Going to be flamed but just asking

[swinglowsweetchariot12]

My mum died a few weeks ago, she always wanted her ashes scattered in Devon on a special date coming up soon and wondered if it would class as an essential visit or would we get risking a fine. We are travelling an hour and a half away.

Please be kind I've just lost my mum and want to carry out her wishes

Hope your day goes well OP, my mum was young too sudden death at nearly 60. Do whatever will make it easiest for you and just remember what you are doing is within guidelines

If you can afford the potential fine then go. If paying the fine would cause you hardship then no. I'm sure your lovely mum wouldn't want you to suffer anymore than you already are.
Sorry for your loss

@tmh88

Hope your day goes well OP, my mum was young too sudden death at nearly 60. Do whatever will make it easiest for you and just remember what you are doing is within guidelines

Oh course, we are going to fill up so we don't have to stop, buy food the day before and it's a strictly zip down, masks on, scatter and zip back. We ve all just had covid recently ( that's how mum died and we are well out of our isolation time) so we wouldn't want anyone else to go through that and we have or have it.

Id Do it wouldn't give it a 2nd thought

Sorry but I would do it and risk the fine. Sorry for your loss x

Just go for it

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm in Devon, according to numbers our cases are down slightly at the moment, so please don't be fearful of carrying out your mums wishes because of that.

I'm sure, you won't be fined. Devon is a massive place with limited resources, I can assure you Police are not turning people away.

And can you imagine the headline - 'couple fined for spreading ashes' never gonna happen.

You could check with police ahead of travelling, but they will just read you the gov guidance and won't say yes or no if that makes sense.

Follow your heart and do what you need to do xxxx

I would do it if it helps you. I’m sorry for your loss.

Best wishes to you and your family, OP it sounds like it's ok under the guidelines but even otherwise I would never judge you for it.

It’s not the scattering of ashes that’s the potential issue as we know from the guidelines that is allowed. It’s the driving hours away to do so, and how the police would respond if stopped.

So sorry for your loss

I absolutely mean it. Happy to pay your fine. If you do go for it, don't worry for a second about if you are doing the right thing. You are. I am so sorry you lost your mum too soon. But I often think if I died tomorrow, I am still a lucky, lucky person with an incredible life. All because I had my two boys. Bet she felt the same about you.

Bear in mind that although you're happy to take the fine, if the police stop you before you get there they will turn you back - they won't just give you a fine and let you carry on. So you'd have a wasted journey.

I think it's unlikely you'd get stopped but I would be prepared for the fact that if you do get stopped you might have to come home as well as take the fine.

You allowed to do this.

Go scatter her ashes.

My dad died of covid a few weeks ago. We will be scattering his ashes.