AIBU to feel smug

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I was disappointed to see a friend mixing with other people in a house Xmas week (5 households) and then attending three small NYE house gatherings.

This friend has now found out one of the people they were with has tested positive and the friend is 'woe is me'.

I think it serves them right! I know they're worried about the effects of one of their household getting it and will have anxiety now but just feel if it mattered that much then don't go partying in a pandemic!?

I don’t know if I would feel ‘smug’ about it.
I’m sure now she realises how easy it is to catch this horrid virus. She has been irresponsible partying and mixing with lots of other households. She must realise this now.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

The rule on here seems to be that anyone on here who gets COVID is instantly elevated to sainthood, no matter how much of a selfish twat they are, or how many lives they put at risk. Meanwhile anyone who dares to be about them is vile, loathsome, going straight to hell etc.

Really? I see the opposite on here. Anyone who catches it must have been being irresponsible and breaking the rules. They’ve got blood on their hands, apparently. Unless they’re the ones who end up seriously ill in hospital. Then they’re innocent victims.

I'll be honest, I find it exceptionally hard to feel any sympathy whatsoever for people that knowing put themselves at risk. They deserve what they get

I find it very disturbing that OP is being a hard time, she hasn’t actually wished her friend ill, just pointed out that she got what she might reasonably have expected. She is getting a harder time for that than the friend is for selfishly risking lives and livelihoods. Seriously strange responses. I would be ditching said friend fast anyway, I wouldn’t be able to have any respect for them after such ridiculous behaviour.

OP has said she doesn’t wish her friend to be ill. The friend has literally proven she couldn’t care less who is ill and who dies. Don’t kid yourself that all those gatherings she was involved in haven’t contributed to some dire consequences down the line.

I think the problem here is how you have worded your post.

It makes you come across like a twat.

However, your "friend" should not have been mixing in the way you have described.

If they have a) done that and b) advertised it...then they should not be going on about how sad they are to have been exposed.

Ergo, they are also a twat.

So much twatishness about

Twattytwattwat

I wouldn't wish anyone to be ill with Covid but, in the circumstances the OP stated, I would probably think that her friend had brought the anxiety on herself. I wouldn't feel smug though and I would just hope that she would learn from it and adhere to the guidelines in future.

@PurpleFrames
You're happy your friend is ill? Sounds a bit psychopathic to me. Another Covid rule saint emerges...
You have misread the post. Her friend is not ill. One of the people the OP's friend had contact with has tested positive for Covid.The friend is now anxious that she may contract it herself.

It's a natural human emotion to feel that it's karma, OP. It's people like that who are making life so difficult for the rest of us.

@Happychristmashohoho

People are going to catch it.

I’d much rather it was the likes of OP’s friend, who is being totally reckless, than the poor poster above’s husband who caught it at an essential hospital appointment. I have every sympathy for him.

Unfortunately people like OP’s friend are making it more likely that vulnerable people, who need support, catch it. And they’re too selfish to care. Awful people.

100% this!

YABU to feel smug. Grow up OP.

I hope they are honest about it to contact tracing. I bet they won’t sit there and list tens of people they’ve mixed with. Creating bigger issues.

Bet you’d all be laughing if the friend has a high contact job or children in school who pass it on.

It won’t just affect her, it could affect a lot of people.

Your getting a lot of shit here OP but I'm bloody smug with you. My neighbours are a joke. When they get it, I shall too be very smug

Also lost family members to covid but sadly these people did NOT take the piss, flout the rules and put themselves and others at risk

@Inkpaperstars

I would very gently say though, it’s people like the OP’s friend who have actually put people in harm’s way and raised cases in and outside hospital

It shouldn't be said gently, it should be shouted out loud

It's wrong to wish harm on anyone, but we should stop
mollycoddling people who play russian rulette with their lives and others'

I completely agree, she’s got exactly what she deserves.

I expect she realises she has received exactly what she deserves.

However that's no reason to be smug about it.

I’m really glad you’re not my friend! You sound really nasty and your friend would be better off without you in their life

I’d be really interested to know what people who do this think.

Are they happy to take the risk or do they think it’s something that happens to other people?

@Happychristmashohoho

Are they happy to take the risk or do they think it’s something that happens to other people

I've heard the latter mostly. And also the media hammering the message that the 'young and healthy' are not at risk (which we know it's not necessarily the case) is making things worse

They knew the risks. They chose to break the rules on multiple occasions. Just Desserts.

The real shame is how many innocents will now be affected too through no fault of their own.