What's your biggest loss?

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I'm a teacher so in the very privileged position that I don't have any financial concerns as a result of this, therefore my concerns are, I acknowledge, very minor....but:

• I am absolutely gutted my running club will have to close, especially as running round the streets in the dark on your own was is not nearly as nice as running in the woods on warm light evenings in the last lockdown was.

• I had a haircut booked for 7 Nov

I lost my lovely uncle in May and a cousin to Covid, and as silly as it sounds I was also sad my daughter had no Prom. They were all really looking forward to it.

My daughters dance classes which she does 4 nights a week. She hates school and lives for dancing. I appreciate this sounds so trivial compared to what lots of people are going through however her mental health dancing is so important

NameChange84 you might find this interesting www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/oct/31/i-wanted-to-meet-a-mate-and-have-a-baby-without-wasting-time-the-rise-of-platonic-co-parenting

I can’t go and see my sister who was diagnosed with cancer( delayed due to the last lockdown) and has been very ill. I haven’t seen her for nearly three years and had planned to go this summer but that couldn’t happen and I am not sure if I will see her again. It is a five hour drive and she is in the north of Scotland. I feel so sad I can’t go and look after her. I have just give up my job because of Covid as I have asthma and an erratic immune system and high bp.

I feel for those of you trying to get back to Australia my mum was there but died suddenly I was seven weeks off seeing her again. I went every year for 8 years. My daughter is travelling and in NZ and can’t get home or even to Australia where she could be with her Aunty luckily her partner is with her. At least she is safe but they have run out of money because they can’t work. Recently they have worked for the food and a room on a small holding.

@NameChange84

many people adopt in their 40s. I’m a single adopter, my son came home when I was 47. I had to wait a few years to get my finances in the right place.
Its not too late if that’s what you want to do

My daughters dance classes which she does 4 nights a week. She hates school and lives for dancing. I appreciate this sounds so trivial compared to what lots of people are going through however her mental health dancing is so important

It doesn't sound trivial. Not to me, anyway. My daughter's the same and I'm grieving for what's she's lost - potentially for much longer than just 4 weeks.

I hadn't felt this before - but suddenly I feel like our kids childhood's are being lost and screwed up.

Things for preschoolers (zoo, farm, forest school). Back to having no social interactions and no where to visit or see.

Baby groups 🤦🏻‍♀️ Was all I did and looked forward to each day tbh so now I’m stuck for a month with shocking mental health trying to cope with a teething 5 month old on my own at home, gonna be hard I’m very sad 😔

Devastating for children, really it is.

More what my family has lost really. Ds2 lost his First job and his first flat in London and is now looking for a new job in a dreadful market.
Dd has lost the enjoyment of her last year at uni and the chance to do a project she was really looking forward to.
My mum died last week having lost the last 6 months of her chance to do all the things she loved doing.

This sounds odd - but time off for a proper break, even if we just stay at home.

Just generally feeling connected to my family and friends. It's tough being the only grown up in a household. Id love it if my sister could come and stay overnight but we're both in areas that have been locked down for ages anyway so I'm feeling really cut off from her and everyone else. Still, I really could be a lot worse off so I'm grateful for the positives in my situation.

For me it’s swimming. I have knee problems and my GP has advised against running. I need something a bit more strenuous than walking.

I’m not sure what happening with DS’s football, whether they’ll be allowed to continue. Hopefully hear from the coach in the week.

I’m hoping I haven’t misunderstood but I’m glad they’re allowing meeting one person from another household - DS regularly meets one friend in the park at the weekend for a kick about so hoping that can continue for him.

I’m relieved they’ve kept the playgrounds open for DD.

@FAQs. I don’t think you sound silly. My DS left primary school in the summer and he and his friends missed out on so much. He’s getting on alright in his new school but I do feel as though they were robbed.

Oh these are awful; my heart goes out to all of you.

I'm still teaching. We're very lucky. My only thing is that I miss my brass band terribly. There's a whole community of bands out there and lots are in danger of not being able to start again through players just not coming back. I want to play carols in the cold dammit!

I'm moving to London next summer and in the process of selling. I'm supposed to complete on one property in early December. Will my tenant move out? He's awful, not paid rent for months (nothing to do with covid) and is supposed to move out soon but can see him using lock down as an excuse. I've lost thousands of pounds in income, from him and other tenants. I've given two tenants up to 50% discount during last lockdown but just can't afford to do that again.

No financial loss but our wedding was due to be in June 20

Weekend museum visits. We're in London and had already booked up a couple of visits in November to the Natural History Museum and Science Museum (you needed to book them weeks in advance). All free but it was lovely to have interesting days out to look forward to, as a family. Now we'll probably plan to do different park walks every weekend, but it won't be as fun in the cold and wet weather.

@NameChange84

I think this will most likely mean no biological children for me. I’d really planned to invest time into dating this year and try online for the first time but had to shield. I turn 37 in a few months and can see no end in sight. My job situation has become more precarious too so it looks like adopting as a single person is also no longer on the cards either as you need to be able to afford to take a year’s adoption leave. I wanted to be a mother more than anything so it’s a tough blow.

Absolutely don't give up if it's what you want. At your age I was in no position financially to adopt, but I've now been a parent for 2 years. Your age isn't a barrier the way it would be with a biological child, so you've got time to assess your lifestyle & career and make it work for you (speaking as a single adopter on less than any average UK income you choose!). If you'd like to talk through your situation, the Adoption board is a lovely place full of genuine and helpful people x

Swimming,I go everyday,it’s vital for my physical and mental health.

Surgery. The surgeon in Ireland is refusing to do another operation on me. And I don't think he has the necessary skills in any case. So I will have to go to the UK to for it. And pay to have it done in a private hospital. But unfortunately I know that because of Covid 19 the waiting lists on the NHS and in private hospitals are over a year long at this stage. Meanwhile more and more end stage organ damage is occurring in me.

@Bowerbird5 if you’re not working why can’t you go now before lockdown to care for your sister and just stay there? As far as I am aware that is allowed under the caring role exceptions.

After 5 years I finally got a job. Started mid March and laid off 2 weeks later. We were so optimistic that this year would be great. We could fix some stuff and take a holiday, relax a little. H is off to another state soon for work, no choice, another 2 years of juggling life with the D.C. alone