AIBU to feel smug

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I was disappointed to see a friend mixing with other people in a house Xmas week (5 households) and then attending three small NYE house gatherings.

This friend has now found out one of the people they were with has tested positive and the friend is 'woe is me'.

I think it serves them right! I know they're worried about the effects of one of their household getting it and will have anxiety now but just feel if it mattered that much then don't go partying in a pandemic!?

YANBU to feel smug, it's a human emotion.

YABU to virtue signal by posting about it, IMO! Hopefully you won't feel so smug if one of them becomes seriously ill.

Totally unreasonable. Get some empathy

I don't understand why people get gleeful about other people's problems. Especially when you call this person a friend -- you aren't a 'friend' to them, are you?

Regardless of what rules they broke, feeling smug about someone being ill as a result is unreasonable. Would you feel so smug if they ended up in ITU? Or died?

Why would you feel smug about that? Weird.

Feel whatever emotions you want but it's pathetic to gloat about it here.

Would you even feel guilty if anyone involved died from COVID?

She shouldn't have mixed but she's surely learnt her lesson.

The mixing has been going on for months. It's not the first time they've had a close shave. Of course I don't want them to be ill or die, I want them to live by the rules like everyone else and not feel sorry for themselves when they broke the rules and it wasn't worth the risk.

We're told people having house parties will have blood on their hands. None of them care until it affects them.

This virus has certainly shown the vindictive and nasty side of many.
I can't understand how someone could gloat and wish harm on others. This virus is awful, my husband has shielded since March. He had to attend a hospital appointment for his diabetes. He caught the virus and is in intensive care.
You're certainly no ' friend' OP

This virus has certainly shown the vindictive and nasty side of many.
I can't understand how someone could gloat and wish harm on others. This virus is awful, my husband has shielded since March. He had to attend a hospital appointment for his diabetes. He caught the virus and is in intensive care.
You're certainly no ' friend' OP

This 👆🏼

I hope your husband is ok ❤️

Er, yeah. You're an asshole.

Bit of a cow aren't you. Certainly not a friend.

Smugness is distasteful but doesn't kill anyone. Partying does at the moment.

I do hope none of the people mixing with each other become ill, the NHS doesn't need more admissions. However I would be really irritated with the "woe is me" attitude after they've taken so many risks.

It's amazing the swing that the public consciousness has gone through with regard to covid. If someone comes on MN and says something along the lines of 'my friend was other woman now she's being cheated on and is miserable and moaning about it' everyone says - karma, she deserves it.

Mainly because it's an important social rule that we need to maintain for our own relationships. Now that everyone is sick of the covid rules and more and more seem to be breaking them posters are gleefully loving shitting on those who try to support the rules and look down on rule breakers.

Seeing multiple households and having gatherings can kill people (the poster who's husband caught it at hospital; could easily have been from someone who was not being cautious so no idea why you're so blasé) - the OP's 'friend' is a dickhead, pure and simple. It is very human to see someone suffering the natural consequence of stupid/selfish/idiotic choices and frankly to feel that is was deserved.

You’re not really a friend are you OP? I think you should end the friendship, they’d be better off without you

Why would you feel smug about someone's vulnerable relative being at risk?!

I can understand why you might think - well that was gonna happen - but that is not the same thing...

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This virus has certainly shown the vindictive and nasty side of many. I can't understand how someone could gloat and wish harm on others. This virus is awful, my husband has shielded since March. He had to attend a hospital appointment for his diabetes. He caught the virus and is in intensive care. You're certainly no ' friend' OP

I am really sorry to hear about your husband, I hope he improves soon .

I would very gently say though, it’s people like the OP’s friend who have actually put people in harm’s way and raised cases in and outside hospital. Feeling smug doesn’t infect anyone, mixing with others does. The friend hasn’t just wished or gloated about harm, she has actually inflicted it.

A few of my friends have broken the rules since this began. I don’t approve but I don’t wish them ill either. I hope we all get through this in one piece.

You sound nice.

I've seen similar, extended family members disregarding rules and traveling out of our tier for night out.
I don't wish them ill as we've lost family members to Covid and I feel they should be more sensible.
I do think I wouldn't be unhappy if they were fined as despite deaths from
Covid in our family they still behave so stupidly.
It's a tough one at the moment as we are all exhausted and over it. I do understand people struggling and needing contact but not repeated rule breaking, traveling out of their tier, hosting parties, going to house parties, spreading germs, not giving a shit about others is unfair and only makes people pissed off.

Can’t believe you’re being criticised. Obviously you hope it won’t be serious etc but these people have been breaking the rules more than just a bit. I think they should be exempt from NHS treatment. They are the reason why life is so crap. Fucking ignorant people are keeping it going. Feel smug, wish them well, lose touch.

You’re very unpleasant. I really am glad I’m not your friend.

People have reasons for breaking the rules. Living like this isn’t normal

Get some therapy, for god's sake. You sound like you need some.

What a weird friend you are