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I may have broken the rules today Title edited by MNHQ

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floralnan · 04/01/2021 19:24

I own a florist in a tier 4 area. We are currently closed as classed as non essential but are able to work behind closed doors and offer contactless delivery. Today an elderly gentleman knocked on the shop door, he wanted to order flowers for his wife's funeral, he was clearly upset and it was freezing outside. So i broke the rules and let him come inside. It just seamed cruel to leave him in the street. So was i unreasonable to break the rules?

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JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 04/01/2021 19:39

You're lovely OP, that would have made a real difference to his day.

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floralnan · 04/01/2021 19:39

@AlternativePerspective

Tbh your thread title is goadie.

No doubt most would have done the same but was there really any need to start a potentially goadie thread about it?

What would be a better title? I was questioning if I was correct to break the rules? I think I was and would do so again but i could face fines ect as it is against the rules

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moglovesmincepies · 04/01/2021 19:39

Totally the right thing. Poor man.

Mammma91 · 04/01/2021 19:40

You sound like a kind hearted person. Its inhumane to leave a broken, grieving man on the streets in the middle of winter only looking for flowers for his wife’s funeral.

You done the right thing OP. Well done for not breaking his heart all over again.

AlternativePerspective · 04/01/2021 19:41

So you joined mn just to tell us that?

itsgettingweird · 04/01/2021 19:42

Totally.

It was 1 person. If you socially distance and wear a mask I can't see it was any more risk than a supermarket or he's going to be in attending his wife's funeral.

And the rules actually do allow you to provide care for someone vulnerable. If this doesn't come under that what is humanity coming to?

VVKills27 · 04/01/2021 19:42

Like you, I have tried to always follow the rules but this is the most understandable reasons for breaking them that I’ve heard of; very sweet and compassionate indeed, you shouldn’t feel you’ve done anything wrong x

MagicMatilda · 04/01/2021 19:43

You’ve been a lovely human. Acts like this are still very much needed.

WunWun · 04/01/2021 19:43

Why are you asking? Because you want to revell in millions of posters sobbing about it and telling you what a wonderful person you are. Real or not, it boils my blood that people are so desperate for this kind of attention. It's really fucking low.

A better title would have been none

WunWun · 04/01/2021 19:44

She doesn't feel she's done anything wrong. She just wants a 1000 posts pouring praise over her head about something literally anyone alive would have done.

SteelMack · 04/01/2021 19:45

Unless you inadvertently gave him covid whilst breaking the rules. Wouldn't be so kind then would it?!

AlternativePerspective · 04/01/2021 19:46

WTH? What kind of a numpty would find this goady? So, someone joins mn, and their first post is entitled “I broke the rules today.” You really don’t think that is goadie? Really?

And if it was a name change, they would know exactly what kind of response they’d get because this site is full of people talking about doing x and y in the name of not following the rules.

You really don’t think that it was meant to goad a response?

Paisley2018 · 04/01/2021 19:46

Here goes...
Yes you did break the rules but you also showed kindness to a grieving stranger.
Now off you go, give yourself a big pay on the back for being such a wonderful person

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floralnan · 04/01/2021 19:48

@AlternativePerspective

So you joined mn just to tell us that?

Where does it say i just joined, don't usually post as i'm more of a lurker. Does that mean i'm never allowed to post?

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Ninkanink · 04/01/2021 19:49

No I don’t think it was intended to be goady. I think people get way too het up about ‘the rules’ anyway. There’s no need to froth about it.

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floralnan · 04/01/2021 19:51

@WunWun

A better title would have been none

I was posting as i feel sometimes we need to question the rules. I don't need people to tell me i'm wonderful, I did what I felt was right but was against the rules.

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WhatACrockOfShit · 04/01/2021 19:52

@WunWun

A better title would have been none

My thoughts entirely

NoDramaMama14 · 04/01/2021 19:52

Florists should be essential with the rate in funerals going up.

MrsGrindah · 04/01/2021 19:54

But there are thousands of threads questioning the rules? It’s a sad tale but I’m not sure what you have achieved.

Yogaposer · 04/01/2021 19:55

Your kindness to that man in a time of grief and despair may well have made a huge difference to his day.
(I'm not crying there is something in my eye).

WunWun · 04/01/2021 19:58

Oh please.

kidscreatemess · 04/01/2021 20:08

I empathise with the need for justification when breaking the rules (or even when following them!). Somehow lockdown has made many of us paranoid about the whole thing.

What you did was kind and right. I'm sure there was very little risk of transmitting covid if you followed the hands, face, space rules.

Don't fret!

theotherfossilsister · 04/01/2021 20:20

Of course yanbu. Poor man. we broke the rules at my work when a woman fainted outside. No regrets. And we are public sector.

Burpeesshmurpees · 04/01/2021 20:50

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partyatthepalace · 04/01/2021 21:07

Anyone would have done the same. Great you were there.

Glad you are able to keep the business going.

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