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Would you call the police...

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 20:22

...on your neighbours?

My neighbours are having friends around atm. They have people around often and don't care about lockdown rules. They never cared really. I am a bit jealous tbh that they are having people around having fun/ drinking, when we can't have friends around due to obvious reasons.

I think there are 6people in the house.

What would you do?

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 21:00

That's what lockdown does to people... they don't have a life anymore so they pry

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wanderings · 05/02/2021 21:00

What would Dominic Cummings do?

Dutchesss · 05/02/2021 21:00

No, they could have a bubble or different bubbles for many reasons. A house party with 15+ people would be different.

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 21:00

Well that's a good question 😂

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Hercules12 · 05/02/2021 21:02

This reminds me of neighbours reporting each other to the Nazis. That said I would moan to mt kids too and to my family on our next zoom call.

londongirl12 · 05/02/2021 21:03

@Kitkat151

Do nothing....the police will do nothing even if you report it... and there will always be bad feeling between you and your neighbours
They do. That's how all these fines are being handed out. Countries that have had a successful recovery from Covid is because they followed the rules, which a lot of people in this country don't.

Report them!!

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 21:09

It would not bother me you don't know what is going on maybe one is depressed

Iusedtoliveinsanfrancisco · 05/02/2021 21:10

Covid doesn’t spread by magic. Report them of course.

visitorfromtheplanetzog · 05/02/2021 21:13

@IAmongstTheWorld

I would think about whether causing someone else misery would actually make me any happier.

For me, it wouldn't.

I would think about how their selfishness in not abiding by lockdown rules means that the pandemic will last longer and more people will die - directly as a result of their actions and those like them.

So yes, I'd report the shit out of the fuckers.

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 21:20

So many people are doing this atm. Breaking the rules I mean.
Are people fed up you think?

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WanderingFruitWonderer · 05/02/2021 21:20

I'd feel upset with them, but I wouldn't report them. It wouldn't achieve anything.
I know people who broke the rules on New Year's Eve. It upset me immensely, as case rates were so much higher then than now. I made my disapproval known, but wouldn't have reported them. It's just not something I could ever do.
But I fully understand your frustration

tatutata · 05/02/2021 21:21

Just think about what you're doing. Your neighbours will be your neighbours years after this is over....

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 21:23

@tatutata

Just think about what you're doing. Your neighbours will be your neighbours years after this is over....
I honestly hope they won't be 😀- planning to move out
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Wafflewife · 05/02/2021 21:23

If they wouldn't suspect me, I would 100% report them.

clopper · 05/02/2021 21:25

RJnomore
And no it’s not because of”people like them” we are in this situation it’s because of a virus not because people are human and need contact with others, and we need to start changing the rhetoric around it fast before we do even more damage than we have.

This^ And
iamongsthis
I would think about whether causing someone else misery would actually make me any happier.

For me, it wouldn't.

And this. ^

notangelinajolie · 05/02/2021 21:26

I would mind my own business if it was a single visitor or two but this sounds like it's a few more than that. I would report.

toughluck · 05/02/2021 21:26

Well we got reported by nosy neighbours, it was rather awkward when the police turned up and realised we were doing nothing wrong (I wasn't actually very happy about the DC having to see police come into our home potentially exposing us to covid). According to them they now spend most of their days responding to 'malicious' calls from neighbours dobbing each other in - the majority of the time no crime being committed.

Personally I wouldn't report anyone.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 05/02/2021 21:27

It’s hard. DH and I work in regulated professions with notoriously harsh regulators. We are extremely careful about following the rules even if we don’t entirely agree with all of them as we are paranoid about randomly being caught for a very minor breach and having to make a self referral. I think it’s fairly likely DH’s regulator would have a full FTP and he would be suspended. We met another family we knew by accident in the local park recently and I was probably fairly rude in that I insisted we moved on immediately without even talking to them because I was extremely anxious our children wouldn’t stay apart.

Meanwhile all around us we see people meeting up outside and having family over. I haven’t seen my parents since December 2019. I wouldn’t report the neighbours and I wouldn’t report ours. But this has really highlighted to us that we can’t live in such a heightened state of total anxiety where the very vast majority can get away with bending the rules with no real disadvantage bar a smallish fine but a significant minority of registered professionals are living in a state of fear and alarm regarding an accidental breach of now very complex (but purely explained) rules. The irony is that DH is a frontline NHS worker working with covid+ patients but we are now exploring moving to Ireland or Australia as soon as we feasibly can

Katie517 · 05/02/2021 21:28

Why would you report your neighbour when you have no idea of their circumstances?

My neighbours have been having people (different people do not a bubble) over throughout this lockdown. To an outsider it looks like they are breaking the rules but as I take the time to get to know them and be a good neighbour I know that she is suffering with PND after the birth of their first baby and seeing people is helping especially as her husband is working all day. I wouldn’t dream of reporting anyone for something as simple as human interaction and company. What has this turned us into? It’s not directly my impacting you so mind your own business.

Caspah · 05/02/2021 21:29

I'd complain to the dog. He'd grunt/snort, turn over; I'd say, 'fair enough, I don't agree, but I'll go along with what you're implying (and, by the way, you're an idiot)". The dog's never right, but I go along with him.

randomer · 05/02/2021 21:29

What would Dominic Cummings do?

I think he would probably trip over the doorstep and drop his wine, what with his poor eye sight and all.
I suppose he's have his sone with him as he can't be left with babysitters.

TitusPullo · 05/02/2021 21:29

@HmmSureJan - ha, me too!

I am an avid rule follower and I saw leave them alone. I hate what covid has made us become as a country. My neighbour made snide comments over the fence about the woman who kept visiting us. That would be my local widowed relative that has been in our support bubble since March. We only she her, she only sees us.

IAmongstTheWorld · 05/02/2021 21:29

@RJnomore1 and @clopper glad to find some people on the same page. I just cannot begrudge households meeting right now (and I have been shielding for 50 weeks...).

We need human contact, we never know what situations people are going through.

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spongebob1000 · 05/02/2021 21:30

@toughluck

Well we got reported by nosy neighbours, it was rather awkward when the police turned up and realised we were doing nothing wrong (I wasn't actually very happy about the DC having to see police come into our home potentially exposing us to covid). According to them they now spend most of their days responding to 'malicious' calls from neighbours dobbing each other in - the majority of the time no crime being committed.

Personally I wouldn't report anyone.

Oh I'm sorry your son had to see that and hope he wasn't frightened. It's unfortunate this is happening atm. The communities are divided. On one hand I know people want to get back to normality but on the other I just wish this was over sooner and cannot be over until people follow the rules.
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Caspah · 05/02/2021 21:32

I do agree with @Katie517 > "What has this turned us into?"

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