Do you really keep DC indoors for 14 days?

[notevenat20]

DS's school year has been sent home for 14 days because someone in his year has covid. I know we are supposed to keep him indoors the whole time. But what have people really done in practice? It's a very long time not to walk further than the bathroom.

ECV were originally told to stay in house or garden. Only towards the end were they allowed to go on one walk a day.

@Caroncarona

The more people ignore the staying in thing the longer we all have to put up with this.

Well people aren't going to stop. They've lost faith or they don't believe in it anymore. So it will be the same people staying in and the same people doing what they want. My DC has just finished isolation as her bubble burst. Many of the kids who have also been sent home have been posting pics up of themselves out and about in groups. I'm kind of thinking I shouldn't have bothered to keep DD in tbh after seeing that.

Is the lesson you want to teach your DD "if other people are being irresponsible then it's OK for me to be irresponsible too" and "I'm a mug if I don't break the law because other people are breaking the law"? Really?

Is the lesson you want to teach your DD "if other people are being irresponsible then it's OK for me to be irresponsible too" and "I'm a mug if I don't break the law because other people are breaking the law"? Really?

I think the lesson my DC are already learning is that no one else gives a shit. And yes really if it continues, then we will cease to give a shit too. Just to clarify the position for you.

@Delatron my children stayed in the house / garden for 18 weeks during the first lockdown due to shielding. No walks. We are lucky to have a small garden they could play in. There was every reason to stay in.

If you're isolating you stay in. This thread is crazy.

@hells456

Yes, I kept 13 year old in. The school sent out a letter part way through the first week to remind the year group to stay at home as some had been seen outside.

That's better than our school. 2 students picked up by the police in the local shopping centre when their year group had been sent home to isolate due to a positive test in their bubble. They had been reported for hanging around the town centre by someone who knew they were supposed to be isolating.

I understand their parents received a large fine. (£1,000 local gossip tells us).

My dd is isolating at the moment and we are going for short daily walks in the hills behind our house (we live in a rural area). We haven't seen a soul and, if we did, we could keep hundreds of metres apart. I know this seem unfair when some families don't have the same option but I'm completely confident that we pose no risk to anyone.

@Decemberblues1 of course you don't pose a risk but people have lost all sense of reality on this thread and will be along to tell you in a minute that because of people like you lockdown will never end. Ignore them. It's bizarre

Yes @Decemberblues1 apparently now the virus can spread outdoors at great distances!

Not the close contact indoors for more than 15 minutes that every piece of scientific evidence shows.

It is most definitely down to all these walks in the fresh air, near to nobody, that we will stay in lockdown forever...

My DD's best friend (17) is isolating in his room. Food being left outside the door. Separate bathroom. He's not going anywhere in the rest of the house. On day 3 of 14. He was sent home from college because 4 others have positive test. He has no symptoms. That's tough...

@Caroncarona

Is the lesson you want to teach your DD "if other people are being irresponsible then it's OK for me to be irresponsible too" and "I'm a mug if I don't break the law because other people are breaking the law"? Really?

I think the lesson my DC are already learning is that no one else gives a shit. And yes really if it continues, then we will cease to give a shit too. Just to clarify the position for you.

Aaaand this is why we are in lockdown no. 2.

Well done, Caroncarona. Sterling parenting, there.

Well done, Caroncarona. Sterling parenting, there

Bore off

If you admit in public to teaching your kids that it's perfectly OK to be irresponsible, because other people are being irresponsible, then you can expect sensible people to point out what a dodgy parenting move it is, Caroncarona.

@Chelsea567

My DD's best friend (17) is isolating in his room. Food being left outside the door. Separate bathroom. He's not going anywhere in the rest of the house. On day 3 of 14. He was sent home from college because 4 others have positive test. He has no symptoms. That's tough...

That's bleak. And assuming that he's not actually Covid positive, totally unnecessary. That poor lad.

And before anyone says it, it's not necessarily 'just two weeks'. I know of people who've isolated, gone back to school for two days and had to isolate again. That pattern could go on repeatedly.

If you admit in public to teaching your kids that it's perfectly OK to be irresponsible, because other people are being irresponsible, then you can expect sensible people to point out what a dodgy parenting move it is, Caroncarona

I haven't taught my children that. And I haven't said I have taught my kids that either. What I did say is that it's obvious to my children that other people don't give a shit. And I wonder why we bothered. And if people are going to stop isolating, then there is no point in doing it either. Because there isn't.

But you do you. I don't really care that much about the opinion of someone who can't be bothered to read what I actually said. And I'm not interested in your opinion on me, my thoughts or my parenting skills.

Hope this helps.

My children haven’t been the slightest, even the tiniest bit anxious about covid. They are 10 and 7.
Why? Because any concerns I have (and mine are most definitely pitched towards impact on economy and mental health rather than Covid itself) I have not shared with them.

At these ages... I want their whole world to be about school, friends, sport, playing, tv shows they like, what are their favourite sweets, best trees to climbs, favourite books, treat dinners, Christmas build up etc.

If my child was sent home from school due to another child or teacher testing positive, I would absolutely take them out during the isolation period. Not to a supermarket etc. But I would take them out at a quiet time if day of a wonderful run around local woods.

And if they grasped that this was contravening gov guidelines, I wouldn’t lie.
I would say that it is but that I have weighed up the risks of us having a walk through isolated woods and I think it is sensible for our physical well being. And a good dash of fun.

It’s simply not about blindly accepting the rules.
I blindly accept the law re drink driving for example. NOT because the law tells me to. But because I think it’s utterly reckless to drive whilst under the influence.

'a good dash of fun' @Jroseforever

Yes - fun, happiness, a sense of proportion (and walking in the fresh air): we need all of these for good mental health. It's not enough to say 'there's an exemption if your child has poor mental health'. Most of us are simply trying to stop our children developing poor mental health in the first place. If I wanted a recipe for screwing up my teenager, then leaving them in their room for 14 days, repeatedly, would be perfect.

@IfYouCantSeeMyMirrors

Are you agreeing with me? Sorry not entirely clear

You are supposed to keep them in but going for a walk in the country away from others would not endanger anybody.

Unless your child trips and breaks a bone. Yes I know they can do this indoors but it's not as likely.

I know it's shit but one thing, out homes are designed for people to be in them. My friend showed me a quick film of her 4 year old nephew who lives n Spain, in a smallish flat, with a view of the pool. This was the initial lockdown

@Jroseforever - I am 100% agreeing with you (sorry not to have been more clear)!

@sashh But why does that mean that other children should do the same? I don't think many people think that Spain's approach was something to be applauded or copied.

Spain’s approach was definitely not something to be applauded or copied. I thought it was so awful and cruel to keep children inside for so long. Many in flats. No evidence to back it up as necessary either.

My kids have had more accidents messing about in our garden than going on a supervised walk with an adult. Let’s ban them from the garden, keep them in their rooms in case they fall down the stairs (more likely then tripping on a walk again)

@Jroseforever wow a run around the woods seems like such fun. It would however be a pity if your neighbour whose child had been shielding for months thought what harm can it do taking child for a run around the woods not expecting to see someone who could be incubating a. Virus which could kill them. A perfectly legal run for the shilder of course unlike....
.They than collide with said child and fall to ground in a heap. Far fetched I know but possible.

My friends son is shielding as has one lung and other major major health issues but even during the first lockdown she’s been taking him out daily to exercise in remote places.

The risk is so minimal, yet the health risks of staying home for 4 Months must be more significant than walking/biking/scooting around the middle of nowhere.

Yes! My DS6 was sent home on Monday as a child in his class tested positive. He has not been past the front door since. We live in a first floor flat so he's not had a garden to play in. He's fine!! Lots of school work, some Joe Wicks workouts and some time on his iPad. He's having a ball!!

@Northernsoulgirl45 well yes extremely far fetched and catatrophising (spelling?) does it help anyone thinking like this? I'd say it's verging on the unhealthy along the lines of I am staying indoors during the Summer as I might get stung by a bee and die. If someone said that to you would you think they were thinking rationally?