So upset.

[LemonSherbetFancy]

Partner in tier 1, my area in tier 3. Now can't see each other until Christmas.
Can't move in together as both have jobs and kids in our current living areas.
It's really upsetting. To think that we won't be able to stay overnight with one another and spend the run up to Christmas together is so horrible.

I'd be seeing them anyway.

Maybe it's just my weird, terminally single person's perspective, but I don't see what makes a partner relationship any more rule-break-worthy than a close friend, sibling or parent relationship.

As a fellow weird terminally single person I see what you're saying, and if someone told me that my right to see at least one other adult wasn't important because I'm not in a romantic relationship I'd tell them to do one. But at the same time I do think it's worse for couples, because 1) there's usually a sort of expectation that you spend a lot of time together that will eventually lead to moving in, even if it's not currently practical to do so, that isn't there with most other types of adult relationship, and 2) couples tend to want to do more things that involve being within 2m of one another than friends or relatives do I miss hugs a huge amount, but I can still go for a walk in the park with a friend and not feel like I'm missing out on an essential part of our relationship by not touching them.

I would see then anyway too.

joystir59. The travel restriction in and out of tier 3 is guidance/advised against not law. So even if someone were to report you the police couldn’t do anything.

My defence is that it we didn’t each have kids we would be living together in one house. However at the moment you are a couple living in two houses and as long as you are both careful I would meet up.

Please don't see him if he is in a Tier 1 and you are in a Tier 3. I am sure 2 adults with children (some adult children as well) can manage time apart. Tier 1 really don't need Tier 3 people travelling into the area @LemonSherbetFancy unless for something pretty serious!

There are all sorts of things you can do facetime/phone/write or even TB sharing.

It won't be forever and mixing up with different areas is wrong and pretty selfish really.

@Katie517

joystir59. The travel restriction in and out of tier 3 is guidance/advised against not law. So even if someone were to report you the police couldn’t do anything.

This..... I mean seriously - no wonder the virus continues to spread!

@Calmandmeasured1

Why is everyone urging the OP to break the rules? Can't you just offer a sympathetic ear without encouraging them to break laws and rules? They aren't asking what you would do.

This.... it appears not - 2 adults cannot possibly manage apart so need to break the law and be selfish risking other vulnerable people in the area.

If the relationship is strong it will all be ok. You will miss each other but perhaps take advise from people that often have spells apart - forces/people who work oversees. There are ways to be busy and not needy and make this work. Indeed there are people who haven't seen some vulnerable family members since March ..... !

Yes, a partner relationship is different to any other. We are not alone in our homes with our kids there but it is very difficult knowing we can't see each other for weeks at a time.

I know I can see him at Christmas for the 5 days and I just hope the tiers are relaxed before Easter. Or the rules will change in that people in a committed relationship can see each other regardless of tiers.

Agree with @cologne4711 . I've been seeing my partner who doesn't live with me through the first and second lockdown and will continue to. We are a couple, a long term couple. It's not like you are wanting to go to a party or mix with loads of others, this is your partner, I think it's ridiculous to be told you can't see them.

Omg just see him. This year has been so shitty. Grasp happiness with both hands.