How do I deal with resentment?

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It’s our 4th isolation in the last 4 months. I try my best to follow the guidelines because I know how devastating restrictions are, but they will not end unless infection rates drop. My children don’t go outdoors after a contact with a positive case, because that’s what isolating means. Our place is tiny, outside space non existent. It does affect my children. They are used to everyday walks and very active. We are struggling.
However, every single classmate of theirs is going out for walks. Some sending me pictures and posting them on social media! Such fun! I don’t know even one family isolating properly and they are the first to express anger and frustration when the schools keep closing or bubbles isolating.
I feel like I betray my own children and I feel stupid.
I don’t know how to deal with resentment. I don’t want to sound dramatic, but we have lost so much to this pandemic and it’s all in vain because even people with nice comfortable lifestyles choose not to bother. Some go as far as going food shopping together during isolation. Not one of these people got caught with fines or warnings.
Sorry for the rant, but do I really miss something? I do know that the chance of transmission is very low for solitary walks in the park. But where people get this courage and entitlement to disregard the rules on a regular basis knowing it could potentially affect others? Do I pick and choose what to follow?

I see no reason why you can't go for a solitary walk in the park. If it's solitary then who can you harm? You're only harming yourself and your sanity in this situation

@RosesAndLemonade
Only it’s against the law and it kind of worries me a little bit? Does it not worry others? I know lots of people locally too and can’t guarantee my children will not run to their children in the park. I don’t live in a dessert. However there’s nothing more I want at the moment then to go out for a walk.

It doesn't worry me no. I live in a place where I know I can take the kids and bump into no one. Is there no area at all near you where you could go for even a little walk out where you'd not see anyone?

@RosesAndLemonade
That’s where we are different I guess, who would have though being law abiding will turn out to be a self harm:)
I live in major city. We are blessed to be surrounded by nice parks, however I will indeed pass people on the pathways etc. I’d love to live in a forest now lol

Just go for a walk.

I live in the back end of nowhere

I'm sure you could find somewhere though even if just for 15 mins or something. You can't keep yourselves in again for that long you'll clearly go nuts - otherwise you wouldn't have posted . Do try OP

I think these comments from people living in “the back end of nowhere” are really unhelpful. No you shouldn’t be going out for a walk if you’ve been told to isolate. But it’s the people who think it’s fine to ignore these rules that have got us where we are. I too am struggling with resentment towards those who aren’t taking it seriously. Goodness knows how I would feel towards them if I do actually loose someone to this.

I'm with you op.
If you're meant to be self isolating it clearly says stay in do not go out for any reason unless to get a test (or presumably medical treatment).
It doesnt matter if you think you wont see anyone or not or 9/10 ita deserted what if it's not? What if you have an accident?
If it's from a school closure I would be tempted to ask the school to respond a message to remind people to self isolate. Or you could report them if you wanted

I don’t know how old your children are but could you go on a late ish walk , so less chance of bumping into anyone? Make it into a bit of an adventure with torches maybe?

The rules on isolation are really clear, don’t leave the house.

Not don’t leave the house except for a walk where/when you might not see anyone.

OP - You’re doing the right thing. It’s tough when other people just don’t give a shit.

You’re doing the right thing, OP. The people who aren’t are helping to prolong this mess we’re in.

Thank you OP for doing the right thing. I live in 'the back end of nowhere' but we still encounter people on our walks. I don't see how anyone can be so certain that there won't be other people around. I suppose that's why we're in this mess.

Take your kids for a walk.

I don't understand how it's a problem me taking my kids for a walk where we know 100% we won't see anyone. And haven't done since all this began in march?!

@RosesAndLemonade do you honestly not see what the issue is here?

It seems not even the people who actually know they HAVE Covid are isolating (or only 18% of them are according to that Kings College study last September) and then there are the ones that don't go for a test because (not unreasonably) they know then they can't work and they'll be in debt.

I reckon the number who are isolating just because the "might" have it is very very small.

Not expressing a view on the rights and wrongs, just saying what you are seeing isn't the exception!

OP 4 isolations in 4 months is a lot. Have you been told to isolate via the app or work??

OMG seriously. People are going out when isolating?!

No wonder its spreading. This is not working.

I hear you OP. We are on our second period of self isolation this month due to our twins being in close contact with positive cases at their specialist school (they’ve been for 2 blocks of 2 days and have been exposed both times). We are staying at home, it’s brutal, it’s exhausting and I’m physically and mentally broken but they shouldn’t be going out (can’t take them out for a walk by myself anyway or even into our garden).

The people doing whatever they like piss me off too but I can’t control what other people do so I try to just ignore and focus on the point next week when it will be over!

@partyatthepalace
Me and DH both key workers and can’t work from home and our children go to school. It’s not an app, no. Proper T&T. We are just unlucky I guess.

worse here... waited several years for snow, until it snowed in the middle of the kids isolation.

one has done four periods of isolation for the full time and two or three further periods of waiting for tests.

yep would piss me off mightily as well.

I am feeling particularly pissed off with it now so I would enjoy time screen shotting people breaking isolation. I would not send it anywhere but I would want to.

Dd had to isolate for Xmas sodding day. And we had got her a new bike for Xmas.

[quote BananaPop2020]@RosesAndLemonade do you honestly not see what the issue is here?[/quote]
No I honestly don't.
When we've been for walks it isn't been when isolating. It's been during lockdowns so walks have been allowed
However on those walks we see no one. Literally not one person. So if I were isolating I would still go. As it's an empty field.

I had to isolate before a procedure once and I asked them about this as we wanted to know if we could take the kids out -and they said yes absolutely fine if we wouldn't see anyone.

So the hospital told me it's fine. What's the issue ?

I feel your pain OP... from mid November through to yesterday (with a blessed 3 weeks free that included Xmas) either one or both the kids, or all four of us, have had to isolate. We've stuck to the rules, but it's been brutal, especially for physical and mental health.
Survival mode....