Older vaccinated people and shopping

[likeamillpond]

My Father had his first vacine last week and now wants me to start taking him to the supermarket to do his shopping.
I have been doing all of his shoppuing for him since the first lockdown.
I'm usually in and out in less than 30 mins, having done his and my shopping. I'm also extremely careful.
He usually takes an hour minimum.

He's now informed me that he wants to resume shopping himself (with me taking him) because
" I've had my jab and I'm 70% safe now"

AIBU to feel a bit miffed that he doesn't care or it hasn't clicked, that by wandering round the supermarket he will be putting my health at risk (I'm fifties so not vacinated yet)

I understand that elderly people are desperate to get out now, but something doesn't sit right.
People have worked really hard to protecf their elderly relative.s.
ItAIBU to want to have the same consideration shown to me? To just wait a few more weeks until ive had my vaccinations.

Anybody else with this same problem?

A younger family member has just got covid and is quite unwell (at home) with covid a few weeks post vaccination.

I would definitely be encouraging your dad to stay home until a second dose.

@Chouxbuncity

Being denied an education isn’t really the same as someone being kind enough to do your shopping for you!

Not sure what your point is, I don’t think I said anything like that. And it’s statements like “being denied an education” which allowed the government to let schools limp along until the whole thing just started unravelling.

My point is everyone is playing their part. Children are paying a particularly high price. There is no point vaccinating people if they all just go wandering around the shops before it’s even had a chance to work:

@Rinoachicken

I read on the BBC there there has been a rush of elderly people booking holidays now they are vaccinated. I have to admit it did make me feel a bit when I read this:

“Dawn and Ray - 75 and 78 years old - are from Hampshire and are due to have their first jab soon. They have just booked five UK holidays.

"We are raring to go once we've got that vaccine, we are really looking forward to it - both of us. We are going to Wales, Leicestershire, to York where there is a mystery tour - and to the Cotswolds'", Dawn said.”

Like others have said, the country has pretty much stopped to protect them (not only them but they have been high up on the list of who needs to be protected), and now they are off around the country on their jollies and fuck the rest of us?

I have also booked lots of UK holidays, seven I believe, nothing to do with the jab, I booked them because I don't want all the availability to be gone and hope for a window between lockdowns to at least take some of them, we went on four last year so were very lucky. You can book holidays too if you wish.

I'm glad that elderly people are booking holidays. At 75 and 78 should they just sit around at home waiting waiting for their turn in a care home?

Tell him that he needs to wait until 3 weeks after his second jab so it’ll be April, then he can go.

@MrsFezziwig

I find it ironic that people are complaining this man is selfish, when for months Mumsnet has been full of posters saying that because they feel they are only at minor risk they will continue to do what they like (and because there is no risk to their children, it’s fine for schools to remain open with minimal safety precautions ?).

Exactly.

Also this is at least the 3rd thread I’ve read which essentially seeks to stoke up a ‘we protected them but they’re too selfish to do the same for us’ narrative. It’s just another load of ageist goady fuckery and it’s disgusting. Whatever happened to ‘protect the vulnerable and let the rest of us get on with our lives’? Now they are going to be properly protected rather than locked up there’s outrage! How dare they be first in the queue rather than meeeeeee!!

I agree with you OP, absolutely no need for you Dad to go shopping. My next door neighbour is the same. She is 76 and in the vulnerable category. I have told her if she needs anything I can get it. She is up and down to the local shops three times a day, just to get out as she says. She also does her big shop on a Friday lunchtime when the shop is packed because that's her routine. Im 39,no health issues and follow the rules to protect vulnerable people like her. I don't know why I bother.

@PinkTonic

Because he’s not fully vaccinated?

It is not the man wanting to have a slow run round the supermarket that gets me. It might be wiser to wait until after three weeks or until the second dose but that is his affair. It is the old guys getting together and partying in a lockdown and pensioners celebrating a load of holidays when our kids cannot even go to school that get me. The point being when the younger generations did/do that then they are selfish granny killers. Not forgetting that I wanted to let the virus “burn through everyone” and put people at risk for wanting schools to stay open.

To just wait a few more weeks until ive had my vaccinations

What category are you in? I think it might be months. Do you really think he should stay indoors for the next six months?

Take him shopping and collect him afterwards. While you shouldn't be shopping together I am not sure how going in with him increases "your" risk?

My own parents have not stayed in much either and have not been careful (such is their choice as independent adults, before anybody jumps down my throat but you still judge it because they've not been careful according to your measurements. My mother has been careful but she has been out. Fed up of all the people on here who think that the over 70s should have stayed indoors since March.

@Buzzinwithbez

I'm glad that elderly people are booking holidays. At 75 and 78 should they just sit around at home waiting waiting for their turn in a care home?

Apparently they should be doing that from 55!

They shouldn't even be going for a walk because the virus will spot them from the sky and swoop down and climb up their nose.

Indoor gatherings are wrong whatever your age, but going shopping isn't an indoor gathering.

How dare older people book holidays for later in the year when they have had their vaccine, something that younger people were able to do last year while older people were staying inside.

Well it’s mid feb now and nothing has changed re schools and the chance of a holiday seems even more remote