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Which specific moment from this will stay with you forever?

999 replies

RosieLemonade · 13/02/2021 15:18

Positive or negative.

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alliejay81 · 13/02/2021 22:47

I work in the NHS but not front line. I remember feeling desperate to join the front line (I'm too senior, so I couldn't) but the strength of my reaction shocked me.

Before covid I couldn't really understand why people in history would risk their lives and conscript to fight. Now I do.

Chimeraforce · 13/02/2021 22:48

Another memory. Walking past my local shops which still have winter fashions and Christmas trees in their windows. It's been so long.

whenindoubtBake · 13/02/2021 22:48

Empty supermarket shelves/ people panic buying at the start of the pandemic. That was shocking to see.

7catsandcounting · 13/02/2021 22:48

My DD (3) starter school (not in UK) and she's never seen her teacher's face. It breaks my heart that this is normal to her.

7catsandcounting · 13/02/2021 22:52

Oh, and at the beginning of lockdown, I was teaching adults online. Suddenly we got very busy (everyone at home... they had time for lessons... my workload increased), but the company reduced all teachers' salariés by 30%. We could accept the change in the contract or leave. I left.

SupermarketStress · 13/02/2021 22:55

Going shopping on 20 Feb last year for supplies and advising friends they probably should but was ignored.

The sheer self absorbed people who are continuing to pressure the health services by getting pregnant during a pandemic.

Seeing friends in the less locked down spots, total bright spots! This winter lockdown has been foul.

InTheNightWeWillWish · 13/02/2021 22:58

Early 2020 my FIL had a heart attack. He lives in Europe and we travelled early February to see him him. We sat in Stansted airport early in the morning. The airport was more quiet than usual. There were a handful of people in masks, DH and I thought they were overreacting.

It’s my birthday today and it’s a year since I saw my family. But I travelled to see them last year, we had a meal on Valentine’s Day with my mum and her side of the family. The waitress mentioned she was due to go to Thailand and was worried. We all said she’d be fine. She agreed to travel but would take some masks just to be safe.

Our wedding anniversary is the end of February and we went for meal but the atmosphere had changed. People were eating out but wanting to keep distance. Places weren’t as busy as expected. Serving staff stood further away then normal. I’ll just remember the atmosphere and how different it was to two weeks ago, there was unease in the air.

DH’s birthday was just before lockdown and I was so convinced lockdown would be announced before it was (and on his birthday), I left work the day before his birthday and was told to work from home for the foreseeable. I stopped at the M&S petrol station on the way home to grab a pizza for DH’s birthday dinner, knowing we wouldn’t be able to do anything else.

In September 2020 telling my mum that we wouldn’t be able to travel to see her at Christmas. We made other excuses which she tried to argue against. We knew saying that restrictions would be in place, and worse, by Christmas was far fetched at that time. But we knew there would be a change of policy and it wouldn’t be possible. We made our peace with it then but my mum was really upset that we made the decision to stay home.

Positives - going to the coast. It’s about 1 hour from us and a favourite spot of ours. We set off early knowing they were restricting the amount of car parking. We walked our usual route, seeing people but at a distance as was normal on that walk. It didn’t feel like we trying to maintain extra distance. It just felt normal because the path is pretty empty anyway. We had fish and chips. I gave the dog a bit of fish and a chip or two. We went home and slept so well. It was just that slice of a usual, but not everyday occurrence, it restored everything for a short time. And on the same note, coming back from a site visit to work from home, stopping at the petrol station and grabbing two nice sandwiches and a chocolate bar. And not giving a fuck whether it was essential. Just that small piece of normal.

Notnownotneverever · 13/02/2021 22:59

My teenage DS sobbing because he was so overcome with anxiety over the fear that his beloved grandparents were at risk of dying and he couldn't see them.

Ltdannygreen · 13/02/2021 23:01

Dd8 has loved school since nursery, we never had any issues and she’s always thrived. When she lost interest in the first lot of homeschooling was a low point for me. She had a complete meltdown about the work or lack of it. To see her get stressed about school work was horrible, i was worried she would hate it. She settled back in nicely in September but I could see her attitude to her work never went back to how it was.
A positive for us was we all managed ( 8 in the house) to get all the jobs my mum wanted done which saved her a hell of a lot of money as she would have got workmen for it.

Hall84 · 13/02/2021 23:01

Negatives: my twin dying last October (not covid) but hadn't seen her for a little while due to restrictions.
Positives: my little girl born exactly 6 weeks before lockdown 1. I had an emergency section so didn't drive for months in the end.
A couple of weeks in we had to go 4 shops for nappies. I had to size up because that was all I could get and the lady behind the till told me to be careful in the car park.

Bing12 · 13/02/2021 23:03

Back in March when they were talking about letting it work through the population but they hadn’t shut the care homes. Care homes started shutting themselves. I just felt permanently horrified. That memory cane back to me as soon as I read the title of the thread.

Lots of bitter sweet memories of people helping each other too and our amazing NHS and Sir Tom 💙💙💙

MooseBreath · 13/02/2021 23:03

Bringing my newborn son home from the hospital and thinking "I can't have any help if I get overwhelmed". The first few months as a new parent were horrendous - I wound up with mastitis, thrush from breastfeeding, and a vaginal infection all at once. Couldn't see a doctor and they wouldn't treat me for anything until I had been tested for Covid (which was a 30 minute drive away with a newborn).

Cloud1220 · 13/02/2021 23:04

Joining a virtual queue of over 2 hours to get onto the Boots website. I was in my third trimester during lockdown 1 and suddenly had an overwhelming sense of panic that I hadn’t got what I needed for my hospital bag, so spent all morning trying to source maternity pads etc online.

The joy and relief I felt when the home birth service was reinstated and I felt that I might get a positive experience, after all!

I’m so sorry for everyone’s losses and all the truly difficult moments which will shape us forever.

Badabingbadabum · 13/02/2021 23:06

Heading to work on the day the lockdown was announced. The station car park was quiet, the train was as well and then when I got off the train at what is normally a very busy place just outside birmingham city centre it was deserted. Only a couple of cars, empty buses. Almost creepy.

On a very personal level, while I was trying to work from home in around May with dds who were 5 and just turned three I was trying to finish something that I knew would log me out if I left it. Dd2 was asking for a nap and I just kept telling her in a minute and to let mummy finish. She began to cry and was pleading with me to take her up for a nap. It upsets me now to think about it. I left the work but still felt annoyed I was going to have to redo it - and so angry and sat that looking after them and working was so difficult.

TramaDollface · 13/02/2021 23:07

Buying my children an ice cream after school because I had decided to withdraw them ... I knew they wouldn’t be going back in buy they didn’t. I felt so sorry for them and also like a complete traitor

Deedeedocket · 13/02/2021 23:08

A few things really:

The gut wrenching fear when dd tested positive and how ill she was being that she is only just in her teens and wasn’t supposed to really get sick.

Driving to pick up a click and collect the roads being empty and one illuminated sign at the side of the road saying stay inside - a couple of bulbs were gone and I just had this horrible thought/day dream type thing of that fucking sign still being there when everyone was dead 28 days later style.

And ongoing the fear that our lives will never get back to normal.

brunetteonthebus · 13/02/2021 23:09

Lots for me

Picking up my eldest from preschool in March knowing that it would likely be her last day there ever. Doesn't sound like a very big deal, but she was diagnosed with ASD during her time there (at three) and the staff there were instrumental spotting it, helping her and in getting her EHCP. We'd got a really good relationship with them -
all and she adored her 1-1 worker. I collected her and just looked at her 1-1 knowing what was coming and we both teared up. I said to DD 'give X a hug if you like. We might not see her for a little while now' and X hugged her and cried. I cried when I got back to the car!

She actually did go back, for one day at the end of term for a goodbye 'party' so it wasn't all sad.

When Boris announced lockdown and said we would lose loved ones

The first clap, standing in my doorstep feeling really teary

When DH got home from Sainsbury's with only half the shopping looking dumbstruck at what he'd seen there just before lockdown and I confessed to him that I'd been slowly adding essential bits to the shop and filling the freezer since I'd heard news of this virus three months earlier. The relief when I had a spare bottle of calpol in when my cousin desperately needed one for her baby and none could be found anywhere, so I could leave it on her doorstep.

Realising my youngest had spent nearly half her life in lockdown and will likely have no idea how to socialise at all when she starts the lovely preschool in September.

Visiting my 89yr old Gran in the garden of her care home except I wasn't actually allowed in. She was sat wrapped in blankets in the height of summer because she's so frail now, with my mum and aunt each 2m away from her wheelchair. My sister and I were allowed to stand the other side of the fence, 2 m from them and 2 m from each other. All in masks. It's the only time I've seen her in nearly 12 months.

Delatron · 13/02/2021 23:09

I don’t think people who got pregnant were selfish. What an awful thing to say.

SnapSnapDragon · 13/02/2021 23:10

Picking up my 18 year old DS from boarding school last March. As Captain of School he stayed until everyone else had left and then said his own goodbyes. It was such a cruel and abrupt end to his long and happy school career.

MolyHolyGuacamole · 13/02/2021 23:11

The awful forwarded voice notes that were circling WhatsApp at the time. Out of control, 'army coming to make sure people stay locked up' type of ones. Then the worst right before the peak at Easter was a woman claiming to be a nurse saying that half the people in hospitals would be children and that ambulances wouldn't be coming out anymore and that people would die at home Confused

Kokeshi123 · 13/02/2021 23:11

I will never not put the lid down on the toilet before flushing, I think. Even without corona, those descriptions of aerosolized feces in the air were a bit... much. And I hate using public loos with no lids!

Badabingbadabum · 13/02/2021 23:12

55SupermarketStress The sheer self absorbed people who are continuing to pressure the health services by getting pregnant during a pandemic.

I'm assuming this is sarcasm or a joke?

Kokeshi123 · 13/02/2021 23:14

The sheer self absorbed people who are continuing to pressure the health services by getting pregnant during a pandemic.

Don't worry. As the birthrate continues to tank over the next decade while migration also falls, a rumble of panic about economic stagnation and lack of future taxpayers and nurses can start, and then all the women who DIDN'T start a family will be told how selfish they are. So it will all even out.

Remember, whatever a woman does, whatever she chooses, somehow her choice will always be a selfish one. Always.

Monkeytennis97 · 13/02/2021 23:14

Positive- seeing my DS for the first time in his care home after 11 weeks after lockdown . It was hell for all of us. Was so wonderful seeing him again. (Also had 6 weeks in lockdown 2 and 3 without him although lockdown 1 was the worst as it was the first time and he doesn't understand what is going on at all- just all of us saying this strange word 'virus' to him).

Seeing him very soon and can't wait.

bottleofvodka · 13/02/2021 23:15

Saying goodbye to my husband, holding our newborn...just after having my section as he had to leave the hospital. I've never felt so much sadness..I needed him so badly. We haven't had an easy time having our family. First was extremely premature, lots of miscarriages, including a second trimester loss.. this baby was born at term and healthy. We finally got a good outcome and he had to leave..broke my heart he didn't get the opportunity to spend his first precious days with him.