Wish people would stop doing this

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DP and I had a very active social life before Coronavirus. We don't live together and although we spent the first lockdown together which was wonderful, other circumstances have meant we have not seen each other since the beginning of January. So we have booked a lot of gigs for later in the year and hotel breaks as well as a holiday in the summer.
Yet so many people are telling me it is unlikely any of it will go ahead. It's really getting on my nerves. As a couple we are so looking forward to resuming the fun and lovely life we had before this virus and it seems everyone is wanting it not to happen. Why are people being so negative and acting like nothing will get back to normal?

It is irritating...even when they are right. I don’t want to hear it lol.

I do not think they are right. No reason at all why small scale gigs will not go ahead by the end of the year. Everything will be pretty much back to normal by June/July if not before.

Jealously probably. They're still at home scrubbing their shopping & leaping into bushes to avoid someone jogging.

We literally have no idea. We have various gigs booked but will take it as they come. Hard to get excited at this point.

All societies have a mix of optimists and pessimists and those in between.

I get you. We’ve booked a weeks cottage in July and my adult son, said why would you do that, it will only be cancelled. He had some concerts booked from last year and has since sold the tickets on. We were going to get a new car, but have put that on hold, but we’ve got theatres booked. You’ve got to have something to look forward to.

Just tell them they may go ahead, they may not. But one thing is for certain, if you don’t have tickets/a booking then you’re definitely not going.

All these people are going to have a miserable year what ever happens because they’ll have missed to boat to arrange anything decent.

@SpnBaby1967

Jealously probably. They're still at home scrubbing their shopping & leaping into bushes to avoid someone jogging.

It’s uncertain and people handle uncertainty differently.

Fearing that there will still be restrictions isn’t an indicator of wanting the problems to continue.

@SpnBaby1967

Jealously probably. They're still at home scrubbing their shopping & leaping into bushes to avoid someone jogging.

Sadly that’s peoples lives now and they are quite scared to let go . I agree op I’m keen to look forward , I’ve booked a few days away in the summer.

Because we booked last March, before we were even locked down, to go away this Easter, and it’s cancelled. We are still in lockdown (14 months on here by time it all lifts) and it seems more likely to be locked down than free in near future.
Therefore I don’t rationalise that with booking loads of stuff.

You did ask.
Fwiw I’ve booked a week in this country in summer on basis I get a refund if covid cancels it...

I think they are bonkers. In the real world, infections are falling, though even if they rise again, those vulnerable people are now protected so hospitals won't dull up again.

Weve planned a full summer in our van in Cornwall, I have 4 West end shows booked, DD has a gig booked in September and I am pricing up holidays for the winter.

I am 43 and expect my own jab next month.

OP you should feel confident with your and, enjoy getting back together with your partner.

People deal with uncertainty in different ways, it's not a surprise in the slightest that some are more cautious about getting their hopes up than others.

No biggie, whether you look forward or don't it won't change the future so no effect on you if they choose to be a bit more negative.

This type of person is extremely annoying. I would either just give a non committal response and move on or make clear I don't want to hear it, depending how persistent the person is with these comments

We booked a holiday for this summer. Like a previous poster said, it might get cancelled, but we would not be going at all if we hadn't booked.

I think it’s a bit presumptuous to assume things will be back to normal by then, although I completely understand people wanting to believe it will be.

We have no idea whatsoever how long immunity from the vaccines will last, whether new variants will emerge that the vaccines cannot be tweaked to accommodate or if they can whether they will be able to roll out new vaccines quick enough to control them. Everything is unknown right now. This time last year we had no idea what would happen this year and I feel we are entering another version of normal for some time yet.

I think we need to see how things go one step at a time - exactly as the government has said. Schools first and let’s see what happens. Personally I don’t feel confident enough to book any sort of holiday / day out etc.

We all handle crises differently and have multiple mechanisms to cope with our mental health.

I haven’t booked anything but I wouldn’t offer my opinion to someone who was excited about going on holiday, concerts etc.

To be honest the bouncing optimists annoy me just as much as the bleaching their shopping crowd.

DP is frontline healthcare and has got pretty much everything right timing rise about this pandemic. We have also been careful and followed most of the rules etc.

We have just booked a cottage near my parents for May half term and I have cancelled theatre rescheduled for July. I do think these will happen. Annoyingly he is working the first few weekends after April 12th otherwise we'd be booking weekends away for then.

He is more pessimistic about Winter but hoping he'll be wrong about that!!

I’m cautiously optimistic though haven’t booked any holidays or anything really expensive because I want to see how the land lies as restrictions are lifted. If that means holding off till next year for an actual ‘going away’ holiday, so be it, there’s plenty of other things to fill our days that we’ve been looking forward to.

I can’t speak for everyone obviously, but I do find that those investing a lot in their plans are the ones that really struggled with cancellations/missing out over the course of this pandemic and frankly I can’t be doing with listening to the dramatics again if it doesn’t work out how they’ve planned.

If you’re happy to make plans in the knowledge they might have to change or be postponed then don’t give any headspace to those warning you off.

You talking about your plans is challenging their reality and their perception of what is normal and safe. They're challenging yours. We all have a tendency to think we're the normal one and other people should be more like us.

There is no reason at all why things won’t go ahead. There are pictures and videos in the media today of Croatia, Florida, Texas, Sweden these places are almost normal. We cannot exist in this state for much longer despite what some people think we have to move on. If you ignore the masks and the fact that everything is closed you would think Today was a normal day, people out and about enjoying themselves, meeting and chatting to friends in the park, the appetite for normality is there, if things opened tomorrow they would be full. Some people just love to be pessimistic or use it as a cover up for the fact that they are anxious about things going back to normal.

You are always going to find sensible people, and non sensible people all over. Some people like to predict doom and gloom, whilst others are more forward thinking. You are allowed to view your life and plans as you wish, and ignore others opinions.

Some people are quite negative about everything. Where I am, last summer felt very normal and I expect this summer to be even more so. Good on you for making plans and giving yourself plenty to look forward to! You'll be the one laughing and having a lovely time when it all goes ahead. Obviously stuff could be cancelled, but if it's not, you'll have a fantastic summer organised and be glad you booked it all.

Well my Little Mix concert got postponed twice now and has dates set for next spring. I think the Government will start lockdown again after the summer holidays, I would expect it seen they have lied literally about everything so far .

Misery likes company - that’s all it is. Some people would rather not book anything (or can’t afford to, or are too anxious too) and then will take great pleasure in crowing “told you so”! if it doesn’t go ahead, because they are secretly quite enjoying it all or are worried about normal life resuming or are just negative Nancy’s!

Other more positive folk like us would rather take our chances and have something to look forward to after a shit year.
I honestly believe U.K. holidays in the summer will be fine and probably gigs etc. too. Last summer was pretty normal so why wouldn’t this summer be ok now we have the miracle vaccines?