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QueenStromba · 07/03/2021 15:58

I completely agree with Cornettoninja, from what I've seen the people who keep thinking that everything is going to get back to normal soon are the people that are the ones who've fared worse psychologically. I wrote off 2020 and 2021 last February and I'm doing fine despite shielding for most of the last year and I'm the sort of person who normally needs to get out of the house at least once a day.

Donkeydonut · 07/03/2021 16:07

See I don’t think that positive people equal good and negative bad. People can’t help the anxiety they are suffering or poor mental health.

I am feeling positive about the summer but I wouldn’t then think that makes me better than someone who is scared to book anything.

Donkeydonut · 07/03/2021 16:08

@QueenStromba

I completely agree with Cornettoninja, from what I've seen the people who keep thinking that everything is going to get back to normal soon are the people that are the ones who've fared worse psychologically. I wrote off 2020 and 2021 last February and I'm doing fine despite shielding for most of the last year and I'm the sort of person who normally needs to get out of the house at least once a day.

Can’t be bothered to look now but isn’t there evidence that people who expect the worse fare better because of this outlook.

Katie517 · 07/03/2021 16:13

@SakuraEdenSwan1 and why do you think that? And how do you think we will be able to afford to do that both from a financial and mental health perspective?

silverliningitis · 07/03/2021 16:14

Enjoy it op. I'm also making plans for this summer. I had a go at my parents the other day on FaceTime as they were complaining so many people were out and about. I turned around and said

"Excuse me. Do you realise we have shut the whole country down so you guys could live? I've had corona twice and nothings happened to me. Now you're complaining because people are out and about despite you being prioritised as pensioners to have the vaccination. Are you serious? People have lost their jobs and our economy is dead where your grandchildren will also pay for this and you are having a go at people for going for walks while you have had your vaccination and your pensions being paid."

I was so so so fucking mad and not to mention the schools being closed, my toddler not getting the stimulation in his early years development that other toddlers got in previous years because everything is fucking shut. Grrrr

likeamillpond · 07/03/2021 16:20

Out of interest would your relationship survive if it wasn't crammed full of l'ovely things' to go to and do all the time?
Sorry for asking that, but you say you haven't seen your new partner since January.

That part jumped out at me. Is it one of those relationships where you're not content just to be with eachother. You have to be doing things 24/7?
I started a new relationship just before covid hit and we have doneabsolutely nothing togethe (never got the chance with everything licked down)r and yet we have. come through it all without our killing eachother.
It's been a real test!

Sorry not helpful lol.

IsItSpring21Yet · 07/03/2021 16:29

@SpnBaby1967

Jealously probably. They're still at home scrubbing their shopping & leaping into bushes to avoid someone jogging.

Yeah cos there's no middle ground between going to gigs and leaping into bushes.

Nothing wrong with people getting excited for things they've planned. Nothing wrong with people not wanting to get hopes either.

OP if you don't want to hear people say they think things won't be back to normal, or listen to people who think cancellations are a possibility I'd just stop telling them about all your bookings. It's understandable, after a year of disappointment at plans being cancelled some people are hesitant.

My fil has posted today about people telling him he might have to wear a mask on the five holidays he's hoping to do or to be aware that things might change. He was a total arse last year though, complaining about masks and social distancing on the Asian holiday he took in March days before the U.K. lockdown and said "nobody could have predicted" all the disruptions he had. He then booked three more holidays twi if which were cancelled and the other had the air bridge thing close which people tried to warn him about but he didn't want to hear any "negativity". In the end he just didn't isolate because he thought it unfair. So it's hard to fake excitement for him when he's going in about all the holidays he's planning now, and when I tell him to be prepared to still have to socially distance or wear a mask it's not through jealousy or being a fun sponge, it's from not wanting to listen to him whinge about restrictions still being in place.

I hope your gigs go ahead and I hope you have the best time OP.

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LemonSherbetFancies · 07/03/2021 17:24

We spent all the first lockdown together and had a lovely time. Months of being stuck in together, for the first time doing nothing and we loved it. Only reason we cannot be together this time around is because of logistics. We are very happy as long as we are together basically.
We realise life is short which is why we like to fill our weekends and free time with lots of fun stuff. Nothing to do with us not being happy unless we are doing something fun.
It is not a new relationship either. Been nearly 3 years.

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Dowser · 07/03/2021 19:40

@SpnBaby1967

Jealously probably. They're still at home scrubbing their shopping & leaping into bushes to avoid someone jogging.

Haha 😂

username892737473763636352 · 07/03/2021 20:33

OP they're losers. Even if I thought nothing was going to happen and covid was going to suddenly mutate into a virus deadlier than Ebola- I wouldn't rain on your parade. Some people really do love the doom and gloom.. personally- last summer was normal where I am. This summer with everyone vaccinated ( or most ) it's going to be worse ? I doubt it.

ThePricklySheep · 07/03/2021 20:35

Maybe they just don’t want to you be disappointed.

peak2021 · 07/03/2021 21:55

Valid to book things if you are able to cancel at minimal cost or accept a rearranged date if that happens.

@SakuraEdenSwan1 Little Mix being cancelled is a blessing I think given all that one of their members has gone through.

Dolciedolly · 07/03/2021 22:16

@LemonSherbetFancies

DP and I had a very active social life before Coronavirus. We don't live together and although we spent the first lockdown together which was wonderful, other circumstances have meant we have not seen each other since the beginning of January. So we have booked a lot of gigs for later in the year and hotel breaks as well as a holiday in the summer. Yet so many people are telling me it is unlikely any of it will go ahead. It's really getting on my nerves. As a couple we are so looking forward to resuming the fun and lovely life we had before this virus and it seems everyone is wanting it not to happen. Why are people being so negative and acting like nothing will get back to normal?

Drives me mad too as if anyone can't know what will happen ... no one knows .. I have booked a trip to Greece and will be going to a festival Have a great time

Acesulfame · 07/03/2021 22:41

Not sure why it bothers you. Fuck ‘em.

tobee · 07/03/2021 23:55

I've been pragmatic/optimistic the pretty much the whole time and my mental health has been excellent.

LemonTT · 08/03/2021 07:23

@silverliningitis

Enjoy it op. I'm also making plans for this summer. I had a go at my parents the other day on FaceTime as they were complaining so many people were out and about. I turned around and said

"Excuse me. Do you realise we have shut the whole country down so you guys could live? I've had corona twice and nothings happened to me. Now you're complaining because people are out and about despite you being prioritised as pensioners to have the vaccination. Are you serious? People have lost their jobs and our economy is dead where your grandchildren will also pay for this and you are having a go at people for going for walks while you have had your vaccination and your pensions being paid."

I was so so so fucking mad and not to mention the schools being closed, my toddler not getting the stimulation in his early years development that other toddlers got in previous years because everything is fucking shut. Grrrr

I’m sorry but that is just an appalling thing to say to anyone. Why meet blame and judgement with even more ill placed blame and judgement? What on earth does it achieve except to create hurt and division.

Northernsoulgirl45 · 08/03/2021 09:19

Well we have booked a fully cancellable holiday in August and have postponed gigs booked. I fully anticipate the holiday will happen just not sure yet on gig. We also holidayed in July last year. It wasn't the full holiday experience but great to get a break. Incidentally we have been fairly cautious throughout as DH is ECV but you still need something to look forward to.

Northernsoulgirl45 · 08/03/2021 09:22

Absolutely @LemonTT

Northernsoulgirl45 · 08/03/2021 09:23

Agree most people are in a middle ground.

anamazingfind · 08/03/2021 10:46

We can all look forward to things, but have to be realistic in our expectations. The virus is t going away and we have to learn to live with the risks.