Not taking children out daily?

[Givemeabreak88]

Reading another thread it seems we should be taking our kids out everyday, I don’t do this, mine don’t want to go out every day, they would never want to just walk around the estate (we live in London and not a nice part!) there is a local park but they’ve been to it one million times now so no longer want to go, I haven’t taken them out for a while now (I don’t go shopping) is it bad to not take them out everyday? I can’t imagine getting dressed to just walk around a housing estate! What does everyone else do?

We have recently adjusted our meal time to 4pm, eat and quick tidy up and all wellies and coats on at 5pm in freezing cold and rain for at least 30 minutes. Head torches on. Kids love it because it's all dark outside.

Not smug over here, I need to leave my home to save my sanity. Exercise and fresh air is what is getting me through this each day. My two youngest are sleeping very well, youngest no longer waking up through the night which coincides with 5pm walk. It's good for everyone. The dog needs out anyway, so it spurs us all on. Getting a dog has been a lifesaver through this sh*tshow.

[quote Pissedoff1234]@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer

And there's the smugness again. You have no idea what effort I'm putting in with my kids but choose to decide I have low standards. [/quote]
when you decide to call "smug" someone when they make efforts
yes, you clearly do have low standards.

We have teens and don't go out daily, as they don't finish home school until 4.40pm so often it is just too dark and wet by then. Dry days we head out for a long walk or a quick burst. I am not feeling too much pressure. It is cold, dark and pouring with rain for much of the time. Good excuse to curl up at home with a good film and a hot chocolate!
We have a static bike, so we use that on wet days.

I think there is enough stress and pressure living in a lockdown, without adding guilt to the mix! If you can take your kids out great, if not don't worry we will be out of lockdown soon enough!

too many risks of being sent into isolation and be stuck at home for 2 weeks not to make the effort of going out when we can. It's too hard on the kids to be locked up.

Wow the lack of empathy is staggering
Just because you can take time out of the working day, why assume everyone else can?
Some days I am in video calls for literally 8 hours. I can’t hardly say sorry CEO, have to duck out of strategy meeting to exercise the kids. Same for DH. Literally the only spare time we have is spent home school or feeding the kids. On the days when diary less hectic (like today) then of course we do. Doesn’t mean we have low standards, it means we are doing the best we can to cope in this fucking horrendous and exhausting situation.

@ceeveebee well said, you are not alone!

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer
But without a clear picture of a persons whole life, you clearly cannot say that someone has low standards because they choose not to do the same thing as you in one area. They may put extra effort into other things that you don't.

Coming on here and saying what you do in regards to going out is fine but it's the shaming of those who don't think the same as you. You may think I have low standards because we don't go out every day but for our family it works well. They are all quite happy with going out when we do and are healthy and well adjusted.

I am in general someone who has high standards in most things but of course, you chose to make judgements based on one thing. I'm not bothered particularly what you think but you could really affect the mental health of someone struggling. Pretty sure you won't care about that though.

The simple truth is to replace "I don't have time" but "it's not a priority". Gives a better perspective on things.

Some ppl can’t ‘take’ the time and work later. Some ppl have schedules and meetings which they can’t rearrange.
You clearly have a different type of role which is great for your family. It would be great for other posters if you cottoned on to the fact that we all have different roles and levels in our jobs.

I can easily see how somebody doing data entry etc can take time but not somebody tied to meetings.

@ceeveebee

Wow the lack of empathy is staggering Just because you can take time out of the working day, why assume everyone else can? Some days I am in video calls for literally 8 hours. I can’t hardly say sorry CEO, have to duck out of strategy meeting to exercise the kids. Same for DH. Literally the only spare time we have is spent home school or feeding the kids. On the days when diary less hectic (like today) then of course we do. Doesn’t mean we have low standards, it means we are doing the best we can to cope in this fucking horrendous and exhausting situation.

Couldn't agree more. I'm quite happy with what we are doing and so are my kids. We have 4. 3 are doing homeschooling and one I am doing things with as she starts school in September. I literally wake up, make breakfast, make sure kids are up, washed and teeth brushed and then help with school work. Then it's making all the food, tidying, household jobs, baths, bedtime etc etc. Me and DH don't sit down til 9pm. I'm exhausted. I'm sure the kids will bounce back to being out and about again once lockdown is over as they did in September.

I'm just so fed up with the shaming of parents just trying to keep themselves afloat during this pretty awful time.

It is enough just to get through the day, thats it.

Thats all any of us have to do!

End of. The shaming and guilt tripping needs to stop.