How likely am I to get Covid from DS if I’m vaccinated.

[fireflylanegirls]

I’m having my Covid vaccine tomorrow.

I’m group 6 due to a BMI of 40.1

I’m due back to work in 3 weeks and I’m office based.

By the time I’m back at work I’ll have some protection should I catch Covid.

My worry is that my son is starting nursery on Monday.
He’s only going to be going 3 full days but for the next 3 weeks he’s doing settling in days.

He’s 13 months.

The nursery haven’t had a confirmed Covid case since November but I’m starting to panic that now schools are back cases will go up.

I won’t be protected by the vaccine should he transmit the virus to me.

I can’t delay my start date with work as I’ve already done this to accommodate (twice)
and I can’t send my son to nursery in 3 weeks for full days without any settling in sessions.

He’s a lockdown baby and he’s hardly seen anyone.

I’m really anxious and don’t know what to do for the best.

With your BMI you should be entitled to a shielding letter, which means you should work from home. If it's office based you should be working from home anyway!

I'm regards to your question, I think there is pretty much agreement that children so young are half as likely to catch it and half as likely to transmit it.

You should have pretty decent protection after 3 weeks.

What's the rate like in your area at the moment?

How many settling in sessions is he due to have? Do you have a partner who could take some annual leave to accommodate doing say two settling in sessions the week you start work and are protected? If not could you speak to nursery and see if you could tune his settling in sessions when they are due to be outside and the risk of transmission will be lower? It’s great news h that you’re getting your vaccination but like you say it would be a shame to have to take that risk before the three weeks are up. However the risk is relatively low and even if he contracted it on his first session it would take a day or two to pass it on. I’d aim to push the settling in sessions as close to your work start date as possible. Good luck.

@ILookAtTheFloor

With your BMI you should be entitled to a shielding letter, which means you should work from home. If it's office based you should be working from home anyway!

I'm regards to your question, I think there is pretty much agreement that children so young are half as likely to catch it and half as likely to transmit it.

You should have pretty decent protection after 3 weeks.

What's the rate like in your area at the moment?

@ILookAtTheFloor

That’s incorrect.

I’m clinically vulnerable, not clinically extremely vulnerable. Therefore I don’t have to shield.

@Rainbowsandstorms

How many settling in sessions is he due to have? Do you have a partner who could take some annual leave to accommodate doing say two settling in sessions the week you start work and are protected? If not could you speak to nursery and see if you could tune his settling in sessions when they are due to be outside and the risk of transmission will be lower? It’s great news h that you’re getting your vaccination but like you say it would be a shame to have to take that risk before the three weeks are up. However the risk is relatively low and even if he contracted it on his first session it would take a day or two to pass it on. I’d aim to push the settling in sessions as close to your work start date as possible. Good luck.

@Rainbowsandstorms

2 hours Mon Tue & Wed next week
5 hours Mon Tue & Wed the following week
Starts full days the week after that and I’m back at work on the Thursday.

You've posted before haven't you. I'm glad you didn't resign.

Problem is, you've been given the same answers again and again so what morecambe people say to reassure that hasn't already been said to you many times before?

@Bordois

You've posted before haven't you. I'm glad you didn't resign.

Problem is, you've been given the same answers again and again so what morecambe people say to reassure that hasn't already been said to you many times before?

@Bordois

I haven’t posted about being vaccinated and my risk of catching Covid from my son.

That’s what I’m asking about.

You can check the numbers per 100k in your area. Easily done. Just Google it.
In my area we're down to 15. That suggests to me that it's highly unlikely that round here we'll meet someone who has it. Hopefully your area is same.

You have though as you were all set to resign from your job because of your anxiety over catching the virus. Just because you are putting it in a different context your base fear is still the same and that is what you really need to try and work through and rationalise.

We can tell you that the risk is tiny till our fingers drop off, but your anxiety will not allow you to accept that. I dont think anything said on here will convince you and I really think you may be better looking for professional help.

It's the same question rephrased though. Meeting a friend for a walk, going back to work etc. Chances of your ds getting it is very low, chances of him passing it to you even lower. But none of that will help you overcome your anxiety. Does your dh work?

@KateKeeper

You can check the numbers per 100k in your area. Easily done. Just Google it. In my area we're down to 15. That suggests to me that it's highly unlikely that round here we'll meet someone who has it. Hopefully your area is same.

@KateKeeper

15.....😮

Mine is 135!

@LIZS

DH works from home!!

The chances of you catching covid from nursery are very small. Look at local cases in your area. The chances of you then being very ill are also reasonably low. The BMI increases your risk but it's not a case of you will definitely get very ill.

All I can offer is my experience. My DS is at nursery full time, so 9 hours per day, five days a week. He went back the day they reopened on the 1st of June and has been there ever since.

They haven't had a case in the nursery, he hasn't had it, and we haven't caught it from him.

I was incredibly anxious before he went back, particularly because I was pregnant at the time (posted on various threads at the time last May) but we did it because we knew it was best for him.

To one can guarantee anything, but I would have thought you'd be fine, especially since you've had one jab already.

*No one

@FoxtrotSkarloey

All I can offer is my experience. My DS is at nursery full time, so 9 hours per day, five days a week. He went back the day they reopened on the 1st of June and has been there ever since.

They haven't had a case in the nursery, he hasn't had it, and we haven't caught it from him.

I was incredibly anxious before he went back, particularly because I was pregnant at the time (posted on various threads at the time last May) but we did it because we knew it was best for him.

To one can guarantee anything, but I would have thought you'd be fine, especially since you've had one jab already.

@FoxtrotSkarloey

Thanks for this!

I’m not having my first jab until tomorrow though.

135 per 100,000 is still really low. How many people would your ds be in contact with at nursery? The chances of one of them having covid is remote.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so incredibly anxious. I’ve unfortunately experienced anxiety myself and I have friends who suffer from severe health anxiety as well, interestingly enough nothing at all to do with covid. They can understand their own anxiety but not those who are anxious about covid. Weirdly enough?!?

I recommend phoning your GP and explain you are suffering from health anxiety. They might be able to draft a letter to your employer that enables you to work from home for longer? You should also explain to your employer so they are going the extra mile to make you feel comfortable.

You are not alone. We are all struggling in different ways that’s all.

@NuclearDH

135 per 100,000 is still really low. How many people would your ds be in contact with at nursery? The chances of one of them having covid is remote.

They only have a total of 9 babies (including my son) and 4 staff members.

He won’t see anyone else.

However he’s going Mon - Wed so it might not always be the same kids he sees.
For instance they only are allowed 9 babies in that room in one day. So he could mix with more over his 3 days.

@Vallmo47 op has already been given advice about seeking support for her anxiety and reducing her perceived risk. If she wfh she would still need childcare.

@Vallmo47

I’m sorry you’re feeling so incredibly anxious. I’ve unfortunately experienced anxiety myself and I have friends who suffer from severe health anxiety as well, interestingly enough nothing at all to do with covid. They can understand their own anxiety but not those who are anxious about covid. Weirdly enough?!?

I recommend phoning your GP and explain you are suffering from health anxiety. They might be able to draft a letter to your employer that enables you to work from home for longer? You should also explain to your employer so they are going the extra mile to make you feel comfortable.

You are not alone. We are all struggling in different ways that’s all.

@Vallmo47

Thank you. I’ve spoken to my GP.

They’ve offered to sign me off sick but I don’t want that.
I don’t think I’m doing my MH any good by avoiding work.

Sorry I realise my reply was based on other people posting about your return to work. I do understand the concern about your child catching covid and bringing it home. I’ve suffered from quite severe chest infections in past that has always ended in hospitalisation. I’m nervous about my kids bringing covid home as well, because every time I get a cough it ends badly. But I’ve somehow managed to talk myself down, with the help of speaking to people who are much less concerned. Do you think talking to us helps? Or maybe a friend? I also know quite a few people who’ve had covid and who all agreed it’s nowhere near as bad as they thought.
Media plays a massive part in scaremongering. It’s their job to report news, so they don’t write about the ten thousands of people who get a minor cold. It’s just not news. It SHOULD be, because it’s important to give us the full picture.
Yes, you could get very ill. But it’s highly likely you wouldn’t. And you’re so close to vaccination as well - that would reassure me massively. Just keep doing what we’ve been doing so far, good hygiene, try to keep your distance. But furthermore - once you are vaccinated it’s important you slowly try to get back to a new kind of normal. It will take baby steps but you will get there. Just be kind - and I wish other posters were kind also. Fear and anxiety is vile. Just be kind. No one enjoys feeling like shit.

[quote LIZS]@Vallmo47 op has already been given advice about seeking support for her anxiety and reducing her perceived risk. If she wfh she would still need childcare. [/quote]
@LIZS

Have you stalked my posts or something... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for reiterating that. I’ve spoken to my gp about my anxiety.

@Vallmo47

Sorry I realise my reply was based on other people posting about your return to work. I do understand the concern about your child catching covid and bringing it home. I’ve suffered from quite severe chest infections in past that has always ended in hospitalisation. I’m nervous about my kids bringing covid home as well, because every time I get a cough it ends badly. But I’ve somehow managed to talk myself down, with the help of speaking to people who are much less concerned. Do you think talking to us helps? Or maybe a friend? I also know quite a few people who’ve had covid and who all agreed it’s nowhere near as bad as they thought. Media plays a massive part in scaremongering. It’s their job to report news, so they don’t write about the ten thousands of people who get a minor cold. It’s just not news. It SHOULD be, because it’s important to give us the full picture. Yes, you could get very ill. But it’s highly likely you wouldn’t. And you’re so close to vaccination as well - that would reassure me massively. Just keep doing what we’ve been doing so far, good hygiene, try to keep your distance. But furthermore - once you are vaccinated it’s important you slowly try to get back to a new kind of normal. It will take baby steps but you will get there. Just be kind - and I wish other posters were kind also. Fear and anxiety is vile. Just be kind. No one enjoys feeling like shit.

@Vallmo47

Thank you. Anxiety is awful.😔

We’re writing at the same time. :) I agree with your own admission that you need to force yourself to get back to some kind of normal. Baby steps are fine, as long as you try every day. With vaccination so close though I wouldn’t be hard on myself. I’d accept my fear and think ‘It’s not long now, I will get there’. Because we will all get there. The “good” thing about Covid anxiety is that the whole world is working really hard to defeat it, and you are SO close to being given substantial protection. Other anxiety is much harder to treat. I wish you well. Keep talking if it helps :)

Pleased to hear you have gp support and are committed to returning to work now. Would it help to think about the practicalities rather than fret about your perceived risks? Focus on what you can control.