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Would you go?

34 replies

user1488819536 · 20/12/2020 20:15

We are in tier 4, we had covid in our house 4 weeks ago, we tested positive. We isolated as per track and trace.

My husbands mum has blood cancer, she has had stem cell therapy and feels fine now but who knows what the future holds. His dad has had mobility issues since a strange episode a few months ago and they still dont know why.

We are supposed to be going to theirs for christmas, just us, no one else. It was all they had to look forward too.

Would you go?

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SilverGlitterBaubles · 20/12/2020 20:15

Probably not

maureenfrombarnsley · 20/12/2020 20:17

Yes, I would

PurpleDaisies · 20/12/2020 20:19

On what grounds do you think this is permitted within the rules?

manicinsomniac · 20/12/2020 20:22

No, I don't think so. Not if they are coping physically and mentally and not terminally ill.

Fluffypyjamasandgin · 20/12/2020 20:22

No. You're in tier 4 - stay home. Also she has blood cancer. People with blood cancer at ANY stage of treatment, including remission, are clinically extremely vulnerable. If you give her covid, you could kill her.

Why are you even asking?!

Toocold · 20/12/2020 20:23

The op asked if you would go not if it was within the rules.... but since you ask ... limited life I assume

SadSecretSanta · 20/12/2020 20:24

No way

StatisticalSense · 20/12/2020 20:25

No. It is illegal and also totally irresponsible.

Passmeabottlemrjones · 20/12/2020 20:25

I wouldn't because if your MIL has had stem cell treatment she is probably incredibly vulnerable to bugs etc isn't she? If it weren't for that, I would break the rules and go probably.

PurpleDaisies · 20/12/2020 20:30

@Toocold

The op asked if you would go not if it was within the rules.... but since you ask ... limited life I assume
Can you point me to the exception in the rules where this is detailed? I can’t find it.

Whether this is permitted within the rules is pretty important to whether it should happen or not.

I wouldn’t if it meant breaking the rules.

augustusglupe · 20/12/2020 20:32

Yes I would go

PopThatBootyForStNick · 20/12/2020 20:45

What does your MIL and FIL want? I think if they have evaluated the potential risks and would still like to see you, then you should go if that is also what you want.

DipSwimSwoosh · 20/12/2020 20:50

Yes I would

Rulesdontapplytome · 20/12/2020 21:43

I’d go.

Livelovebehappy · 20/12/2020 22:16

Absolutely I would.

isolationhelp23 · 20/12/2020 22:21

Yes I would go

southeastdweller · 20/12/2020 22:25

Hell yes.

Lucindainthesky · 20/12/2020 22:44

This has to be a joke.

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user1488819536 · 20/12/2020 23:08

I'm not going to give them covid. We had it over 4 weeks ago, we have isolated as per track and trace and I've been back at work and child has been back at nursery, we haven't given it to anyone at work or nursery since returning.

Anyway, thanks for your replies, we will see what they want us to do.

It's easy to be dismissive when you dont know if some one will see next Christmas.

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jazzandh · 20/12/2020 23:53

I would go. Who knows what the next years holds in this situation.

MrsBooks · 20/12/2020 23:55

Honestly, if they have weighed the situation and want you to go, I'd go.

12098s · 21/12/2020 00:00

I'm having patients testing positive 4+ weeks later. Nobody can say if they are still infectious or not. On that bases I would say biz

ineedaholidaynow · 21/12/2020 00:06

Did you all have COVID?

If your little one brought a bug with them from nursery could that impact MIL?

middleager · 21/12/2020 00:07

My son had Covid a month ago but still doesn't mean I would feel comfortable about him visiting others.

We do not know if you can still carry it to others and as you are at work and DC at nursery, this feels a risk, even if it were permitted.

DonkeyMcFluff · 21/12/2020 00:08

On what grounds are you exempt from the rules? “Because I want to” isn’t a valid reason for illegal behaviour.

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