Positive.. just crack on

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I think I know the answer but I'm keen to see how others have coped. I got a positive result earlier this week, it's been a real awful virus so far and I've got two under 10 at home with me. No help whatsoever.. H maintains it's just a cold crack on. So I've have had to do so.. despite not feeling my best! I may be feeling sorry for myself here but how have others coped? He's refused to isolate, runs his own business so off out the door daily (locked in his office alone apparently only doing zoom calls).. he could be here helping me but he's not. In fact last night when he did come home, poured himself a glass of red, sat down on the sofa with his iPad waiting for his tea to be served.. no fucks given 🤷‍♀️

For a start he shouldn't be leaving the house. Second I wouldn't be cooking him anything if that's his attitude

Me and my husband were ill at the same time. He worked throughout (he works from home) and I had to cope with the children. We did a lot of TV alternated with garden time. He always cooks, and I went to bed when the children did. The house still hasn't recovered, oh well!

he could be here helping me but he's not
He's a dick. Even if you werent ill he should help you with the kids and home. I wouldn't be cooking dinner for him with that attitude.

What a selfish bastard. Is this normal behaviour? Have you been clear about how you're feeling? Get a takeaway or readymeal, take it as easy as you can.

What a prince...

Any chance of you leaving him? I'd struggle to have any respect or loving feelings for anyone so thick and selfish.

It's not how most decent people would treat someone they love. Incredibly selfish behaviour. Is he normally like this?

Sending you a hug. He sounds like a dick.

I think I know the answer but I'm keen to see how others have coped.

I imagine others have coped by having caring partners who share the load in normal times and take the full load (or as much as is possible) when their partner is ill.

I'm sorry you're not getting more support op. If he's self-employed I get that he may be worried about his business and not feel able to drop everything to focus on you during working hours. But as soon as he stops work he should be packing you off to bed.

And, of course he should be isolating

Your husband is a selfish prick, fucking leave him. Not only does it show he doesn't care about you, he doesn't care about his kids either if he's ok leaving someone very unwell in charge of them. Just a cold? Say that to the thousands who have died from 'just a cold', big pillock knob shit

Don't forget to keep reminding him when he gets it that it's "just a cold"'will you op?

When we were in isolation, track and trace phoned each household member separately to check all was okay and to check we are not leaving the house and not breaking the law.
So when he had the phone call, did he tell them he was leaving the house and breaking the law, or did he lie.
Did you tell them he was leaving the house and breaking the law, or did you lie for him.

Well if he was my fella he would be waiting an awfully long time for that dinner to be “served”....

Selfish bastard. Has he always been like this?

He'd have waited all bloody night for me to cook his dinner if I was married to him.

I get that he maybe worried about bis businesss, but to finish work and then sit on his arse with a drink. No. What a selfish wanker.

Change the locks while he's out ?

Why on Earth are you feeding him?!

Isn’t there a number you can call to anonymously report him for being in the workplace when he should be isolating?

Would that make him realise the selfishness of his actions?!

@Choirbells

When we were in isolation, track and trace phoned each household member separately to check all was okay and to check we are not leaving the house and not breaking the law. So when he had the phone call, did he tell them he was leaving the house and breaking the law, or did he lie. Did you tell them he was leaving the house and breaking the law, or did you lie for him.

We never received anything like this.

An email reminding us that we should be was all we got.

The attitude would be a deal breaker for me I'm afraid. Not caring about other people catching it is enough and that's without the fact he's not helping his loved one. I hope you get well soon OP and get rid of this idiot

I’ve tested positive and have DP and DS7 in the house.

I’ve stayed completely shut in the bedroom (with en suite luckily) for a whole week now, and haven’t come out at all as we cannot afford to be get sick at the same time.

DP has worked from home and done all childcare, meals, laundry, pet care, etc. I’ve stayed in the bedroom, organised online grocery deliveries and helped DS with school work via FaceTime but mostly rested. He’s worn a mask to deliver meals to my door every day.

T&T have phoned both me and DP separately every other day to ensure we understand and are following isolation rules. Those calls are recorded.

He's a twat. He maintains it's just a cold? Wait till he gets it; he may feel differently then. And anyway, you've had a positive test so why is he struggling to understand that?

And obviously don't cook for him.

Only I tested positive, was very ill for a good couple of weeks. My husband who works full time took over everything in the house, cooking, cleaning, sorting online deliveries and working from home whilst isolating. Fortunately he’s not a selfish bastard and didn’t leave the house, thereby risking infecting others.

I hope you’re feeling better soon. He should really be running round doing everything and making sure you’re ok. 💐

Lick his toothbrush.

Then report him.

Twat.

Your mistake was not to take yourself to the bedroom when the +ve arrived.

And to shackle yourself with him. Sorry.

As you well know, he's being very inconsiderate. He's breaking the law leaving his home/garden. On top of that you're obviously not feeling great and have the children to keep an eye on.

Starting from tonight, I'd tell him you're not up to anything in the house and if he wants tea, he'll have to cook or order a takeaway. If he has a day off at weekends, then I wouldn't rush to get out of bed!

@MrsTerryPratchett

Lick his toothbrush.

Then report him.

Twat.

This.