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yarncakes · 2021-01-23T20:56:03+00:00

I've noticed now that supermarkets saying only one person per household to shop but can they stop you if there's more than 1 of you going together?

Northernsoullover · 27/01/2021 07:44

[quote Fizzybottle]@3littlewords thank you for being so condescending. We shop at lidl. It is vastly cheaper than the places that do online deliveries or click and collect. So despite the clear disapproval of MN, as usual, we will continue to do as we need to do and shop as a family. Funny, the only judgement I've ever had is on here, no one in real life has given any sort of a crap.
Some of you people really need to have a word with yourselves.[/quote]
I'd judge you if I saw you. I wouldn't say anything. I judged the family of 4 I saw in Costa on Saturday. No doubt someone here will come up with 'oh maybe they were on their way to... etc etc' I was in Costa for work reasons before anyone says I was in there too.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 07:45

Judge away. I give no shits. We need to shop for food and that's the only way we can do it.

MsTSwift · 27/01/2021 08:02

Very selfish behaviour. We are all missing out on things we would like to do for most of us this is a relatively easy thing not to do (single parent / disability aside but this is not the majority come on)

Oh and people are judging you they are just too polite to say anything.

user68901 · 27/01/2021 08:09

I wish people would not unnecessarily shop as a couple or family. I am absolutely sick of queuing up to 25mins to get into my local supermarkets. Thank god the supermarkets are starting to get strict.

HairyToity · 27/01/2021 08:11

@3littlewords from what I have read, it's possible we could pass the virus via our clothes/ hands (a bit like a parcel coming into the home), but unlikely. We should produce antibodies for 3 months, which hopefully will stop spread at us. After 3 months we could have covid asymptomatically and spread it. Anytime after 6 months, there is a chance we could have the virus again.

We did very little apart from work and school for nearly 10 months to avoid covid, but still got it. We didn't even eat out. Online deliveries. We still got it. I had it mildly. Kids very very mildly (they've had worse colds). DH had it the worse and still not 100% a month on.

I'm done with living my life in fear of covid. Not had any parties since come out of lockdown but if kids want to go to supermarket they can.

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 27/01/2021 08:20

@Fizzybottle eh?! you took part in a thread about this issue, putting your POV across and then got when people discussed / asked you a reasonable question (why can’t you stay home / click and collect / wait in car etc).

I’m sorry you’re in pain but no need to be aggressive.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 08:20

@MsTSwift

Very selfish behaviour. We are all missing out on things we would like to do for most of us this is a relatively easy thing not to do (single parent / disability aside but this is not the majority come on)

Oh and people are judging you they are just too polite to say anything.

I've told you in the first post I'm disabled. And this is the reason why I cannot.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 08:27

[quote YellowandGreenToBeSeen]@Fizzybottle eh?! you took part in a thread about this issue, putting your POV across and then got when people discussed / asked you a reasonable question (why can’t you stay home / click and collect / wait in car etc).

I’m sorry you’re in pain but no need to be aggressive.[/quote]
I never said I was in pain. You've assumed

And no I explained that those options weren't possible but then I got told actually they should be. When you have no idea. I give in- judge away. Have a lovely day

MsTSwift · 27/01/2021 08:27

Well it’s not about you then is it 🙄.

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 27/01/2021 09:36

@Fizzybottle well, apologies; I assumed ‘unwell in bed’ might have an element of pain. My sympathies regardless.

And I’m not judging. I’m asking. There’s a difference.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 09:53

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Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 09:56

But the thing is some people have said they WOULD judge us if you saw us. Fine, go ahead, I truly don't care, we don't have any other option - but you do realise , those of you who would judge, that some people do actually have actual legitimate reasons for doing things which you think they shouldn't ?

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 27/01/2021 10:15

@Fizzybottle I’m sorry you’ve had such a traumatic experience. And for your awful loss.

I wasn’t asking you to ‘bite’. I asked why you couldn’t stay home / in the car etc. With no judgement.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 10:19

[quote YellowandGreenToBeSeen]@Fizzybottle I’m sorry you’ve had such a traumatic experience. And for your awful loss.

I wasn’t asking you to ‘bite’. I asked why you couldn’t stay home / in the car etc. With no judgement.[/quote]
Yes but my point is you wouldn't just accept that some people do have reasons.
I clearly did not want to say this and surely you can see why.
But if you just judge everyone then you judge people like me, and then I end up having to justify myself because you wouldn't just take it as truth that I have a reason. And that will be the case for others that you will see and judge.
I didnt want to have to justify myself , I wanted people to accept that some people do have reasons.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 10:20

I will be asking mumsnet to delete my previous post and I don't want my deeply traumatic personal life to be there for all to say . But if you judge people you see you will judge people with actual reasons and for us..that's not fair

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 27/01/2021 10:25

Oh FFS, at no point have I used any judgmental language towards you. I asked a question.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 10:28

@YellowandGreenToBeSeen

Oh FFS, at no point have I used any judgmental language towards you. I asked a question.

No someone else said If they saw us they'd judge

And again my point is - I wouldn't want to explain this in a shop. Nor would my husband. Some people have reasons some people need to be trusted , not everyone is just being a dick.

OverTheRubicon · 27/01/2021 11:40

@Fizzybottle ignoring the shops point for a minute, it sounds like things must be very hard. I appreciate this is easier said than done, but have you looked at getting carer support / does he get respite? This does not very sustainable for you and your family.

If you are unwell in bed, so can't supervise the kids while DH shops, presumably the DCs are very young, and if you also can't be left alone at home while he takes the kids, it sounds like he must therefore be with either you or DC at all times, you must be very unwell and most of us would also be near breaking point in your DHs position. Care or respite could help everyone, especially in lockdown.

redsquirrelfan · 27/01/2021 11:50

I saw a woman with her teenage daughter in Sainsburys yesterday and I've seen a few couples/flatmates together - but the message about not making it a family outing seems to have largely got through where I am. Hopefully they won't all rush back when this is over - supermarkets are for shopping, they're not recreational facilities.

elliejjtiny · 27/01/2021 11:56

No. Dh has been on a weekly trip to tesco/asda. The rest of us haven't left the house/garden since Christmas day.

trulydelicious · 27/01/2021 12:06

No.

I'm seeing supermarkets requesting (politely) that people shop alone (where possible)

Also shoppers are asked to queue outside once again

Peanutquavers123 · 27/01/2021 12:18

I take my toddler to the supermarket because the risk of leaving him home alone is vastly higher than the risk of covid.

OverTheRubicon · 27/01/2021 12:25

@elliejjtiny

No. Dh has been on a weekly trip to tesco/asda. The rest of us haven't left the house/garden since Christmas day.

Why have you been locked in for other a month?

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 12:41

[quote OverTheRubicon]@Fizzybottle ignoring the shops point for a minute, it sounds like things must be very hard. I appreciate this is easier said than done, but have you looked at getting carer support / does he get respite? This does not very sustainable for you and your family.

If you are unwell in bed, so can't supervise the kids while DH shops, presumably the DCs are very young, and if you also can't be left alone at home while he takes the kids, it sounds like he must therefore be with either you or DC at all times, you must be very unwell and most of us would also be near breaking point in your DHs position. Care or respite could help everyone, especially in lockdown.[/quote]
Thank you for your concern. I am much better now and my DH works at home, so I do the home schooling etc downstairs with our kids whilst he works. I don't need to be supervised or anything, he just needs to be here. So from that pov lockdown has made this easier as we aren't sure how we would have sorted this situation out if he was still needing to go out to work.

You're right it has been extremely difficult for my DH, in fact my MH team offer every time they see me for him to have any support he needs, but whilst I alwsys ask him about this, he doesn't want any.

We manage. It's very hard. He likes to go out and would go absolutely crazy if he didn't go out so we go out together.

We have a friend who we do ask to take the children out for a little so that my DH gets a break. My MH is improving so hopefully this won't be forever. I have serious health problems so there's also that which we have had to deal with for years.

It's tough you're right - he went through a time of feeling unable to cope just before Xmas but he is doing better now. If he wants support he knows it is available so I assume he would ask if he wanted.

When we weren't in lockdowns we have had nannies who take the children for a while though and we are considering asking them to take them weekly (as I'm sure it would be allowed in the situation) so maybe that will happen

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 12:42

I seem to have repeated myself. The friend / nanny is the same person! She came before lockdown but we are thinking of asking her now as well