So upset.

[LemonSherbetFancy]

Partner in tier 1, my area in tier 3. Now can't see each other until Christmas.
Can't move in together as both have jobs and kids in our current living areas.
It's really upsetting. To think that we won't be able to stay overnight with one another and spend the run up to Christmas together is so horrible.

Are you in a support bubble? They have an exemption

If you're in a bubble you can mix tiers still. If not then yes it's rubbish, but have you carried on seeing him through lockdown? If not then as rubbish as it is, we are nearly there i think with vaccines, there's light finally at the end of the tunnel.

if you are both single parents I thought you were allowed to form a bubble?

Yes, if you're single parents you can bubble across tiers

Each to their own but if I was in your shoes I wouldn't be not seeing my loved ones just because the government told me I can't. I'm pretty sure you can 'bubble' anyway.

Have a lovely festive season

As pp said. Support bubbles still apply. Assume you are in one with him if both living with no other adults.

I had heard this morning these will be relooked at on 16th, if you are not in a support bubble together

Not if you have adult kids which we also do.

I hope the issue gets looked at. It really doesn't seem right to keep couples apart for so long. It's really going to be hard on us.

We’ve got the same issue. But are meeting halfway outdoors. I know we’re not supposed to be travelling but I’ve been feeling almost suicidal lately and this is the cherry on the cake for me. I don’t want to let my mental health get that bad again.

Oh just ignore it and see each other. You're a couple, it's a nonsense.

I agree with @cologne4711 , just do it.

There’s no way I’d allow the government to restrict me like this. Not in these circumstances.

I've followed most rules to the latter the whole way through. I would 100% not follow this one if I was in the same position

I followed the rules to the letter in the first lockdown and didn't see my fiance for 12 weeks, but this time around we have continued to see each other. I'm about to.go into T2, him into T3. However the new bubbling expansion means we will soon legally be allowed to bubble despite him living with his mum and me having one child over 18, however shpuld that not have been the case we would have continued.

How are you allowed to bubble up in that case PP?

I personally would see him - these rules are simply impossible for some and it's time we access our own risk.

Agree with pp saying just see each other. Be sensible, but see each other!

@lemonsherbetfancy Under the carer exemption

Yes see each over. You’re in a couple. Don’t let this impact your relationship and time together.

It's horrible and I feel sympathy.

But I wouldn't just 'do it anyway'. Maybe it's just my weird, terminally single person's perspective, but I don't see what makes a partner relationship any more rule-break-worthy than a close friend, sibling or patent relationship.

Living alone (or being the only adult in a house) is shit this year but it's universally shit for all of us. I don't believe those in a romantic relationship have it worse than the rest of and are therefore entitled to ignore rules.

(Sever mental health issues and other exceptional circs are of course, just that - exceptions)

We are torn really.
We will get through it if we have to be apart as I know how very strong we are. It will be incredibly hard though. I miss him even after a week so this will be very tough on us.

Op I would see him.

I've followed all rules, but am single. It's been tough .... But if I had a partner, I would bend the rules for just them

I'm torn. I was widowed in July and my mental health really has taken a battering and I need RL support, but I also don't like going against the Cv19 restrictions. My nephew and his gf are due to travel to visit me 7th Dec. They are in a tier 3 area but actually live in a small low risk village. I live in a tier 2 area but cases are falling here. I'm scared of being reported to the police if I let them visit but their visit will lift my spirits sooo much. What to do? If I were you OP I would see my partner regardless of the rules.

@IDSNeighbour

To offer some perspective- I love my parents, my siblings and my close friends, however it is not the same. My partner is my 'main' person- We spend all day together, tell each other everything and are each other's main support system. More so for me as I have severe (diagnosed, not just invented for COVID) mental health issues.

Like I said, I have other close relationships- but it's not on the same level.

I completely see your point, and I feel like I rely on my partner more than the average person due to my mental disorder, but for me living apart in separate tiers is quite frankly miserable!

Why is everyone urging the OP to break the rules? Can't you just offer a sympathetic ear without encouraging them to break laws and rules? They aren't asking what you would do.