted at the same time.

As regards SD with friends and family, I can conceive of a guideline which says you are advised to maintain 2m distance from people you don’t live with, but we understand many will choose to ignore this with family and close friends.

I’m expecting to see my mum in May for the first time since last July. We’re not a huggy family, it’s normally a kiss on arrival and departure. I’m musing over whether to have a conversation with her about that beforehand, so we both know what the other is expecting/wanting.

lunar1 · 12/04/2021 09:32

Our school has had the lowest sickness record over the autumn term this school year. It's massively improved my youngest sons health who's asthma gets worse with every cough and cold.

I'd like to normalise not sending children or adults who are actively sick into school and work.

I'm also voting for keeping the 2m gap in the supermarket queue, I have no need to feel people breathing on my neck while shopping, I hated that long before Covid!

Abraxan · 12/04/2021 11:59

@lectrofan

Umm no they need to say no social distancing required at all.

Why wouldn't you want to SD from a stranger Confused

Needs to not just be family and friends so that students can return to university properly. Ideally as soon as possible for the students.

Needs to be more than family and friends for many offices and businesses to be able to all return properly to their work places, rather than all wfh or part time attendance.