Solve the 3 household conundrum to stop my MIL's tears

[CupofTeaforMePlease]

What would you do if you were me:

Me and DH and DC = 1 household.

DH's Mum and her DC = 1 household

DH's Dad = 1 household (stays overnight with his new gf so not sure if he counts as bubble to DH's Mum and their DC?)

DH's DB and his wife = 1 household

DH's DSis lives alone so can bubble with DH's Mum?

DMil's bf = 1 household.

I'm thinking just stay out of it for one year. It's too complicated and risky I think. But could there be a solution here? DH reckons if MIL didn't see her bf then that would be fine as his DF and DSis counts as one bubble???

My MIL is liable to cry if we say we can't see her this year.

And she hasn't even considered my family in all of this!

All stay at your on homes and have time slots to go to mother in laws for a bit. Have dinner in your own homes and just pop to hers for tea and a mince pie. Problem solved and no risk of hurting anyone. X

I would simplify, see none of them and tell MIL to get over it, she is very lucky not to be alone at Christmas as many will be.

@CupofTeaforMePlease

What would you do if you were me:

Me and DH and DC = 1 household.

DH's Mum and her DC = 1 household

DH's Dad = 1 household (stays overnight with his new gf so not sure if he counts as bubble to DH's Mum and their DC?)

DH's DB and his wife = 1 household

DH's DSis lives alone so can bubble with DH's Mum?

DMil's bf = 1 household.

I'm thinking just stay out of it for one year. It's too complicated and risky I think. But could there be a solution here? DH reckons if MIL didn't see her bf then that would be fine as his DF and DSis counts as one bubble???

My MIL is liable to cry if we say we can't see her this year.

And she hasn't even considered my family in all of this!

Ok, I admit I have not read any of the messages yet, I have only read your post but here are my thoughts:

1. It sounds very confusing
2. Your MIL sounds needy
3. What about your family? Has no one mentioned that?
4. Why would FIL be in a bubble with Mil and dc if he has a new Gf? Presume gf is his bubble?
5. How many bubbles does Mil want? (New bf? FIL? DsIs?) she can only have 1 and not keep swapping!
6. Ditto above, how many bubbles does FIL want? (DsIs? New gf?)
7. Dh sounds like a wet blanket (sorry)
8. I’d stay put....

Oh and how old is MILs dc?

Oh and also,

Why does it always seem to be MIL’s who are getting upset?

It seems to be more common than other relatives if you go by mumsnet!

@copperoliver we can't 'pop' there for a cup of tea - they are 3 hours away!

Besides which, as Whitty says, contamination likely when 15 minutes in the company of someone 2 metres away, or 1 minute in the company if someone 1 metre away (indoors).

If his dad was single you could do it on a technicality; your family household one, MIL, her DC bubbled with her BF, BIL's family bubbled with single sister. BUT just because you could doesn't mean you should and it's irrelevant anyway as the DF has his GF. Are the separated parents going to actually spend Christmas together or is this just about their under 18 children seeing both parents because if that's the case DF and his GF aren't part of the Christmas bubble anyway