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Wtf to do?

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simbobs · 23/12/2020 01:27

DS has just found out that his gf has tested positive for coronavirus. He last saw her on Sunday morning. He then spent 2 hrs in a car with vulnerable DH and took presents to family, whose home they entered. He himself has had covid.

Where is he going to self isolate?
At home, but in his room, or at gf's Dad's house? As it is a couple of days since he saw her and she had no symptoms at the time I feel he should not go to her, especially so close to Christmas. Her family has no obligation to feed him, after all.

How long should he self isolate, and presumably that will also apply to us and the family members he visited?

I am in such a quandary and DH is going to go mental when he finds out in the morning.

Thoughts?

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Blubellsarebells · 23/12/2020 01:32

Hes the only contact with a known case.
He isolates at your home, the rest of you carry on as normal.
Let the people he went to visit know as a courtesy but they dont need to isolate or do anything.

Blubellsarebells · 23/12/2020 01:34

Why did she get tested without symptoms?
If hes already had it I wouldn't worry too much.

StatisticalSense · 23/12/2020 01:34

He isolates at the house he is living in.
As he doesn't have symptoms nobody else isolates however regardless of tier you must now not have anybody round on Xmas day as there is a person isolating in the house.

amaryllisu · 23/12/2020 01:39

Why on earth did they go inside the house?

amaryllisu · 23/12/2020 01:40

And why do you think he should isolate in a house that isn’t his? Confused

Jesus no wonder we’re up shit creek.

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simbobs · 23/12/2020 01:42

A litter if newborn puppies, is the short answer as to why they went in the house.

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simbobs · 23/12/2020 01:45

@Bluebellsarebells she got tested as she has a very vulnerable family member who is having chemo. She has divorced parents and was with one of them and about to move to the other.

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simbobs · 23/12/2020 01:50

@amaryllisu he thinks he should go to her house as she has it and is obviously in close contact with the household. He thinks that would better protect his Dad. We have been following all rules apart from this episode. We were never planning on seeing anyone over Christmas during the supposed relaxation period, so the visit to drop off presents was less risky than having family around for Christmas Day.
Obviously this is regrettable but I am trying to work out what is the best thing to do.

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DumplingsAndStew · 23/12/2020 01:52

@simbobs

A litter if newborn puppies, is the short answer as to why they went in the house.
Were the puppies holding guns to their heads?
daisypond · 23/12/2020 01:52

He stays at home with you. Of course he doesn’t go to stay with his GF’s dad. What have puppies got to do with anything?

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 23/12/2020 01:53

Why is DH going to 'go mental'?

I get he's vulnerable & will be scared, but DS hadn't done anything wrong. (Well not unless he's been told not to see his GF?!)

I presume DS has been at school? He could just as easily have got it there.

DH chose to go into someone's house

He doesn't seem like he's being that careful?!

DS should isolate at home, stay in his room as much as possible & clean the bathroom after himself. Plus anything he touches outside of his room. DH should spend as much time as possible in his room too. You should have the windows open all the time let the air being replaced frequently.

It's frustrating & scary, but hopefully DS hadn't got it & hadn't passed it onto DH.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 23/12/2020 01:55

@daisypond

He stays at home with you. Of course he doesn’t go to stay with his GF’s dad. What have puppies got to do with anything?
Someone asked why they went into the house when they were delivering presents...they must have wanted to see the puppies. DH is the adult,. That was his call (bloody stupid one in my opinion, but there you go). I hope all the people they visited are ok x
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simbobs · 23/12/2020 01:59

DS is not at school but his gf is in 6th Form College which we always felt was risky. She also has a pt job where she is around other people, though in a supposedly covid safe environment. They were only supposed to meet outside, but her gf's dad invited him over. She is not allowed here, though.

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partyatthepalace · 23/12/2020 02:13

Oh no - so sorry OP

At home in his room.

If you have two bathrooms, give him one. If not he should shower last and clean w wipes every time he uses it. Food passed in to his room, no going into kitchen. Your DH shd be OK that way.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/12/2020 02:19

He then spent 2 hrs in a car with vulnerable DH and took presents to family, whose home they entered. He himself has had covid...I am in such a quandary and DH is going to go mental when he finds out in the morning.

Well DH should have thought before he broke the rules as well.

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simbobs · 23/12/2020 02:29

Both parties are in Tier 2. We have no family close to us and won't be seeing anyone from outside our home on Christmas day. Entering someone's home a few days before Christmas is really no different to the permitted Christmas mixing.

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RobinRedford · 23/12/2020 02:33

No your ds needs to isolate at home. He cannot leave the house regardless. If your ds develops symptoms he could become quite poorly. That’s not fair on Gfs dad to have to deal with alongside his own dd.

Isolation I believe is 10 days from last contact from infected person.

VulvaPerson · 23/12/2020 02:45

Why would your DH 'go mental' about this?! I could understand if it..say your son knew he had covid and still went in the car delivering preents (and seeing puippies..) but seems a weird reaction to blame someone else for maybe spreading a virus they may not even have, when DH also was lax in it!

Teenageromance · 23/12/2020 02:53

Could your dad get a Covid test? If he has already had it is it not unlikely he will have it again and therefore a pretty miserable Christmas for him stuck in his room. I would try and get a test

Teenageromance · 23/12/2020 02:54

Could your ds

middleager · 23/12/2020 02:56

As pps said, DS needs to isolate in his own home, obviously. I don't understand why you'd turn your own son away? It was always a possibility any one of you will get this and your DH is clearly not shielding.

As for DH going mental. Why? DS did not knowingly sit with DH while he was positive. Who goes mental over somebody accidentally catching a virus?

NovemberR · 23/12/2020 03:02

But I read this as your DS has had Covid?

Was it recently and is he likely to have antibodies?

I'm still shaking off effects of Covid - but bloody assuming I won't at least catch it again in the next 3 months.

ChristmasCookies · 23/12/2020 03:06

He can catch it again

He can pass it on

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/12/2020 03:30

Entering someone's home a few days before Christmas is really no different to the permitted Christmas mixing.

Except you're literally an example of why 'it's all just the same' is wrong. This wouldn't have happened if you'd waited a few days. One day is different statistically to lots of days. It turns out.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/12/2020 03:32

He has to stay where he is, he might not have it but of he goes to hers he might get it .

Is your DH angry he's been seeing the gf without your consent or that she's caught Corona virus?

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