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Life is a hideous nightmare

130 replies

Scaredshitlessagain · 22/12/2020 21:54

Can't cope with anymore of it. I know there's a vaccine but it's going to be months before it starts to have an effect. My kids schooling is crap, our lives are crap. The government is useless. I'm done.

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IcedPurple · 22/12/2020 22:39

So it may be it lasts a year or two then we may go into a modern burst of the roaring 20s.

Followed by the Great Depression?

LifelsAPigsty · 22/12/2020 22:41

I've had enough. I can't stop crying and I'm absolutely done. Every time there's a tiny bit of hope it's snatched away to be replaced by more bad news.

Flyingin · 22/12/2020 22:43

This is worse than at the beginning. Weather is terrible. Brexit is imminent. We appear to be going backwards.

Ltdannygreen · 22/12/2020 22:47

Same 😩

AgentCooper · 22/12/2020 22:50

I hear you OP Flowers my mental health was the worst it had been in years this summer. I was really, really bad.

I started to do better when some gyms reopened where I am and I could start swimming again on my work (from home) lunchbreaks. Then my bit of Scotland went into tier 4 mid-November so no more swimming. Then just as we were coming out of it I caught fucking Covid off DH and no swimming again. I’m absolutely fine, thankfully, and out of isolation tomorrow when I will be going for my first swim since November. I’ll go for another the next day and then it’ll be back into tier 4 again and no more swimming. It sounds like such a small thing but it made me feel human again, like my time, energy and body belonged to me and not everyone else (I have a toddler).

DishingOutDone · 22/12/2020 22:50

I didn't know people felt like this, truly? I know its pretty crap with a pandemic, Brexit etc - but surely unless you are on the breadline, or sick, or have lost relatives, then life isn't a nightmare for you personally?

Have I missed something?

sweetkitty · 22/12/2020 22:52

I’m feeling the same. Flowers

BlueBlancmange · 22/12/2020 22:52

@Bluntness100

I think to be honest every one is feeling like this op. It’s like what next.

Every time you hear Boris is about to make another announcement you know it’s more bad news.

I think we all thought there was light at the end of the tunnel. We’d done nearly a year, the vaccine was being rolled out, we had Xmas to look forward to

And now we have tier fours emerging, countries banning travel to us, lorry drivers stuck on the m20, brexit looming where no one has a clue what’s going to happen, constant uncertainty and it’s just one shit thing after another.

I think it’s made worse because we all were given hope due to the vaccine, and now we are back to square one. No solid timeline given to roll it out, no plans articulated. Even if they got up to a million a month, you’d still only do twelve million a year

I think if at least I was told, right this is how we are rolling it out, military, recruited staff, gps, hospitals, shopping centres, this is where you’ll receive it and by whom and this is how long it will take to vaccinate the population, them at least we would have clarity

Right now it’s like we were given hope, it was cruelly snatched away and now we are watching that light in the distance get further and further away and we are flailing around in the dark clueless.

Ans then to top it off we have people like Vallance/witty using terms like “human disaster” . You certainly couldn’t accuse these men of soft soaping it. They like to tell you how bad it could be, as often as they are given a platform to do so.

What a mess.

They did always say winter was likely to be very difficult and also that there was only likely to be small amounts of vaccine available before Christmas. So I think we should see half a million having been vaccinated already as a positive thing. Hopefully the operation will be escalated substantially in the new year.
LifelsAPigsty · 22/12/2020 22:53

@DishingOutDone

I didn't know people felt like this, truly? I know its pretty crap with a pandemic, Brexit etc - but surely unless you are on the breadline, or sick, or have lost relatives, then life isn't a nightmare for you personally?

Have I missed something?

It is if you've no outdoor space whatsoever, don't drive, have small children and no garden/help, lost your livelihood, lost loved ones, are vulnerable... It's a nightmare for millions.
Livelovebehappy · 22/12/2020 22:53

Don’t you feel though, that at the end of it all, our life’s will be more enriched for going through this? I don’t think I’ll take even the simplest things for granted once all this is done. I’ll enjoy just popping into shops for a browse minus masking and hand gelling. Just booking to go on holiday and adhoc weekends away. Popping in to visit friends or family. Enjoying office banter at work with colleagues. So many things we probably just took for granted without actually properly wallowing in the enjoyment of it all. I think we’ll look at things through renewed eyes because it was snatched away from us, and we won’t want to ever lose that freedom again.

Lifestooshort1542 · 22/12/2020 22:55

Yep I'm feeling the same I just can't see how we can go on like this 😭💐

DishingOutDone · 22/12/2020 22:57

@LifelsAPigsty - you just said what I said? Confused

HmmSureJan · 22/12/2020 22:57

@Cherryrainbow

There was an article by a professor specialising in pandemic behaviours recently talking about how societies have survived pandemics before, and its new to us, but they do come and go. We are doing a lot of the same stuff as they did back during the Spanish flu - masks, distancing, lockdowns etc. The advantage we have is medical advancements and vaccines. So it may be it lasts a year or two then we may go into a modern burst of the roaring 20s. It did make me feel a bit better in a weird way.
I read that too, also heard him on a podcast about a month ago. I mentioned it on here and got the usual doom and gloom, sneering and attempts to pull his theory apart. I don't want to hear the naysayers tbh. What he says rings true to me and gives me a goal to look to, so for now, in the absence of anything better, that's what I am focussing on.
HmmSureJan · 22/12/2020 22:59

[quote DishingOutDone]@LifelsAPigsty - you just said what I said? Confused[/quote]
No, @LifelsAPigsty quoted you and responded to the points you made. Just as I have done in this post.

Sway19 · 22/12/2020 22:59

Oh for goodness sake, how dramatic

LifelsAPigsty · 22/12/2020 23:01

[quote DishingOutDone]@LifelsAPigsty - you just said what I said? Confused[/quote]
No, I quoted you. And I've just done it again!

fib11235 · 22/12/2020 23:03

We are through the worst, the shortest day has been and gone and 2020 is nearly over. If we have to do another lock down then we do but the days are going to start getting longer, the Oxford vaccine is coming and 2021 is going to be the year to rebuild and recover. Stop looking for an end date of when all this will be over and start looking for a date when things start to look more positive going forwards, 6 months from now many people worldwide will have been vaccinated and things will start to look up but you just need to hang in there, it won’t happen overnight.

OnlyTeaForMe · 22/12/2020 23:03

Focus on days and weeks not months.
We’ve just passed the shortest day, which means days are getting longer again.
Spring will mean people can get outside more, eat outside etc.
I’ve been amazed by how well some companies have adapted to keep going - local pubs doing takeaways for the increased number of passers by etc
Hang on in there, one day at a time - we will get there! Flowers

pippypoppybumbum · 22/12/2020 23:03

I completely understand how you feel. I'm home alone so much on maternity leave and it's just dull and lonely. I don't see anyone. I'm also dreading the fallout.... we will be paying for this for years to come.

WouldstrokeTomHardy · 22/12/2020 23:04

Jeez Bluntness that's exactly it. I've been too numb to articulate it but that's it In a nutshell. However, we will get there. We have to. It's just a case of waiting for the science to catch up with a novel virus. The scientist's have been shit hot thus far.

Quarks69 · 22/12/2020 23:05

The West has had it good for a long time. No real wars, famine, Disease, disasters etc. Aren’t they what happens To other countries? Now it’s our turn and it’s a shock and we think we can’t cope. But spend a second thinking about the demolition site that is Syria, or the effect of malaria on Africa etc etc

We have to go through the levels of grief..starting with denial, anger, Bargaining leading to depression But then acceptance.

Hang in there everyone 😘

MadameBlobby · 22/12/2020 23:06

@flapjackfairy

But just think how quickly this year has gone even though its been rubbish. We are back round to christmas again. And before we can blink it will be christmas next year and we will hopefully be out the other side of this . That is how I'm looking at it anyway. It helps me at least !
Agreed

I just think though how much of my life is being wasted living like this. I’ll likely be almost 50 by the time this is over properly. My whole late 40s just wasted.

happystone · 22/12/2020 23:09

We all feel the same. Good things are.we have a jab for the virus. Before we know it it will be spring and the virus will slow down. This is the worst month and it will start to get better Flowers to everyone.

SaltyAF · 22/12/2020 23:12

@Scaredshitlessagain

Can't cope with anymore of it. I know there's a vaccine but it's going to be months before it starts to have an effect. My kids schooling is crap, our lives are crap. The government is useless. I'm done.
Your kids' schooling is not crap. School bstaff have risked their health to ensure it isn't.
happystone · 22/12/2020 23:12

Try not to watch the news, and what I found works is not to trust what Norris says.