Feeling so negative...foreign travel related

[Iamclearlyamug]

I haven’t seen my fiancé since September. Planned to fly out in November - cancelled due to lockdown. Planned to fly out Boxing Day - into tier 4, cancelled. Planned to fly January 11th, back into lockdown until at least February 15

I really can’t see when I’m going to see him and it’s killing me, not to mention putting enormous strain on our relationship. Nobody cares. I honestly feel like ending it all

I know how you feel OP. Me and my children haven’t seen my husband since January 2020 and it will be exactly a year tomorrow since he left home for work abroad. He was supposed to come end of March and then lockdown and then summer holiday came and go and then planned for Christmas holiday again didn’t happen and now another lockdown.

I totally understand, me and my children have spent 7 months apart from DH who works abroad. It is horrible, not having an end date in sight makes it unbearable at times.

Well sonce we are still letting people into the UK willy nilly, why doesn't he come to you ?

Partner won’t see his son or me until god knows when as now he needs a visa, not allowed to fly due to Tier 4 and new job falling through because of restrictions here. Was meant to be just over a month apart.

Thanks everyone, I’m so sorry you’re all going through the same thing but equally i don’t feel so alone knowing there are people who truly know how it feels.

So many people say wanting to be able to travel is selfish and unnecessary - well it isn’t for all of us 😥😥

And @AnyFucker visa problems unfortunately, I have to go to him until we can get it sorted

Actually it is unnecessary in your situation, no matter how tough it is.

I know it’s shit but there’s more at stake here than people seeing their boyfriends/girlfriends!

Ah, bugger. Is he doing all he can to get it sorted or is he happy for you to a do all the (literal) leg work ?

Just a thought. Anyway, good luck. This whole situation is shit for many reasons.

It’s grim. I usually see at least some of my family 2-3 times a year - it was part of the deal we made when we decided to live here and not in my home country.

I haven’t seen my parents since Christmas 2019 and my wider family since the previous August. It looks like it will be at least 2022 before I get to see any of them again, if not longer. By then the nephew I’ve never met will be over 2. And my parents will have lost two of the years they’re still feeling fit enough for long haul travel.

We talk a lot, but it’s not the same as being with them. I hate it.

But you can go surely - it’s just a bit more difficult! Are you working at home or do you have to go out to work? What about him?

I went back to Ireland twice since last year - I went both times for a month - isolated for the first 2 weeks in my room! and then was able to live in my parents house with them for the next 2 weeks !
Can’t you do something similar?

As I was working from home I just worked from their house!

I’m due a baby soon and they are going to come here to the U.K. to stay for 8weeks!! Isolate first in an air bnb and then move in with us

@Heyahun I’m self employed so work wise it isn’t a problem, but we’re in tier 4 and I thought international travel was banned unless you’re a fat cat travelling on Uber-important business 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ flights are also banned from the UK there as it stands although that part is getting reviewed soon 🙂

Ahh yes the flights are temporarily cancelled sorry I totally forgot.

Once that’s lifted I’d just go I’d I was you and stay for a long while

When I travelled it wasn’t really allowed but I wasn’t questioned and I did the isolation thing on arrival to ensure I wasn’t a risk to my parents

It must be so awful to be separated so long

When I travelled it wasn’t really allowed

Yeah, thanks for that. 🙄 😡

OP (and others in the same position) I sympathise. I'm lucky in that my DP is in the same country, although 200 miles away, so we can still see each other (,support bubble). I'd hate to be separated indefinitely, I know both our MH would really suffer. I hope you are able to find a solution soon. Half of Instasham seems to be in Dubai or the Caribbean even though travel for non work purposes is banned allegedly.

@Heyahun oh really? They didn’t question why you were travelling - that’s really useful to know thanks 😊 please ignore this other poster, clearly has no idea how much other people are struggling - you clearly posed no risk with the steps you had in place

[quote Iamclearlyamug]@Heyahun oh really? They didn’t question why you were travelling - that’s really useful to know thanks 😊 please ignore this other poster, clearly has no idea how much other people are struggling - you clearly posed no risk with the steps you had in place[/quote]
If you’re talking about me then no, I wish people from the fucking U.K. wouldn’t ignore it because the influx of you to Ireland contributed to the shit show we’re in now.

Making life harder and more dangerous for me and my family.

None of you are so special that you shouldn’t follow the rules.

I am really sorry to hear - i hope you get to go soon

As for some of the reponses on here - quite astounding.

@OhCaptain well thankfully I’m not planning on travelling to Ireland so my plans really don’t affect you

Thanks so much to everyone who has been supportive, it really does mean a lot - I’m not usually the emotional type but I think I’ve cried more in the last 3 months than in my entire life!

[quote Iamclearlyamug]@OhCaptain well thankfully I’m not planning on travelling to Ireland so my plans really don’t affect you

Thanks so much to everyone who has been supportive, it really does mean a lot - I’m not usually the emotional type but I think I’ve cried more in the last 3 months than in my entire life![/quote]
Oh that’s ok then.

where does he live OP?

Oh that’s ok then. hmm

Yeah, it is okay. She isn't going - what else do you want her to say?

@OhCaptain I’m from Ireland not the U.K. - i just live here ! I went directly to my parents house and never left their house again the whole time I was there for a month so don’t see how I was spreading it around! But anyway!!

Il likely be moving back there next summer - probably should be banned from being allowed move back to my where I’m from maybe that would be best - ffs 🤦‍♀️

Just seen this thread - DS moved to Sydney in 2019, we saw him briefly that Christmas when he came home for less than a week. We've subsequently had four flights cancelled, including Easter and June 2021 - thanks BA! So I was feeling quite sad for myself.

But then I read of those of you with partners away, and children not seeing their daddy, and it puts my complaints into perspective.

Wishing us all the opportunity of safe and healthy travel in the not too distant future.

@Iamclearlyamug they aren’t questioning anyone tbh - my husband had to travel as well to his mum - she is elderly and lives alone and she had a bad fall - he deemed that bloody essential to go and look after her for a few weeks so he went - again no questions at all!

I think a trip to see your finance of your go there and isolate and then stay at his house afterwards for a long period of time then your low risk to anyone! It’s o to baby riskier to go to a bloody supermarket tbh

What galls me about not being able to travel is that if you claim to be an 'influencer' and it is 'business', off you can go to Dubai (that place which is not exactly LGBT friendly), though I think that may change (only ten months later than it should have been).

Yet I cannot go to visit the memorial to my family killed by the Nazis, and there are people in the OPs situation.