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therearefourlights · 13/02/2021 16:37

I have elderly, extremely vulnerable parents. Both in their 90s, both with chronic breathing difficulties.

My sister's washing machine recently broke down, and I have found out that she has been going to my parents house to use theirs.

It started with them staying out of the room when she was there, but they have been finding reasons to go in for a chat and now do so as standard.

My sister works in factory which constantly has to close due to repeated outbreaks of covid. She uses public transport to get to work.

I have asked her to stop going, and told her I will pay for either her to use a launderette or I will buy her a new washing machine which I can do, comfortably (she can't into mine as my child is extremely vulnerable).

She has refused both, and has made it clear she will keep going to our parents' until her friend can come and have a look at her washing machine in a few weeks. She does 2-3 loads a week. I know she doesn't wear a mask.

We had an argument. I became annoyed and called her a selfish f*cking idiot. Now she won't talk to me at all.

Don't think there's much else I can do. Is there?

OP posts:
ErrolTheDragon · 13/02/2021 17:10

Maybe they're ok with going into the room because it's long enough since they had their vaccinations that they have a good probability of being protected?

Sure, she sounds difficult and she may have imposed herself at an inappropriate point re vaccination timing but hopefully it's not as bad as you fear.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/02/2021 17:10

If I was 90 and had had my first vaccination, I think I'd risk assess and see family. They probably don't have long left Sad and waiting it out might mean they don't get to spend time.

Igglepigglepeppaandgeorge · 13/02/2021 17:12

@therearefourlights yes you come across as hysterical about covid which is colouring responses. Start a new thread about how your sister is a nightmare and don't mention covid and you'll get different responses xx

Haffiana · 13/02/2021 17:17

[quote Igglepigglepeppaandgeorge]@therearefourlights yes you come across as hysterical about covid which is colouring responses. Start a new thread about how your sister is a nightmare and don't mention covid and you'll get different responses xx[/quote]
Eh? In what way is she 'hysterical'?

WorraLiberty · 13/02/2021 17:18

There are 3 people in that house and yet only one is a 'Covidiot'?

That doesn't make sense.

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therearefourlights · 13/02/2021 17:23

@WorraLiberty

There are 3 people in that house and yet only one is a 'Covidiot'?

That doesn't make sense.

I would only assign the term to my sister, not my parents. If there was a term along the lines of 'Cov-a-bit-daft-and-vulerable-to-aquiescence-to-bullying-behaviour' I'd probably assign that to then.

My sister thinks covid is a hoax to control the population, for what it's worth. That's how I know she won't be wearing a mask in my parents house.

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peboh · 13/02/2021 17:24

Oh for gods sake, when did we get the right to think that we can control our parents decision? It's none of your business the choices that they're making. If all parties are happy with this arrangement then leave them to it.

SpinningWheelOfFortune · 13/02/2021 17:25

Up to them isn't it, they are adults and I imagine if I was in my 90s and had the vaccine I would want to see my family in what would probably be my last few years.

Chunkymenrock · 13/02/2021 17:27

OP, I'm in agreement with you. It's absolutely unnecessary, and not allowed during lockdown, for good reason. But unfortunately, they aren't going to listen to you as they have demonstrated, so I think you'll have to just stay out of this one. Sad

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/02/2021 17:28

My sister thinks covid is a hoax to control the population, for what it's worth. That's how I know she won't be wearing a mask in my parents house

She's a proper twat but let them be.

WorraLiberty · 13/02/2021 17:28

You hatred of your sister really shines though and I think that's what's preventing you from seeing this is entirely your parent's choice.

They must be very very lonely and if you're confident that they're not idiots, they'll make sure to socially distance themselves while she's there.

Wolfiefan · 13/02/2021 17:28

She is an idiot. But it’s not up to you who your parents let in their house.

SpringtimeBluebells · 13/02/2021 17:38

I don't think you are hysterical @therearefourlights ... you are merely worried about yoru vulnerable parents....

It is people like your sister that spread the virus sadly and then more vulnerable people die.

Perhaps calmly chat to your parents and explain your worries, your solution of buying her a machine that she declined and then ask them what they think. Are they happy to take the risk? It is up to them and once they have the facts let them decide.

I think your sister is a prat personally, would she care if she actually infected them?

MereDintofPandiculation · 13/02/2021 17:58

Surely at their age and vulnerability they should have managed to benefit from at least one vaccine, if not two by now. Has anyone had 2? It's a 12 week gap being used.

Ch3rish · 13/02/2021 18:15

@MereDintofPandiculation

Surely at their age and vulnerability they should have managed to benefit from at least one vaccine, if not two by now. Has anyone had 2? It's a 12 week gap being used.
About half a milion had had the 2nd dose a few days ago, there's a ticker on one of the news channels that shows all the data, it's probably well more than that now
MrBullinaChinaShop · 13/02/2021 18:17

@MereDintofPandiculation

Surely at their age and vulnerability they should have managed to benefit from at least one vaccine, if not two by now. Has anyone had 2? It's a 12 week gap being used.
534,869 people have had their second dose.
Icequeen01 · 13/02/2021 18:18

My mum had her second jab 3 weeks after her first one. She's one of the lucky ones who got the Pfizer jab and the booster given within the 3 weeks that Pfizer advise.

yeOldeTrout · 13/02/2021 19:48

Could you elaborate how you "found out", OP? Who told you what?

BlueTimes · 13/02/2021 21:04

Over half a million people have, mainly in the OP’s parents age bracket as they were the first to be vaccinated.

BonnieDundee · 13/02/2021 22:03

We had an argument. I became annoyed and called her a selfish fcking idiot. Now she won't talk to me at all*

I wouldn't talk to anyone who spoke to me like that either. Nor accept a washing machine from them

Gingerkittykat · 14/02/2021 01:29

I was going to say the same about her response to you calling her a selfish fucking idiot.

Can you get your parents to wear masks and wipe down surfaces after she has been?

I don't think you are being hysterical at all btw, I would be really worried too if the same was happening in my family.

fluffi · 14/02/2021 08:38

Sounds like you have very different lifestyles, she can’t afford to replace her washing machine and you could send her a new one comfortably. Not your fault but she’s probably envious or somewhat resentful and doesn’t like the idea of accepting help from you.

Unless your parents have had both vaccinations plus the waiting time it is irresponsible of her to do this, especially given she’s high risk. Your parents might be adults but sounds like they don’t stand up for themselves.

However not a lot more you can do ... presumably she’s single / lived alone so could argue she’s bubbled and therefore allowed to be inside the house.

sashagabadon · 14/02/2021 08:51

I would say keep out of it. If they have both had their jabs that is good. It’s up to them surely. Could you buy your sister a new washing machine? Or could your parents?

User133847 · 14/02/2021 09:00

You can't reason with Covidiots. They're either genuinely stupid or completely selfish. Often both.

User133847 · 14/02/2021 09:00

Yo can't reason with Covidiots. They're either genuinely stupid or completely selfish.

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