Dilemma

[Ballstothis1]

Today we received bad news about DH - he’s had stage 4 cancer for 3 yrs. 4 1/2 living with it.
Worse news today, and going for a biopsy tomorrow, results next week, not looking good.
We live in SE, but have a house in Cornwall, just want to to our happy place until results back. Have been shielding for almost a year, and today have pretty much reached rock bottom.

We are Cornish, all family down there - IF we met would only be outside, but probably won’t, not because of rules, but just want to be alone together.
Would you do it in our circumstances?

Yes

I'm so sorry for your news, yes , I would go

Absolutely go. I’m so sorry.

I would. Unless you're going to need more specialised media attention that isn't possible in Cornwall?

So sorry - definitely go

So sorry. I'd go.

I hope you find some moments of peace.

Of course you must go. So sorry about your DH.

Of course you should go. Not a doubt in my mind. I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Go without a second thought, I hope the break gives you some calm abs peace to deal with what sounds like and impossibly difficult situation

Go. I am so sorry this has to be a dilemma to add to your worries. For me it's crystal clear. Look after yourself and your DH.

So sorry this is happening, YES I think you should go.

I'm so sorry to hear that about your DH xx I hope the results aren't as bad as you fear.

Yes, if it was our own place, I'd go. I'd take food, I wouldn't use the shops down there.

I hope you can find some peace down there. Let us know how you get on x

Yes, go.

I’m very sorry 😢

Are you going to isolate and stay inside your house/garden In Cornwall for 2 weeks to not risk bringing covid / variant with you ?

Absolutely go even the most ardent rule followers wouldn't begrudge you, so sorry for your family💐

Absolutely, wouldn't even think twice. Sorry to hear about your DH.

@StillGardening

Are you going to isolate and stay inside your house/garden In Cornwall for 2 weeks to not risk bringing covid / variant with you ?

Yes absolutely, have taken shielding seriously - risk to DH and ALSO the people he might come into contact with through his treatments all last year (both staff and patients). We will be taking our food down, and might have some takeaways. Have an app that lets us know where pay at pump petrol stations are too. Happy?

Also maybe give your neighbours a heads up. The last thing you need is someone reporting you. If your neighbours know you’re coming and why, and that you will be isolating, they’re far less likely to report.

So sorry that this is happening to you. Completely understand the feeling of needing to escape x

Sorry think previous post came across wrong. I had typed a long message assuming you would be doing that (because you said you were shielding) then realised I had assumed that and should ask the question before assuming...

Thank you everyone else for your support and confirmation it was the right thing. Was going to post in AIBU, but was a bit wary.

Go. Shield. Meet up if you are comfortable wherever you like.

Go to your happy place. Get a garden heater and cover and be with your family.

Yes of course go.
Anyone who wouldn’t agree has really lost sight of what is important.

Go. Count it as moving house.

God yes.

Omg definitely go