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Would you be more or less compliant, knowing then what you know now?

86 replies

BlowDryRat · 05/01/2021 17:33

Thinking back to March last year...

  • Terrifying daily images of Italians dying on hospital floors.
  • Empty supermarket shelves.
  • Thinking we'd be locked down for a few weeks and all the kids would be back to school for summer term.

I was due to get married the weekend before lockdown. We postponed it to September over safety concerns. If I'd known then what I know now, I would have just gone ahead.

How about you?

OP posts:
CarolEffingBaskin · 05/01/2021 21:21

I would never have stopped my vulnerable child from going to school. And, I wouldn't tell my children they can't play in a bloody playground either. Ludicrous.

Apart from that... I'm good.

herecomesthsun · 05/01/2021 21:24

Same level of compliance (very high) as CEV.

It's not for the government, it's to keep me and my family safe, and to have less death around us.

SplunkPostGres · 05/01/2021 21:33

I’m at the point of Winston and the rat in 1984. I really don’t care what the consequences are for other people, I just want it to stop affecting me right now, whatever that means for anyone else. I’ve worked throughout all of this, and been a single parent to a 6 now 7 year old. At Christmas, I didn’t see anyone between my son going to ex husbands on the 18 December and picking him up on 27th. We haven’t left the house since Saturday due to Wales’ ‘no travelling for exercise rule’. Work is really full on as I work in IT. And home schooling is meant to start tomorrow. We don’t have anyone to lose to CV, but we’ve had to restrict our lives for the types of the people who were bubbling up at Christmas and are now continuing to use family for childcare. If I had to do it all again, I wouldn’t do it.

Eesha · 05/01/2021 21:43

I'm much more wary now as close people have been impacted. One in intensive care and critical, had to wait two hours in an ambulance for a bed to become available. Another had to wait 18hrs for an ambulance. I know a lot more people who have it and I feel like now I need to be ultra careful for a bit

whatkatydid2013 · 05/01/2021 21:52

I’d have let my parents help with childcare after we’d all spent 2 weeks isolating at the beginning. At the time there was a lot more concern about contracting from surfaces of food/parcels etc but now it seems that’s actually pretty unlikely

MsTSwift · 05/01/2021 22:02

Happy with our choices. Had incredible summer so so glad we did.

Fortyfifty · 06/01/2021 07:32

I'd probably have traveled to visit my parents and Inlaws in May as that is when we were at close to zero risk of being covid +. Both teens studying at home, DH teaching from home and me working from home. At that point we'd not mixed with anyone, even outside, for 2 months.

Once we were allowed to see other people, my teens are seeing friends and we were seeing friends and it was more risky.

Lottie4 · 06/01/2021 08:09

OP, hard for you as you had an important event planned. Other than holidays and generally living my life I didn't. Either way, I've followed the rules throughout and will continue to do so.

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BlowDryRat · 06/01/2021 08:12

@fmlfmlfmlfm

I'd have bought shares in face masks.
Grin

I would have booked a holiday for the summer too. We had a few days by the seaside though.

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Charlottejbt · 06/01/2021 08:17

I didn’t clap the NHS, donate to Captain Tom or anything like that last year though.

You unpatriotic monster! :) (Me neither.)

I think I had Covid in February. The same symptoms as Tom Hanks. I wish I'd gone into the local Conservative Club and coughed in everyone's faces.

megletthesecond · 06/01/2021 08:20

Same. Very compliant. Less scared now though.
Just bored and want to get the next year or so out the way.

Northernsoullover · 06/01/2021 08:28

@Charlottejbt

I didn’t clap the NHS, donate to Captain Tom or anything like that last year though.

You unpatriotic monster! :) (Me neither.)

I think I had Covid in February. The same symptoms as Tom Hanks. I wish I'd gone into the local Conservative Club and coughed in everyone's faces.

That's a bit nasty. My local cons club doesn't have a single Conservative in it. They go for cheap beer and community! I haven't complied with anything. I was studying epidemiology, public health at the time of the outbreak and now I'm working in the area. I really did do my own risk assessment and didn't need telling. All instruction from the inept government came too late.
Wellhelloooo · 06/01/2021 08:28

I was more concerned last time than this time. But even then it was ‘rather not get it’ than mass hysteria about a virus that is highly highly unlikely (yes, possible) to harm you under age 70.

Spikeyball · 06/01/2021 08:42

I would have worried less about having to break rules that not breaking them led to my son being in more distress. Things like going for car rides and not staying very local for walks but going on the further afield walks that he usually goes on. Basically we will carry on with what we have been doing since the summer because I am not putting his mental health at risk again.

Ihaveoflate · 06/01/2021 08:44

I would still stick to the guidance again but I wouldn't be so scared and I wouldn't wipe down all the bloody shopping!

I do wish I'd enjoyed the summer more and taken the opportunity to socialise with friends. I also wish I'd allowed family to hold my baby - she turned 1 in July and we still weren't allowing any physical contact, not even on her birthday. I think that was over cautious with hindsight.

LindaEllen · 06/01/2021 08:54

I'd comply, just like I did, do and will.

But I wouldn't be as scared about catching it on a personal level.

When I caught it I was terrified. But if DP hadn't tested positive I probably would have written my own symptoms off as just being run down. It was a non event. But I would still comply because obviously not everyone is that lucky.

My grandad was unwell over Easter with it and it was just the worst time. The anxiety at that point was unreal. We couldn't see him or contact him. We were told he wouldn't be given any treatment other than palliative if he deteriorated. Thank god he somehow found the strength to fight it and made a full recovery - albeit after a few months. But for that reason, I don't want anyone else going through that themselves or with their relatives.

You may say it mainly affects over 80s. My grandad it over 80, he has a wonderful life, fully independent, travels all over the world, meets his mates at the pub every week (when allowed!), he and my gran take care of themselves completely. His life ending because of this would have been a great loss and an absolute tragedy. It's not the case that a life at 80 has no more to gain or to give.

Haggertyjane · 06/01/2021 09:29

I don't know how many thousands of times it needs saying, but it's not about the age of the people dying or dying at all, it's about the NHS being overwhelmed and treatments of all kinds being cancelled. Cancer treatments, normal severe illness, emergency operations and so on being impacted.

This is the reason we need to stick to the rules regardless of timing

I'm more scared now because of long covid, the ease of spread and having older relatives die from it.

jessstan1 · 06/01/2021 09:39

People didn't comply very well with the wishy washy lockdown we had last time, it was laughable. Then it was lifted up to a point. Then more so over Christmas. If restrictions had been thoroughly enforced and for longer we might not be in the predicament we are now. I just hope it works this time.

MrsMiaWallis · 06/01/2021 09:40

I've been compliant throughout.

MrsMiaWallis · 06/01/2021 09:41

You may say it mainly affects over 80s. My grandad it over 80, he has a wonderful life, fully independent, travels all over the world, meets his mates at the pub every week (when allowed!), he and my gran take care of themselves completely. His life ending because of this would have been a great loss and an absolute tragedy. It's not the case that a life at 80 has no more to gain or to give

One of my best friends is 86. Your gdad sounds fab.

DenisetheMenace · 06/01/2021 09:42

Been compliant throughout, had to be (family circumstances). Actually more worried now than in March. Reports from many hospitals are telling us that the demographic is changing, with more and more younger people in ICUs.

lockdownbreakdown · 06/01/2021 09:44

I would have bought shares in Amazon and zoom then paid off the mortgage.

Ebhc · 06/01/2021 09:46

Still compliant but no fear this time. Crazy to think how nervous I was leave to the house first time around.

Ebhc · 06/01/2021 09:47

*to leave the house...

MissMatchedClaws · 06/01/2021 09:52

I'd have pressured DH to use his key worker status to keep our daughters in school.

We're in an area with really, really high keyworker numbers and it felt like they were having to watch so many of their friends go to primary school while they were trapped at home.

It was appalling for their mental health and wellbeing.

Same this time round, only now the local keyworker places are absolutely full so we still don't have one.