AIBU to ask what is the worst lockdown rule you have broken?

[EmJay19]

AIBU to say a lot of (but not all) people have broken the rules to varying degrees once or twice even when they generally stick to the rules?

What’s the worst thing you’ve done?

I went to the pub with a friend when I shouldn’t have done as not from same household. Sitting outside would have been ok at that point...

[quote Honeyhoops]@burfordbrown

I'm not proud, I just don't agree with lockdowns and can't put into words how fucking sick I am of being forced to wear a mask, forced to "stay at home" etc. FOR A VIRUS THAT HAS KILLED LESS THAN 1000 (might be less) UNDER 60s. I wish more people would do what is best for themselves and their families rather than being terrified into following "the rules" to the detriment of their mental health.

My children have missed out on a year of their lives, they will probably spend 2 birthdays in lockdown. I am struggling to cope with work and homeschooling. These restrictions are decimating the economy and ruining peoples lives. I'm in the privileged position of having kept my job, my DH has worked throughout, we have a nice home with a garden. How the hell single parents, women with abusive partners, people living in tiny flats, people with MH problems, have coped I honestly don't know, well, many haven't. [/quote]
My children have missed out on a year of their lives,

No they haven't.

Both my sister and I act as support bubble for my mum. She can’t provide why I can’t and vice versa.

We also hug. We also occasionally see MIL, haven’t this lockdown but we were going round to her house under the same ‘social bubble’.

I’m really quite anti lockdown but upon reflection I’ve stuck to virtually all the rules.

We had about 50/60 people who happened to be walking through the cemetery at the same time as my dad’s funeral last summer...he died of covid , no way were we not giving him the funeral he deserved.

Drove to Blackpool 50 miles away one evening between Christmas and NY to see the illuminations because I just had to get out.

I'm in the North West, in a town that's been on tight restrictions since July - not been to a pub, restaurant, and only supermarket once a fortnight, and I live on my own. See boyfriend once a week (bubble). I've had no holidays, no Xmas Day, and haven't been further that six miles from my house since September. I didn't get out of the car when we drove through the lights, so my conscience is clear.

I get that other factors sometimes take priority; bereavement, mental health, family emergencies etc.

@WildOrchids67

So I've been called a moron and a bellend for daring to see my friends a few times. But frankly I don't care, because if seeing my friends stops me from hanging out of my 3rd floor bedroom window in the middle of the night again, wondering what it would be like to just fall out, then I'm going to do it.

Do you not know by now that the only thing that matters is COVID?

In all seriousness though, I hope you're feeling better I, for one, wouldn't judge you. I appreciate that shock horror there are actually other things going on in people's lives than Covid-19, I know a lot of people seem to have forgotten that.

@RollNeddyRoll

It really is quite shocking how many people are bending rules to suit them. I haven't seen anyone except my husband and colleagues since Christmas. I'd love to "pop to a friend's house for a cuppa" or visit my parents for a "film night". But I thought we were in a national lockdown...? Hmm.

Tbf, being with a partner and having social interaction with colleagues since Christmas isn't bad going given we aren't even out of January.

Some people posting may not have seen another person at all had they not bent the rules.

@OllietheOwl

God this thread is so depressing. People feeling guilty because they let their kids play outside for the first time since March, ashamed because they sat in a garden with their parents etc.

Yep. And it's exactly what Boris and his merry men want. Us all turning on and frothing at each other for having a cuppa with your own mum and forgetting the absolute shit show that has been their management of this whole thing and previous years decimation of the NHS which is the very reason they can't cope now.

But yep, it's obviously allllll down to people having a not quite socially distanced walk twice a day with two people.

Also quite frankly i dont give a shit if people think having a film night equals selfish. Tbh my MH is more important and without some interaction itd be on the floor and id be neck deep in a bottle of painkillers relapsing. My mum (different country) has had covid and works in a care home..she is fully supportive of meeting friends etc. As someone else pointed out, less than 1000 people under 60 have died. Unbelievable that this shit is still gpinh on when it affects a certain demogo ociety.

*demographic of society

I drove to a colleague's house to collect a printer which I needed for work as I didn't have one.

Exactly , I dont have a husband or work colleagues , I have an autistic child and a child with sen who are both struggling and can't see their dad as he's in another country as well as a 17 year old who's still doing full time online learning even though Xmas are cancelled. I don't feel bad at all . The only person I'm putting at risk is me

You are all monsters and heretics. You should be dragged out into the street and put in the stocks.

As someone else pointed out, less than 1000 people under 60 have died. Unbelievable that this shit is still gpinh on when it affects a certain demogo ociety.

Oh well that's alright then.

Oh, and if i hadnt bent the rules i wouldnt have seen anyone apart from old nightmare landlady and now current flatmates who i see once every few days. I wfh, i am isolated so yes , excuse me for looking after my MH. I followed the rules stringently first time round. Now im fed up of this shit. I couldnt even go home to my parenta for christmas and ended up staying with nightmare landlady.

I went to my dads and my PILs the night before we were plunged into T4 having found out Christmas was cancelled,

We dropped off presents, and uncharacteristically FIL gave me a hug. Might be the second hug I've had from him in 10 years!

DD had to self isolate and have a test because she got covid symptoms two days later.

First and last time I've broken the rules, and fuck me I felt so guilty about it when DD had a temperature. I couldn't get it out of my head how much danger I'd put FIL in.

So first and last time. Christmas together felt like the little light we were all aiming for. I wouldn't do it again.

None. Vulnerable loved ones so have to be extremely careful.

Exams not Xmas! Although we didn't meet with anyone at Christmas as even though it would have been allowed our 3 households contain an awful lot of people!

It doesnt mean its all alright - but why on earth is everyones lives being put on hold for an illness that for the majority doesnt lead tp hospitalisation?! It is fucking madness. Doris whos 80, well if she dies it is a terrible and sad amd awful thing and i feel for her family - but neigh on a years lockdown to support the Doris's in living until theyre 90 (well above the national average btw)? Madness

Not broken yet but fully intend to when my baby is born in the coming weeks:

Have a support bubble with my Dad which is allowed as he's single (although he does do shopping for my gran but doesn't go inside).

Have a childcare bubble with my mum, who is not single, and go inside and see her.

So that both my parents can actually meet my baby properly. I refuse to deny my parents the chance to actually meet their first and only grandchild after experiencing years of infertility and heartbreak to get to this point.

Also, not a rule but I'm sure some people would like me hung drawn and quartered for this...

Not offering to keep my DSC home with me when I'm not working rather than them going to school (their mum is a KW so they have a place). I do not want to spend my first few weeks as a new mum homeschooling.

This thread is really sad and shows how much some have been struggling. I've broken the odd rule myself. Yeah we all need to do what we can, but we also need to make sure we don't destroy ourselves in the process. If the odd risk assessed rule break keeps you or your family sane or gives you extra time with your loved ones then so what? I don't think anyone who has posted has been particularly reckless, I would have done the same as most in the circumstances. The only one I don't agree with is the rave?! Wtf.

I dont blame people for breaking some rules. I dont blame anyone seeing their family or friends, or even a tinder meet up, we are social animals and this is not natural. I dont even know why i have stuck to the rules but im continuing to do so.

^^ This

Everyone I speak to says they are mostly following the rules - but I think you have to trade off sometimes

I am sick of people saying about the mortality rate. My DM died 3 years ago of a heart attack, ambulance got to her within 9 minutes but they still couldn't save her. It didn't mean they didn't try and we were so grateful when they got there as at least we knew they were the best people to try. I can not imagine what it would be like to have to have waited an hour + for an ambulance. it is NOT mortality rate it is everyone being ill at same time that is causing so many problems.

My DSis has to work and so does her DH, my DH leaves the house to go to work, I work from home. We are in a support bubble with DSD and her DP and DGS. He has disabilities but we have been told is not at risk of having anymore severe than any other child his age.

DSD and her DP are not really rule followers, and they still just don't get it - yes I have tried to educate but they are 20 and in very low risk. Not having parties etc but still meet up outside with people who they shouldn't.

I am far more worried about the impact on their mental health and literally the last 12 months of so much uncertainty over their little boy that I find it hard to blame them, even if I don't agree. They could pass covid to us and then they would see (if we were Ill) the impact of their actions but then DH could bring it home from work.

I do not see anyone else including my own DS or Dad as I know I can not say that I haven't been in contact with anyone so I will take the risk for my DSD as she needs us but won't pass that risk on.

@Madein1995 so nobody else's mental health matters then as long as you get your film nights?

When I see posts like yours it does make me wonder what the point is in my family and others I know following the damn rules but posts from people such as @BigPaperBag kind of puts it back into perspective for me.

If everyone else carried out the same actions as you we would all be so much worse off. So happy to know that my daughter's mental health is fine to be sacrificed and her special birthday being spent in lockdown is acceptable so that people can have film nights!

I couldn't have it on my conscience risking anyone else so goodness knows how people can happily ignore the risks.

@JudgeRindersMinder

We had about 50/60 people who happened to be walking through the cemetery at the same time as my dad’s funeral last summer...he died of covid , no way were we not giving him the funeral he deserved.

I should have added that my dad was in a care home and we weren’t allowed to see him from the 10th of March when they locked down, until the 3rd week in May when he was dying, so his last 2 months were taken from us. If I knew then what I know now, I’d have removed him from the home and given up work to look after him, and he might still be here. Hindsight’s a wonderful thing

During the first lockdown I took my baby out in the car everyday for about an hour to get her to sleep, it was literally the only thing that worked, I tried everything else. Had my excuses ready to go in case I was stopped 🤷‍♀️

I've seen my two (young) adult kids throughout, as normal.