Would you go?

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We are in tier 4, we had covid in our house 4 weeks ago, we tested positive. We isolated as per track and trace.

My husbands mum has blood cancer, she has had stem cell therapy and feels fine now but who knows what the future holds. His dad has had mobility issues since a strange episode a few months ago and they still dont know why.

We are supposed to be going to theirs for christmas, just us, no one else. It was all they had to look forward too.

Would you go?

@user1488819536

We are in tier 4, we had covid in our house 4 weeks ago, we tested positive. We isolated as per track and trace.

My husbands mum has blood cancer, she has had stem cell therapy and feels fine now but who knows what the future holds. His dad has had mobility issues since a strange episode a few months ago and they still dont know why.

We are supposed to be going to theirs for christmas, just us, no one else. It was all they had to look forward too.

Would you go?

Rules aside... Still no.

I'm a medic, and if a cancer patient who had stem cell treatment asked me if they should see their Tier 4 family (even if that family was very very low risk) I'd advise against it.

And you're not low risk, having gone back to new-normal life since your isolation ended - kid going to nursery, etc. You can catch covid more than once (unlikely though it is so soon after the initial infection). You could still be carrying infection to them even if you're not infected yourself. You can also test positive for infection for a few weeks after the infection - some of my patients have tested positive for a few weeks afterwards.

Have you all had a negative test since testing positive? If not, I would 100% recommend not going.

I can only begin to understand how frustrating it is to have to make a decision this hard when this could be the last Christmas with your family member. Facing loss is awful, and even more awful when you can't spend all the time you would like to with that person. But - and I know this is hard - although everything we know in life says that the 25th December is Christmas, we can have the festivities on another day. If I were you, or if this was my family, I would delay Christmas for a while. I really hope you can see them soon, OP.

Stem cell transplant and you're contemplating going when you're in tier 4? Absolutely no chance. I know someone that had a stem cell transplant, and on steroids for 2 years in and out of hospital with infections and complications and he was in his 20s. She'll have had chemo/ radiotherapy first, could still need regular transfusions etc etc I think you're mad to be even considering it.

And yes, I know its easy when you don't know what the future holds, not that any of its do, but I couldn't handle the guilt.

No I wouldn’t. In a similar situation, probably DF’s last Christmas. We are T2 and still not taking the risk. Both DH and I are working from home, but DCs have been in school so it isn’t going to happen.

OP you can still spread covid even if you've had it. The way immunity works is that you can still get infected but feel nothing, but you can shed it while your antibodies are in the process of destroying it

I wouldn't - it isn't just covid, what if you give someone that ill a cold or flu at a time when hospitals are a) very stretched and b) full of covid?

Dreadfully upsetting but my personal fear of causing harm would win out I think.

I'd only go if I'd been isolating for 14 days and don't stop off on the way. You have to consider how you'd feel if you were a carrier and gave covid to them. It's not worth the risk at this point. Wait for the vaccine.

Yes, if they want you to go, you should go. Life limiting illness and caring.

Purple daisies, it’s in the government guidelines on their page about disability and limited life.

Why does it have to be December 25th? Why not do Christmas Day in March (other months are available) when rates have dropped & it isn't against the rules?