Wtf to do?

[simbobs]

DS has just found out that his gf has tested positive for coronavirus. He last saw her on Sunday morning. He then spent 2 hrs in a car with vulnerable DH and took presents to family, whose home they entered. He himself has had covid.

Where is he going to self isolate?
At home, but in his room, or at gf's Dad's house? As it is a couple of days since he saw her and she had no symptoms at the time I feel he should not go to her, especially so close to Christmas. Her family has no obligation to feed him, after all.

How long should he self isolate, and presumably that will also apply to us and the family members he visited?

I am in such a quandary and DH is going to go mental when he finds out in the morning.

Thoughts?

This is why we're headed for another lockdown.

Your DH went inside someone's house because "puppies" but will go mental because DS met his GF?

And because of this you're considering binning son off to a household you know is infected?

Neither you nor the other family members need to isolate unless you have also had contact with ds gf. Your son needs to isolate at home . Not quite sure why your DH will go mad though?

Will your DH get cross because DS shouldn't have gone inside with his girlfriend ( as you are in Tier 2)?

Your DS should Self isolate at your home NOT at his girlfriends home

Meeting family and friends
Meeting indoors Tier 2

You can only meet socially with friends and family indoors who you either:
• live with
• have formed a support bubblee_ with
Unless a legal exemption applies.
‘Indoors’ means any indoor setting, including:
• private homes
• other indoor venues such as pubs and restaurants

I guess at this point they why did they break rules etc is irrelevant. But it does show the importance of them. I would be tempted to go into a friends house to meet a litter of puppies!

I would get him to isolate in his room if your OH is vulnerable. Is there a separate bathroom he could use?

@simbobs

Both parties are in Tier 2. We have no family close to us and won't be seeing anyone from outside our home on Christmas day. Entering someone's home a few days before Christmas is really no different to the permitted Christmas mixing.

The Christmas mixing is very risky though, if you are vulnerable.

What your story shows is you never know who has covid and when. One-third are asymptomatic, and lots of others dismiss their symptoms as 'just a cold'.

He stays put and isolates in his room. He doesn't see his dad and you are all extra vigilant with cleaning down toilets, hand washing, distancing etc. I recommend he wears a mask and get the windows open.

No more moving about between homes for any reason please. It's only 10 days and he's already done some of those.

The idea of going to gf's house was DS's, not mine. My view was that he should isolate here. I just wanted to check if others thought the same. We don't share a bathroom with him, though DD does. She has also had covid (both are students).

Just off to sanitise door handles etc now. I'm sure DH will blame DS for putting us at risk. We knew that DS had seen gf and did consider her problematic as she has unavoidable connections through school, work. The family that was visited wfh so were considered low risk.

Your husband didn't have to do a 2 hour car journey with your son. It is not your son's fault your husband chose to take that risk. He must have known he could potentially catch Covid from a 2 hour car journey.

Your husband will be a absolute arsehole if he blames this on your son.

Its crazy that you are still putting blame on your son and his girlfriend, when you and your DH were perfectly happy to break the rules

I'm sure DH will blame DS for putting us at risk

Surely you will be reminding him he broke the rules too and not letting him blame your son for something he himself did too.

We'll see. I haven't had a chance to tell him yet. He is not an early riser. The irony is that I persuaded him to take DS with him as they have not been spending much time together. My crystal ball was obviously not working.

You seem totally oblivious to the fact that you family had broken the rules and you son has potentially infected several people.

*your family has

*Your

When did DS get back from Uni / last go to Uni?

If he’s been exposed and the GF family are happy for him to go there, then he’s going to an already exposed household and keeps yours safe. But his 10 days would start again from the day he arrives there/would restart if anyone else got sick. Who lives with GF?

He had a negative test before leaving uni and has had the virus already. We are not at all oblivious to the fact that others may have benn infected. We will seek to obtain a private test for him, but he will isolate, obviously.

Thanks for your comments.

I wouldn't bother with the private test. He'll still have to isolate for the full 10 days if that is negative as he might still be incubating Covid.

I think it's really unfair of your DH to go off on one when he chose to spend that long on a car with someone who's been mixing with other people. He's a vulnerable person but he's an adult

The family that was visited wfh so were considered low risk

Yes low risk to your DS, but your DS was high risk to them.

Selfish

I'm not following very well but I think I'd send him to isolate with the girlfriend. They are happy to host him and he has to isolate somewhere.

The likelihood of him having or developing covid is vanishingly small. (Given he has recently had it)

This goes also for being infectious (his body will have mounted a defense quickly, so unlikely to be contagious.

Had he been with his girlfriend in the previous days? If it was just the Sunday morning or even the previous day, he would still need 3/4 days before he became contagious.

I suggest he stays at home with you, but everyone just practises common sense hygiene and limited contact.

He has had a test now, just as a precaution. I had one too to be on the safe side.

Precaution against what? The test can't tell if he's incubating.

Oh well, I hope that he stays well.

@simbobs

He has had a test now, just as a precaution. I had one too to be on the safe side.

I don't understand. If today's test is negative he still needs to isolate and he could still get COVID.