Choosing to get pregnant during Convid

[Pan3]

Women complaining / can't understand why their DP can't be at both scans and the birth.
They are trying to find ways around it. Peoople are in intensive care / dying abs can't have family around them.

Infertility / accidents aside why would you plan to have a baby now? If you did / have just suck it up and understand this is how things are for now.

I know the maternity ward is separate and they probably aren't putting extra pressure on the nhs.

My DH missed a birth and all scans. Not a good situation but I knew with him working out of the country this was a possibility. It was either that or wait for him to retire to start a family. 10 years on I regret it but due to his risky job I thought that may have been my only chance to have a baby.

I've seen someone post that her sister and nieces live at the other end of the country and haven't been able to meet her 2 month old. This time last year we didn't know how long this would go on for I get that. Sad all around but when you deliberately fall pregnant during a crisis accept it. I've seen posts this week mentioning 12 week scans surely by then we had some idea of the scale of the pandemic.

Name changed on purpose.

Being able to WFH has been great during pregnancy!

FGS not this one again

Look OP, some of us don't have the time to wait. Personally, at age 40 and with nearly a decade of miscarriages and failed fertility treatment behind me, and nobody can find a reason why, I don't give a flying toss about having the perfect experience, just having a baby in any circumstances would be enough. I take it that you're under 35 and/or have kids already?

I started trying after fasting ( ramadan) in May 2020. It was now or never and l was turning 33 this year so really didn't want to wait any longer. To be honest l have no problem going to scans and appointments alone, as both myself and husband are keyworkers. My husband was unable to get time off as things were all over the place.

I Still feel blessed and l can't wait for my little one to come. And then start planning for the next one hopefully.

@Greenbks the first one

@LBB2020 This is what I was trying to say

@pan3 From reading this post you must have a lot of issues surrounding your own experience of being pregnant / not having your partner there. Don’t project your anger towards that on other women. Have some empathy and understanding, or it’s just permanently going to leave you feeling bitter and resentful.

So fed up with the complete lack of compassion this lockdown has bought out.

And you changed your name, so obviously knew this would upset people.

Argh.

And for anyone who’s pregnant and finding hard / lonely without your partner at the scans etc. It will be strange, and it is such a shame they can’t make it. But it will totally worth it when the little one comes A pandemic can’t stop you being a family, even though for some of the pregnancy you might not be able to do it together xxx

name change because you either dont stand behind your comments or aren't strong enough to share your opinions with people you know...that's a bit weak/sad

Sounds like you're a little disappointed about your own experiences as well. Sorry to hear that.

We're expecting our 2nd this year. Can't wait. Anyone else pregnant or just given birth hope it goes well for you! May not be the same but will still be special in it's own way!

I fell pregnant early July when the restrictions were being lifted. I nor anybody else, expected us to be where we are now back then.
Also mind your own business