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To think that not everyone is scared

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loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 18:19

Of catching Covid....?

I'm sure I'll be flamed to within an inch of my life but never mind. And yes, this thread may have been done to death before but hey ho.

Having read countless threads today about schools closing/not closing and cases rocketing/going down, can I get a sense check of who is terrified about catching Covid (and why) and who is not?

For balance, I also read a thread the other day from a person who is clinically vulnerable and whose DH had just tested positive and she was terrified. Almost the entire thread was filled by other clinically vulnerable people who had had Covid and told her not to worry.

So, while we can all agree that yes, this is a novel virus and yes, people will die because that happens with any virus, is this the virus which we should all be terrified of?

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Unsure33 · 03/01/2021 19:51

@hamstersarse

My aunt and uncle died of covid.my husbands aunt and uncle died of covid

My cousins family all have it . Her husband has been seriously ill . Her FIL died within days . Her MIL is still in hospital.

My BIL has been very ill with it for weeks .

A friends 30 year old daughter has been in hospital with covid .

Just appreciate you have been lucky .

BritWifeinUSA · 03/01/2021 19:51

@ddl1

I'm pretty scared! Not just of Covid, but of getting seriously ill with anything and not being able to get adequate treatment because the hospitals are at near breaking point.
Hospitals are no closing to breaking point than they are every winter. Have a look at the last 10 years of news over the winter period. I’ll make it easy for you:
To think that not everyone is scared
Mincepiehangover · 03/01/2021 19:52

@londonFE took the words right out of my mouth!
Totally agree with everything you said!

tisonlymeagain · 03/01/2021 19:54

But the chances of this happening are rare. Of course, it's devastating if it's you or a loved one who is unlucky to be the one. But it's still statistically rare. Without sounding utterly heartless, does it warrant the reaction that's taking place?

I agree @loveisagirlnameddaisy - the risk is probably greater from other illnesses.

We're all at risk of getting normal flu and dying every year, but we're not afraid of that?

We've all got a really high chance of developing cancer at one point in our life, but we continue to live our lives.

Anyone one of us could get a simple infection at any moment and develop sepsis and die, but we don't live in constant fear of it.

wanderings · 03/01/2021 19:55

@Unsure33 As I have said on another thread, it's very easy for Kier Starmer to "call for full lockdown" because he's not in government: he doesn't have to deal with the consequences, and it's most unlikely that he'll get a shot at being in government for a while yet, so he could come out with complete nonsense if he wished; in a few weeks' time he might say the complete opposite, and people might not remember. He might be saying it because he genuinely believes it's the right thing to do, or he might be playing the political game and be doing it to wrong-foot the government. As also stated on another thread, now that he has "called for it", the saintly Mr. Johnson might now decide not to call an immediate lockdown, for no other reason than to spite him: sometimes I think that is the way politicians' brains work.

BritWifeinUSA · 03/01/2021 19:55

[quote Unsure33]@wanderings

So what do you think of starmer calling for complete lockdown then. For the whole country?[/quote]
Because it’s easy for him. He won’t miss a pay cheque.

firstimemamma · 03/01/2021 19:57

I'm not scared of catching it and neither is dp and he is nhs frontline. We aren't bothered if our son gets it either.

What does bother us is a future generation who aren't building up an immune system due to everything being sanitised and who aren't building any social skills. There are children who haven't seen another child at all since March last year and I really do find that so sad. I could go on.

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loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 19:57

48,000 deaths from sepsis each year...

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unmarkedbythat · 03/01/2021 19:57

Loads of my colleagues have had it and there is such variation in experience. Sometimes I am so afraid. Sometimes I am almost blasé. I am afraid for vulnerable people all the time.

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loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 19:57

That was a reply to tisonlymeagain

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tisonlymeagain · 03/01/2021 19:58

@firstimemamma

I'm not scared of catching it and neither is dp and he is nhs frontline. We aren't bothered if our son gets it either.

What does bother us is a future generation who aren't building up an immune system due to everything being sanitised and who aren't building any social skills. There are children who haven't seen another child at all since March last year and I really do find that so sad. I could go on.

The social, emotional and mental repercussions are going to be far-reaching that's for sure.
AcornAutumn · 03/01/2021 19:58

BritWife exactly. Late father was a doctor, worked many worse winters.

A poster in another thread asked me how many pandemics dad worked through. I gave her a list and got no reply.

No one knows the future. One Sunday my dad drove 50 miles to my sister. He enjoyed the visit and the drive.

By Wednesday he was hospitalised. Three months later he was dead. I'm glad he's not here to see this because I'd have been put in jail for raiding the care home or summat! 😂

EatSlugs · 03/01/2021 19:58

No I'm not. I think people have lost sight somewhat as to the effects this virus is likely to have on the vast majority of people who get it. And I agree with PP, people who post on SM, including MN are all the absolutely terrified because everyone else is just quietly getting on with it and they shout the loudest. I swear if someone with bad MH or anxiety already came on MN some days, they'd end up suicidal thinking the world were ending.

I'm far more worried about the economical knock on effect on things like businesses etc...

We had Covid a few months back, positive test, and other than a slightly raised temp and a headache, it didn't affect any of us at all. None of us even had a cough.

I appreciate it's not the same for everyone but I know far more people who've had it like this, or had it and been completely asymptomatic than I know who've been really ill with it and whilst I appreciate that has unfortunately not been the case for everyone, it's almost like you're not allowed to admit that as if it's really wrong to try and reassure anyone.

tisonlymeagain · 03/01/2021 19:59

@loveisagirlnameddaisy

48,000 deaths from sepsis each year...
A friend of mine had sepsis and it was truly awful, she has lasting effects years later.
RoomOfRequirement · 03/01/2021 20:00

My worry was never about catching Covid myself, it was about either catching it and spreading it to someone who wouldn't be ok, or too many people within the hospital system meaning not enough space for non-covid. I had Covid and was ok, but still worried about hospitals.

Guylan · 03/01/2021 20:00

Studies suggest my dear mum at age 75 has a 1 in 10 chance of dying should she get it so worried for her.

Death also not the only possibility, there is long CoVid, a worry. Surveys so far suggest ages 30-50 most affected, then ages 20-29. 22 years of ME for me, triggered by a virus. Last 8 years bedridden, am severely affected, it’s incredibly tough. There are fears some with long CoVid may follow similar trajectory/become chronic. Appears Long CoVid may have 3 subgroups, some recover after few months, some their symptoms may be from organ damage and third group have some similarities with ME. Note for this third group there are similarities and differences with ME, not identical.

Finally, for me if I got CoVid, death isn’t my primary fear further deterioration of my severe ME and even more hellish quality of life is. Infections can trigger deterioration in ME.

Franklyfrost · 03/01/2021 20:02

Scared that because of covid the nhs will not be able to provide the service we’re used to and lives will be lost from major trauma and illnesses that previously the nhs would have had the resources to treat. Several people close to me have had their lives saved by nhs services. Please wear a mask and keep your distance, it costs nothing.

hamstersarse · 03/01/2021 20:02

@Sproutgrower

Well having worked for the nhs the last 15 years id say you should be afraid, maybe not for yourself or your kids but older neighbours, friends with asthma, parents, anyone is who is heavier. Some of my friends and colleagues have got/had it and were fine, I’ve lost two colleagues, a friend and had several on ITU. You just don’t know which way it’s going to go and how it will affect you
My ds18 had it and has asthma and had covid with no adverse reactions.

Although we do follow a lot of ‘conspiracy theory’ advice and ensure we take vitamin D, zinc, have low BMI and keep away from poisonous junk food entirely Wink

Needsleeeeepsendheeeelp · 03/01/2021 20:03

I'm not scared of Covid, but I am concerned about the capacity of our hospitals to provide treatment for non covid patients. I have a DS with a lifelong health complication, and the prospect of him not getting the urgent care he may need because of capacity, staffing or similar is quite frightening. The non compliance with lockdown, rules etc is as much about this as it is preventing the spread of this virus itself.

Sweetener101 · 03/01/2021 20:03

No fear of covid, very worried for my children’s future.

Pukkatea · 03/01/2021 20:03

Well I'm 31, healthy and currently 3 weeks into what has been the worst experience of my life. I cannot believe how ill I have felt and there seems no end in sight. My previously healthy friend of the same age is still unable to work 9 months after having Covid.

PurpleFrames · 03/01/2021 20:04

I'm much more scared of the rapid deterioration in my mental health and the potential of a hospital admission (no visitors, no activities, mixed sex wards) than Covid.

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 03/01/2021 20:04

I'm not scared of COVID but I am terrified for our economy and our children's future

AcornAutumn · 03/01/2021 20:05

Guylan "Studies suggest my dear mum at age 75 has a 1 in 10 chance of dying should she get it so worried for her"

Do you have a link fo a study that says this? It sounds highly unlikely.

MarshaBradyo · 03/01/2021 20:05

@Sproutgrower

Well having worked for the nhs the last 15 years id say you should be afraid, maybe not for yourself or your kids but older neighbours, friends with asthma, parents, anyone is who is heavier. Some of my friends and colleagues have got/had it and were fine, I’ve lost two colleagues, a friend and had several on ITU. You just don’t know which way it’s going to go and how it will affect you
But what does being afraid do if you are not due the vaccine for ages?

When the country is opened up and everyone is mixing, going out should the low risk keep everyone home?

I’m following the rules as I can see hospitalisation is the issue now but when it’s not why won’t it keep spreading?

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