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What's your biggest loss?

47 replies

1stV45 · 31/10/2020 22:45

I'm a teacher so in the very privileged position that I don't have any financial concerns as a result of this, therefore my concerns are, I acknowledge, very minor....but:

  • I am absolutely gutted my running club will have to close, especially as running round the streets in the dark on your own was is not nearly as nice as running in the woods on warm light evenings in the last lockdown was.
  • I had a haircut booked for 7 Nov Grin
OP posts:
MarcelineMissouri · 31/10/2020 22:47

Swimming for me, and tennis and swimming lessons for dc.

Dh job is quite insecure but the new lockdown doesn’t really change anything so it’s not new!!

Dancingalong · 31/10/2020 22:48

The gym. DH and I go most days, I’m really going to miss it especially with darker nights and the weather changing 😏

JacobReesMogadishu · 31/10/2020 22:48

The gym for sure.

Redbirds · 31/10/2020 22:48

Surgery (most likely) being postponed even further for my elderly relative who is in a great deal of pain and going down hill.

AlexaShutUp · 31/10/2020 22:49

Job hunting at the moment, so that's my biggest concern. Looking for wfh jobs though, as that seems the safest option right now!

I've been being very careful anyway otherwise, as I'm in a vulnerable category, so the lockdown itself won't have a major impact on me.

Miloarmadillo2 · 31/10/2020 22:50

I had planned to see my best friend and go toboganning for my birthday, now another lockdown non-event. We had so many plans for 2020 including 'holiday of a lifetime' and they have all been cancelled. Can't even moan, as I know so many are worse off. It is shit.

catsjammies · 31/10/2020 22:51

Travelling to my home country is almost impossible. I haven't seen my Mum in a year, my sister and brother in almost 2, and no end in sight for us 😒

EyelinerRocks · 31/10/2020 22:53

Not being able to just go to family’s house and sit on the couch with a cuppa whilst kids play on the floor or upstairs.absolutely nothing to do with them on cold wet stormy days.

12frogsincoats · 31/10/2020 22:53

The gym. My mental health will not survive this.

Toontown · 31/10/2020 22:53

My business I spent 11 years building had been destroyed. I will miss playing sport and seeing my parents and friends. I miss not having to think about this thing. Also DP currently has covid so I'm worried I will get it again and that he won't get better.

Nodney · 31/10/2020 22:57

My husband and I have had a business for the past eighteen years and haven't had a single order since April. We are not being forced to close by the government but our industry has completely stopped. For how long I don't know. We are afraid for the future

PatchworkElmer · 31/10/2020 23:00

DS’s birthday.

Also running club!

ohthegoats · 31/10/2020 23:02

Swimming at the gym on the way to work.

My parents have an endless pool in their garage, but it's 40 minutes drive away.

NameChange84 · 31/10/2020 23:02

I think this will most likely mean no biological children for me. I’d really planned to invest time into dating this year and try online for the first time but had to shield. I turn 37 in a few months and can see no end in sight. My job situation has become more precarious too so it looks like adopting as a single person is also no longer on the cards either as you need to be able to afford to take a year’s adoption leave. I wanted to be a mother more than anything so it’s a tough blow.

Teaseall · 31/10/2020 23:03

I lost a very good friend in April, I lost a (what I thought was) a good friendship afterwards and I've lost my job with no financial support since March (was self-employed).

I have just had to sign up for universal credit for the first time ever which is rather depressing.

I am currently rapidly losing what's left of my waistline too Halloween Confused

AnnieMaul · 31/10/2020 23:08

My business also. Built it from the ground up straight out of university and it's all i've ever known. I run it with my husband and it's provided us both with a full time income for the last decade. We've paid god knows how much in tax and yet were getting diddly squat from the Government even though our industry has been all but closed since March. We're now at the verge of collapse having used all our savings and business reserves to get by.

With no references because we've always been self employed, we're hardly top pick for jobs. If I have to hear that i'm over qualified one more time i'll scream. With the uncertainty around early next year new clients are no longer booking and existing clients are looking to cancel or put their bookings on hold. It's lose/lose at the minute.

nancy75 · 31/10/2020 23:09

Dp is Australian - due to go this Christmas to see his parents (his father is elderly & not in the best health) obviously we won’t be going at Xmas & we have the very real worry that dp may not see his dad again as it looks like travel to Aus is off the cards for quite some time.

pinkprosseco · 31/10/2020 23:16

Name change84 ThanksThanks

ForBlueSkies · 31/10/2020 23:16

@nancy75

Dp is Australian - due to go this Christmas to see his parents (his father is elderly & not in the best health) obviously we won’t be going at Xmas & we have the very real worry that dp may not see his dad again as it looks like travel to Aus is off the cards for quite some time.
I’m in the same position. My mother is terminally ill, getting into Australia at the moment is an extremely difficult, expensive exercise .
DappledOliveGroves · 31/10/2020 23:18

My daughter lives in Australia so it's looking as though I won't see her for another 2 years or so abs haven't seen her since March this year. Which breaks my heart. Though at least she's in Sydney and in a better place than this god forsaken island.

Coasterfan · 31/10/2020 23:19

Theme parks. Normally the season would be ending now anyway but many had extended to the end of November to make up for not opening until July. We were looking forward to some extra weeks. Not a big thing on the scale of things and certainly not essential but they are great for bonding with my almost teens and for my mental health.

ScrummyDiva2 · 31/10/2020 23:21

My mother is terminally ill too, in a different country. I can't get to see her and can't spend her last months doing the little things that she wanted to do. Even a meal out with her would be lovely!

Ideasplease322 · 31/10/2020 23:22

The amazing local businesses and services that I use that are going. Out of business.

My ironing service and favourite restaurant have both shut permanently. It’s heartbreaking for them - years of hard work gone.

Gertie75 · 31/10/2020 23:23

My best friend of over 30 years comes round every week for an evening, we can still go for a dog walk together but it's not the same as sitting on the sofa with a drink having a good chat.
She's had some extremely stressful times this year and really struggled and she's said many times that our evenings together have been the only thing keeping her sane.

OnMyWayToLivingMyBestLife · 31/10/2020 23:30

The gym without doubt. I suffered horrendously from anxiety and panic attacks, and also have a very painful chronic back issue which only improved through building up the muscles in my back so being a gym bunny literally changed my life and I feel like shit if I can’t go.

I count myself lucky though. People losing their livelihoods, waiting for medical treatment and the ones currently in hospital and/or dying from CV are much more worse off Sad.

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