Doorstep visit with someone who has returned from abroad

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Family members have returned from 2 months abroad yesterday (red list countries, where arrivals from Monday have to do 10 days quarantine hotel). They are self isolating at home for 10 days now.

My partner assumed we would be going to stand on doorstep (them standing back in their hallway) like we did before this current lockdown.

I said no, this is different, they are self isolating for 10 days we can't visit.

He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Am I reading too much into the rules/guidance?

I would drop off food quickly if they needed but no you’re not meant to be standing in doorway chatting for ages anyway. And it’s only 10 days.

If you actually want to obey the rules, a social visit is not a reason to leave your house (you can only leave for work/exercise/medical appointments etc).

So whether they’re isolating or not doesn’t really make a difference as you wouldn’t be allowed to do a doorstep visit anyway.

Why do you need to visit? If you are dropping off essential food then leave on door step You step back and they open door. Quick chat get food that’s it.

This is really serous issue. It’s not bog standard quarantine it’s to stop potentially new virus getting into the country.

Is it an essential trip? Doesn't sound like it, so no, it's not allowed. Even if they weren't isolating you shouldn't do this - though one of you could meet one of them for a (socially distanced) walk after they've stopped isolating.

Er no. Quarantine is minimal contact ideally none. Fine to leave a parcel on the doorstep if needs be.

No. Covid has spread in the Australian hotels allegedly from people just opening doors at the same time. They would have been chatting. use the phone.

Thanks all. I was struggling to explain it to partner other than err it's not allowed. So I'll try explain it better (v. Tired mum brain atm)

We've organised a food delivery for them so they don't need us to go for that. Partner just wanted to say hello, maybe he hasn't really thought what he was saying through. I'll try explain again.

Can’t believe your husband would want to go round, doorstep or not it’s no way. They are quarantined for a reason, so they don’t spread it, if they have it. Chances are they don’t, but you cannot take the risk. Let him facetime or have a long phone chat.

It’s not in the rules to go and visit people and hardly an essential journey. I’d have let them organise their own food as well given they chose to go abroad in a pandemic.

Suggest if he wants to say hello he follows the rules and uses a phone.

Has he been living under a rock?

Can't he say hello on FaceTime

Did they need to come back at this time?

How would they get groceries if someone doesn't drop items at door, stand back to see door opened & items went in, maybe exchange a few words because human beings talk to each other. This is how 95% of my deliveries work.

OP's DH may as well be the person who does that. Just stand 4m away to chat. It's not that hard, if he wants some F2F.

They travelled in both directions within the exceptions.

Please don't partner bash. Not the purpose of this post. Like I said it wasnt a thought through comment. More a comment out of habit routine.

Ice-cream that's a little harsh, was easier for us to organise a food delivery for bus. Took me 5 mins. Simple.

can he say hello via WhatsApp? Or zoom?

Yep, that's what we'll do

@yeOldeTrout How would they get groceries if someone doesn't drop items at door, stand back to see door opened & items went in, maybe exchange a few words because human beings talk to each other. This is how 95% of my deliveries work.
Because people with common sense do not get deliveries in this way. Delivery person knocks on door , person gives a thumbs up at window. Groceries or parcels are left on the floor, or on recycling bin, person drives off. Then you open the door and you take your stuff.

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Might want to explain to him that he can't go once the 10 days are up either.

I wonder how many deliveries fail & go back to depot because someone didn't answer the door.

It's easy to get same/next day delivery slots for groceries right now, correct?

No, it's not easy. Have to book delivery slots with 10 to 14 days notice or all booked up. Can get a co-op same day delivery but only really good for essentials like bread/milk/eggs and a few other bits.

No to visit whilst self-isolating and not visit after as we have lockdown until 8th March. No doorstep chats or garden visits allowed currently. Telephone and online like the rest of us sadly.

Yep. When they left the restrictions were a lot lower. It just took a moment for partner to realise/remember. Literally just a thought out of habit, like oh we'll go see them. But obviously we can't.

I guess everyone on this thread thinks your relatives should live on bread/milk/eggs for next 10-14 days, then. And over-phone-card-payment take-aways. Coz it would be fantastic to have so many more deliveries to that door happening.

Well no not now you can’t but its incorrect to say after quarantine it has to be online. You can meet one other person for a walk so he can go do that.