Covidiot

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I have elderly, extremely vulnerable parents. Both in their 90s, both with chronic breathing difficulties.

My sister's washing machine recently broke down, and I have found out that she has been going to my parents house to use theirs.

It started with them staying out of the room when she was there, but they have been finding reasons to go in for a chat and now do so as standard.

My sister works in factory which constantly has to close due to repeated outbreaks of covid. She uses public transport to get to work.

I have asked her to stop going, and told her I will pay for either her to use a launderette or I will buy her a new washing machine which I can do, comfortably (she can't into mine as my child is extremely vulnerable).

She has refused both, and has made it clear she will keep going to our parents' until her friend can come and have a look at her washing machine in a few weeks. She does 2-3 loads a week. I know she doesn't wear a mask.

We had an argument. I became annoyed and called her a selfish f*cking idiot. Now she won't talk to me at all.

Don't think there's much else I can do. Is there?

please don't deny agency to your parents just because they are over 90.

They are all breaking the rules. They are all at fault.

As others have said, if you are that worried why don't you offer to lend your sister the money to buy a new washing machine?

Your parents are in their 90s. They are not going to live much longer, Covid or no Covid. Maybe they prefer quality of life over quantity at this stage?

You sound like a nice sister offering to buy her one.

Do your parents actually want to see your sister? TBH if I was in my 90s I would not be worrying about covid, and would just want to see my family.

I think it really depends on what your parents want.

She sounds like a bully. Sorry OP. That’s really tough. I don’t think there is much you can do other than share your concerns with them, which you have.

Well from your description she's both a covid denier and a bully, so I can see why you're upset OP.

And it sounds like your parents are intimidated by her. If you said to them that you think she's bullying them and they are allowed say no to her, do you think it might give them the courage to stand up to them? I think that's where I'd start.