Dilemma

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Today we received bad news about DH - he’s had stage 4 cancer for 3 yrs. 4 1/2 living with it.
Worse news today, and going for a biopsy tomorrow, results next week, not looking good.
We live in SE, but have a house in Cornwall, just want to to our happy place until results back. Have been shielding for almost a year, and today have pretty much reached rock bottom.

We are Cornish, all family down there - IF we met would only be outside, but probably won’t, not because of rules, but just want to be alone together.
Would you do it in our circumstances?

Go. We are likely to be in a similar situation soon (but don't have a second home to go to), DP is longing to see the sea again and at the moment we have time but if we didn't I wouldn't think twice about it. I am so sorry

So long as you do the isolation thing which you evidently are, then yes definitely.

The only hesitations I would have are if your husband might need medical treatment in the next week (not sure if his diagnosis could lead to emergency admissions at all, if so, I'd probably want to stay in the south East. And can someone checked on your cornish house for you before you arrive? There would be nothing worse than arriving to find a problem

That’s the only thing that stopped us moving back, as he has had various treatments throughout lockdown which are easier to get to.
House is looked after, so no worries there..

Absolutely you should

Yes, definitely go! We have a friend in a similar situation and he has been continuing to have visitors to his house during lockdown (he is now housebound).
So sorry for your bad news

Go.

My mum has been living with stage 4 for 4.5 years. Chemo 5 times and now it's constantly delayed a week or so due to bloods.

Getting away for a holiday is actually good for MH and therefore physical health.

It's breaking me knowing her last years could be spent shielding.

Hope you both have an amazing time together