I'm a SAHM/self employed business owner. DS went back to school today (the school offered him a place) after three days of meltdowns, physical attacks and smashing the house up. He has ASD and couldn't cope with the abrupt change in routine. DD is still at home with me. I feel like utter shit about it, but he was hurting himself, and for the first time in many years, I couldn't reach him at all, much less get a handle on the situation.
During the last lockdown, we were just at home, there wasn't work provided, and wasn't any expectations on him, so all we had to contend with was supporting him with the change in routine. This time he has distance learning to do, and a Teams meeting with his teachers on a morning where he saw his friends as well. It was a step too far.
The executive head, head teacher and the staff from his class discussed the situation amongst themselves and asked if I'd like him to return to school. He's gone back today, I'm hoping he'll calm enough that we can do a gradual retreat back to being home at least part if not all of the time.
I'm not a lazy parent, nor am I ignorant of the risks of COVID to everyone. Please don't assume that because on the face of it, families could easily keep their DC at home, but are sending them in to school, that they're lazy/ignorant/don't care etc. Some of us had a decision to make between one shitty choice and another (I know I'm not the only one in this position at the moment). I made the one that I thought was best for both of my DC. It wasn't a case of 'oh great, he's not my problem any more' and palming him off because I CBA to home school.