Supporting DD with new baby

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My DD is due to give birth to her first child next week. The plan was I would move in with them for a while to help out. Her DH works long hours and won't have much time off. Anyone know if this would be okay with the new restrictions? Does it count as child care or caring for a vulnerable person? DD doesn't need any more stress, having a baby during a pandemic is bad enough. She's really upset.

Thanks for posting that 'Christmas', it's very reassuring. DD had a sweep on Tuesday. This morning she's texted to say braxton hicks are quite regular so it looks like things are starting to happen! She has another sweep arranged later today.

Why isn't her DH taking paternity leave? I can think of very few jobs in which you can't take time off, farming maybe (if you don't have people who can cover) or the armed forces or an oil rig.. but surely most other jobs allow time for annual leave etc?

I still think you should go ahead with your plan to stay and help her, whether he's around or not, but it seems pretty bad that he won't be around much at all after the birth of his child

He's self employed. There are many advantages to being self employed but it does make time off a luxury. Don't work, don't earn, simple as that really. Son in law is taking 2 weeks off, which is 2 weeks more than my DH did 😄

The way you worded it made it sound as if he wasn't taking any time off, 2 weeks is good (well, it's standard).

Incidentally my self employed DH took 1 month off but we are fortunate that he earns enough to be able to take time off when he wants (within reason), I realise not everyone is in that position.

OP even if it wasn’t allowed in the rules nothing bad would happen. If a neighbour went to the extent of ringing the police there’s no way they would stop you caring for your vulnerable daughter.

It’s a difficult time but you need to do what’s best for your family.

How lovely that your DD has you. I hope she realises how lucky she is.
I have a 5 year old and a 6 week old and it's tough. Tbf nothing to do with the pandemic though because my family aren't the best support anyway. I do miss groups and going for a coffee though.

@Treaclepie19

How lovely that your DD has you. I hope she realises how lucky she is. I have a 5 year old and a 6 week old and it's tough. Tbf nothing to do with the pandemic though because my family aren't the best support anyway. I do miss groups and going for a coffee though.

Thank you Treaclepie, I'm sorry you're finding things tough at the moment. I hope you have a supportive partner to cherish you and your little ones. Hopefully we will come out of lockdown early December and you can meet friends again for coffee.

My daughter has gone into labour this evening and they are now on their way to hospital! I'm so stressed. She may be 30, but she's still my baby, and I just want her and the baby to be okay. I won't sleep tonight.

Someone a few doors down from me had a baby during the height of the first lockdown. I live somewhere where people were very keen to obey the rules, and yet no one thought twice about the fact that her mum was staying with her after the baby arrived. The law says, "reasonable", and looking after your daughter when she's just had a baby is about as reasonable as you get. All the best to you and her.