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Is anyone still going out as a family

108 replies

yarncakes · 23/01/2021 20:56

I've noticed now that supermarkets saying only one person per household to shop but can they stop you if there's more than 1 of you going together?

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Fizzybottle · 26/01/2021 19:29

@MiniCooperLover

I've never understood why anyone would WANT to take their kids to the supermarket, especially now when people are walking around in masks, stressed etc. It's a horrible environment and one of the biggest spreaders too. Supermarkets aren't a day trip out but you often see both parents and their kids and it blows my mind both pre-covid and now to be honest.
What? I've never seen anyone stressed in a supermarket. Always chill when we go
NerrSnerr · 26/01/2021 19:34

@Fizzybottle

Yes I go with DH and my two children. I look just fine but I'm actually disabled. So I couldn't take my two children alone without DH. Literally no one has every questioned me.
Is there a reason your husband couldn't just go, or as you said you couldn't take your children without your husband could you go alone?
Thesearmsofmine · 26/01/2021 19:34

I have taken dc in with me when DH is working if I need something. They are very good, keep their distance, don’t touch things and wear a mask, better than many adults tbh.

herecomesthsun · 26/01/2021 20:25

When my kids were little, going to Waitrose was a huge treat. The cafe was a big draw. The kids' lunch was verging on a party meal with a load of treats, and I got a free coffee and often a special offer with it. Also, we are pretty rural and the shop staff knew the kids from babies. Plus they got to choose supper and we would probably find some marked down pains au chocolate or something for a treat breakfast.

I haven't been inside a supermarket since last summer.

BackforGood · 26/01/2021 20:55

Yes I go with DH and my two children. I look just fine but I'm actually disabled. So I couldn't take my two children alone without DH.

Is there a reason why your dh can't do the shop whilst you and the dc stay home ?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 26/01/2021 21:34

One of us goes. We don’t have a car so have always done online groceries (long before Covid) and just got bits and bobs day to day. Back in April when we couldn’t get a delivery I would go in and DP would stand at the end of the car park, waiting so he could help carry stuff home. Now it’s more likely that DP goes to Asda about 10pm when it’s very quiet if we need things.

Pre-Covid we would have often gone to M&S together on a Friday to get treaty things if we weren’t going out at the weekend. I miss going out at the weekend so much!

Fizzybottle · 26/01/2021 21:41

To those asking if I can't leave the children with me at home - yes there is a reason, however it's deeply personal and not something I wish to share in a public forum. So, yes we go as a family, no i can't go alone and no DH cannot go alone and leave me and the kids at home... And at no point has anyone ever asked/ said anything. Other than one time and r apologised we were all there to a shop assistant and she laughed and said bring who you like - that is we very recently and this lockdown

SCALPHELP · 26/01/2021 21:45

Shops near me don’t care unfortunately. There’s more couples than lone shoppers, to the extent that I feel like a loser for shopping alone😂 it’s like I’m the only one adhering to the rule. Still plenty of people wearing masks with their nose sticking out or under their chin too.

StacySoloman · 26/01/2021 21:47

Can't think of anything worse than taking my children on a trip out to the supermarket even when not living through a plague Confused

MsTSwift · 26/01/2021 22:25

Big signs at m&s food hall to shop alone and a bouncer on the door checking. Lidl is a free for all. So I will stick with m&s.

OverTheRubicon · 26/01/2021 22:31

I've been alone with the DCs since lockdown 1, and mostly shop online but do occasionally have to pop in with all 3 on the rare occasion that something's run out or a few times around Christmas and the start of this lockdown when I couldn't get enough slots. The kids are pretty good (my eldest in in year 4 and now wears a mask too). I try to avoid it as our local is a small Tesco express and having the 4 of us plus buggy does jam things up, but so many people ignoring the one way system, masks under chins etc that it would feel unbelievably unfair if they singled us out for criticism.

3littlewords · 26/01/2021 22:37

@Fizzybottle

To those asking if I can't leave the children with me at home - yes there is a reason, however it's deeply personal and not something I wish to share in a public forum. So, yes we go as a family, no i can't go alone and no DH cannot go alone and leave me and the kids at home... And at no point has anyone ever asked/ said anything. Other than one time and r apologised we were all there to a shop assistant and she laughed and said bring who you like - that is we very recently and this lockdown
There are other options available to you though such as click and collect or online doorstep deliveries. I appreciate these aren't always options when running low of the basics mid week like milk or bread, but certainly safer options for all concerned when doing a big shop
HelloDulling · 26/01/2021 22:39

I cannot remember the last time I was in a supermarket with DH. Years ago, probably on holiday. In normal times I might have DS with me if I pop in on our way home from something else, but at the moment I go solo, and enjoy the alone time.

Dowser · 26/01/2021 22:42

In my neck of the woods it’s like
Virus?
What virus?
Everything very relaxed, almost back to normal except a few people were wearing masks.
It doesn’t bother me.
Well the 4 adolescents who came in together and got in my fucking way as they were clogging up the aisle, bothered me a bit.
But hey, live and let live.

Dowser · 26/01/2021 22:43

@MsTSwift

Big signs at m&s food hall to shop alone and a bouncer on the door checking. Lidl is a free for all. So I will stick with m&s.
I’d deffo stick with Lidl then
HairyToity · 26/01/2021 22:43

We all had covid at Christmas (sons bubble broke and he brought it in). My kids enjoy a trip out to the supermarket, especially the 3 year old. I didn't used to take them, but now we've had it I do.

I was debating travelling to Chester for homeschool tomorrow, and walking the walls. Thought we could get a takeaway from somewhere and have a wonder around Boots. Pop to Grosvenor Park for kids to have a play.

I only have this attitude as we all recently had covid though, and I know we have immunity for the short term.

3littlewords · 26/01/2021 22:48

@HairyToity does your immunity mean you can't transmit the virus to others asymptomatically?
This is a genuine question BTW im not being goady

chipsandgin · 26/01/2021 23:00

They can’t ‘stop you’ as you may have a valid reason for doing so (disability/single parent/need to walk a significant distance with a weeks worth of shopping with the bags etc) which if the case then fair enough (& you only need to read a few similar threads on here to see the multitude of reasons why), however if you don’t have a valid reason then you are an utter fuckwit.

chipsandgin · 26/01/2021 23:03

(not directed at you OP, or anyone in particular- it’s just hard to believe that the multitude of families in Sainsbury’s, one in particular whose child was having a spectacular coughing fit to the extent the Mum ushered him off to the clothing section recently, ALL need to be having a family trip out!)

FuckOffBorisYouTwat · 26/01/2021 23:20

No and thank fuck they have stopped it around here. Why would anyone without special needs /needing a carer take another person shopping?

Some dickheads have kicked off and our local Tesco's now has security guards because people are nobs.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 07:28

@3littlewords thank you for being so condescending. We shop at lidl. It is vastly cheaper than the places that do online deliveries or click and collect. So despite the clear disapproval of MN, as usual, we will continue to do as we need to do and shop as a family. Funny, the only judgement I've ever had is on here, no one in real life has given any sort of a crap.
Some of you people really need to have a word with yourselves.

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 27/01/2021 07:37

@fizzybottle why can’t your husband go alone? Even if you can’t stay at home with the kids, can’t you all wait wait in the car for 30 mins?

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 07:37

Seriously now I've thought about this a tad more (whilst really unwell in bed which is the entire problem) have you lot NO other things better to do than judge a person on an anonymous forum who has told you that their health and family situation means that they go shopping together? Do you expect that everyone can afford to go to the shops that do click and collect? Do you have SO much of a problem with the four of us (one of whom sits in the trolly and touches nothing and another who is very well behaved and doesn't touch anything and keeps next to us ) going shopping as family? Why on earth do people on here have so little better to do than pick apart people's lives? Get a grip. We go shopping together, we have no other choice, be decent and leave me alone?

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 07:38

[quote YellowandGreenToBeSeen]@fizzybottle why can’t your husband go alone? Even if you can’t stay at home with the kids, can’t you all wait wait in the car for 30 mins?[/quote]
See above. Give it a rest.
We go together. We will continue together and I am not going to answer to you lot.

Fizzybottle · 27/01/2021 07:39

As many people as they like can question me, but I would save the effort, I'm not going to look back at this thread so you are not going to get any further answers from me. I have no need to justify my life to you