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AIBU to think of you already live with more adults than just your partner

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Whocares2021 · 21/03/2021 21:17

It’s taking the piss having another having another household as a support bubble. You have support at home!

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Whocares2021 · 21/03/2021 21:18

When you have a baby - I should say

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XenoBitch · 21/03/2021 21:21

People with a baby under 1 are allowed a support bubble. This is in the rules.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 21/03/2021 21:23

If they have a baby under 1 then they are allowed a support bubble with another household. Totally within the rules, so no, not taking the piss.

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Whocares2021 · 21/03/2021 21:25

It’s the rules so that the parents have support - they have support at home - just because things are ‘in the rules’ doesn’t mean it’s compulsory.

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WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 21/03/2021 21:27

Who said its compulsory? Confused

Lou98 · 21/03/2021 21:28

Just because someone lives with other adults doesn't mean they have support at home, maybe consider this before judging

MichelleScarn · 21/03/2021 21:28

Are you pissed off at a sibling?

XenoBitch · 21/03/2021 21:31

@Whocares2021

It’s the rules so that the parents have support - they have support at home - just because things are ‘in the rules’ doesn’t mean it’s compulsory.
A new mum living in an abusive relationship also has "support" at home. You sound jealous OP.
Dementedswan · 21/03/2021 21:31

Actually I do see op point... why does someone who has a baby who lives with other adults need a support group?

FenyxGhost · 21/03/2021 21:33

Having a baby is isolating enough without an pandemic.
Hence the support bubble

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 21/03/2021 21:33

I’ve had a under 1 year old and I’d say a support bubble is essential if you’re not going to lose your marbles.

Who we talking about specifically?

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Whocares2021 · 21/03/2021 21:33

I’m not taking about a situation were the person doesn’t have support at home, I’m taking about someone who does but still risks infecting another household because they have bubbled up with them as a ‘support bubble’

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Hboo31 · 21/03/2021 21:35

I'm assuming this on on this back of the thread by a woman who lives with her partner, mum and stepdad but has formed a support bubble with her partners family?

Bringonspring · 21/03/2021 21:35

My close friend is stuck living with her ex husband. Definitely not a support.

XenoBitch · 21/03/2021 21:36

@Dementedswan

Actually I do see op point... why does someone who has a baby who lives with other adults need a support group?
Just because you live with someone, does not mean they are supportive. A new mum might find herself alone in the day if the the other adults are out at work. She wont be able to go to any baby groups or anything right now. Being a new parent can be very isolating. Anything that can help stop someone getting PND is good, surely?
XenoBitch · 21/03/2021 21:38

@Whocares2021

I’m not taking about a situation were the person doesn’t have support at home, I’m taking about someone who does but still risks infecting another household because they have bubbled up with them as a ‘support bubble’
If you are talking about someone you know in particular then why don't you just say so and go into detail instead of the gross generalisations.
Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 21/03/2021 21:39

I still can’t get upset about that op. Babies are fucking hard work.

How well do you know the person? Would you feel differently if they were had PND

CovidCorvid · 21/03/2021 21:39

Maybe the mum might need a break from the baby? So go to the other house of her support bubble?

Thunderblunder · 21/03/2021 21:40

We’re in a support bubble with our daughter, son in law and their baby. My daughter has post natal depression but that’s ok OP we’ll just leave them to it to because according to you they don’t need support. 🙄

PurpleDaisies · 21/03/2021 21:41

There are so many more exciting things to be annoyed about compared with people making legitimate support bubbles.

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Whocares2021 · 21/03/2021 21:42

We’ve only recently had support bubbles in Wales so for most of the time unfortunately woman have had to struggle - and once again for those at the back I’m talking about couples who live with other family members already.

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BlingLoving · 21/03/2021 21:44

IT doesn't matter. The rules are there. In the same way that while we can all see why someone might want to break the rules for very good reason, as a rule, we don't think they should.

This is exactly the same as the school thing. I totally understand the instinct to say, "hang on, she could totally home school at home even if she is technically a key worker" but that's not the point and we also don't really know what people are doing/thinking/feeling. The rules don't work perfectly all of the time and they do benefit/disadvantage people unfairly at times, but the idea is that most of the time they work.

DavidsSchitt · 21/03/2021 21:44

"I’m taking about someone who does but still risks infecting another household because they have bubbled up with them as a ‘support bubble’"

Well they'd all have to isolate if one got covid so it's really no different to any other bubble.

Bringonspring · 21/03/2021 21:45

I really would get more annoyed about a house party for 100 than this

BlackeyedSusan · 21/03/2021 21:46

maybe the other family members are a bit shit?